For girls: Do/Did you miss your ex u dumped in a new relationship?

[Justmike101]

Lets say you dumped someone. 3 months later you found a new person and jumped into another relationship. Would you really be over the pain and the person from the previous relationship? Or would you still miss your ex even with your new boyfriend? (assuming that there was no abuse or drug involved. just simply changing ur mind about the ex)

[Truly Lost]

Well, considering that breaking up with someone is really difficult, I would hope that if I was the one who ended the relationship that I had thought it through pretty thouroughly before letting my partner know of my decision. There could be any number of reasons you and your ex broke up. Whatever the reason, it obviously led to one of you being unhappy in some way.

 

If I got involved with someone else, of course, I would think of the last person I was with because the new person I'm with is different and well can be akward. Comfort means to be familiar with something. Thinking about my ex will fade. Not saying I would forget about the person, but I would think about them less and less, till they become just someone that might pop in my head from time to time. Its called moving on after all.

 

Quite often I wonder to myself if my ex is thinking about me, and I'm sure he is, but it doesn't really matter. We aren't together. I've decided, even though its only been a month and a half since the ex and I split, I'm going to start dating again. I'm tired of being sad and lonely. Coming home from work and sitting on the couch by myself watching tv with a microwave dinner.

 

So, now I've got a date this Friday!!!

[Goatsbreath]

So, where did you come across this date Truly Lost.....just curious. I do not meet people so easy I guess and Im now 33 with no prospects at work at all.

[lofi_tokyo]

If you're the DUMPER and get into a relationship 3 months AFTER the breakup, I think it is entirely possible you are OVER your ex.

 

You may miss them from time to time - I miss lots of people I've had to say goodbye to... but if they dumped you, chances are the dumper already was moving out of the relationship before the dumping occurred. 3 months in my opinion is plenty of time to move on to a new person.

 

One of my bestfriends dumped her boyfriend of two years and while she was a complete wreak for a solid month and a half, she was perfectly fine dating by the three month mark.

 

At that point, she was not longing for her ex, it seemed as though when she did think of him, it was more out of regret that things ended so horribly.

[Truly Lost]

So, where did you come across this date Truly Lost.....just curious. I do not meet people so easy I guess and Im now 33 with no prospects at work at all.

 

I met this person on a dating website. I know it sounds creepy to date someone that you met online, but I haven't had much success with people I met through friends or at a bar, etc, either. At least at a website you can get a good idea of who you are about to meet before you meet them. Dating websites are a stress free portal into meeting people who are looking for a relationship too. I'm 34 and have never been married and I'd like to find someone to live my life with before I'm 40. I'm not going to find someone by sitting around and doing nothing. Yeah, I still have a broken heart, but my ex was really no good for me, so I'm going to go out and find someone new.

 

Finding someone to date on a website is pretty common nowadays and who knows, it might eventually become one of the only ways to meet someone (who is good for you, that is). I do know there are a lot of creepy people out there, but with everything else in life, its a risk I'm willing to take.

[SushiX]

My ex dumped me after 3 years. I found out she was cheating on me with another guy for 1 month already. Says she didn't have to heart to tell me she was talking/sleeping with another guy. Ughh. Whatever.

 

She acts like we never went out. It's shocking to me. Guess some people can move on so fast. Thats just sad...But I thank her for cutting it cold like that though. It helped me move on that much quicker and now I'm single and much happier than when I was with her.

 

To answer your question: No, you'll probably not think of your ex because you'll be too busy with your new relationship. Feelings fade quickly.