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[mike]

OK I have been with this girl for a year and a half. We have a very good relationship and everything is really great. We both love each other very much and have even been talking about marriage. I just have one curious question that I have just been wondering about. Maybe one of you all can help me understand why she does this. She is always suggesting ways to change my looks. She is always telling me things like "I think you need to do this with your hair" or "i like it better if you wear this, this way". I don't care to change my looks to whatever she likes best, but im just curious to why she does this. I know for a fact that she IS physically attracted to me. When we first met, all she would talk about is how cute i am and how much she can't believe that Im attracted to her. Does anyone have an oppinion on why she does this?

[Alex]

I am sure that she is still attracted to you, but sometimes, women want something new and different. If she can get new and different as well as old and comfortable, she will have the best of both worlds. In another sense, women like to feel as if they good taste and sense of style, and they enjoy trying to exercise it every once in a while. She wants to make her mark on you, to see some physical, tangible result of her effect on you. After all, most men wear the cologne that their SO wears, rather than one that they prefer themselves.

 

Alex

[Brooke]

OK I have been with this girl for a year and a half. We have a very good relationship and everything is really great. We both love each other very much and have even been talking about marriage. I just have one curious question that I have just been wondering about. Maybe one of you all can help me understand why she does this. She is always suggesting ways to change my looks. She is always telling me things like "I think you need to do this with your hair" or "i like it better if you wear this, this way". I don't care to change my looks to whatever she likes best, but im just curious to why she does this. I know for a fact that she IS physically attracted to me. When we first met, all she would talk about is how cute i am and how much she can't believe that Im attracted to her. Does anyone have an oppinion on why she does this?

When will women realize they can not change a man. And why do so many of us want to change what we fell inlove with from the beginning. Personally I believe you should be yourself. What a boring world it would be if we all looked the same, dressed the same, and had the same interests.

[Cheryl]

Hey Mike,

 

Here is some advice to help you I think. She is not trying to change you to be someone else. She just sees little things that she thinks might, in her eyes, make you even more attractive. She is not trying to make you insecure, she is just sprucing you up. I used to do it and at first, like you, he was confused and dug his feet in. Funny thing happened though. When we broke up, he changed everything I had asked him to. Not only did he look 50% better, he felt better about himself. Take heart.

OK I have been with this girl for a year and a half. We have a very good relationship and everything is really great. We both love each other very much and have even been talking about marriage. I just have one curious question that I have just been wondering about. Maybe one of you all can help me understand why she does this. She is always suggesting ways to change my looks. She is always telling me things like "I think you need to do this with your hair" or "i like it better if you wear this, this way". I don't care to change my looks to whatever she likes best, but im just curious to why she does this. I know for a fact that she IS physically attracted to me. When we first met, all she would talk about is how cute i am and how much she can't believe that Im attracted to her. Does anyone have an oppinion on why she does this?