Author OCCDAVE Posted February 14, 2009 Author Share Posted February 14, 2009 Oh cripe - how do you feel? This girl seems to love messing with your mind! She says just enough to get you on the hook...I don't know how to feel I just know she's messing with me Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 I don't know how to feel I just know she's messing with me That's what I was talking about before- it's about taking what you KNOW to be true- what you know is bad behaviour- what you KNOW is just plain bad for you, and focusing on that- trying to seperate that logic from your emotion. I don't doubt for a second that you still love her- and you know you're not alone loving someone that simply isn't right for you. She is messing with you right now. You have to seperate yourself from this situation, and quickly. You're going to get drawn in otherwise. You do have a choice here, and you have many options... The hardest thing I have had to do when I've loved a toxic person is cut them off. I just did it again recently- and it's hard. But if it's never going to work out- and that is incredibly evident.... You have to make a good choice for yourself and put them squarely behind you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 14, 2009 Author Share Posted February 14, 2009 That's what I was talking about before- it's about taking what you KNOW to be true- what you know is bad behaviour- what you KNOW is just plain bad for you, and focusing on that- trying to seperate that logic from your emotion. I don't doubt for a second that you still love her- and you know you're not alone loving someone that simply isn't right for you. She is messing with you right now. You have to seperate yourself from this situation, and quickly. You're going to get drawn in otherwise. You do have a choice here, and you have many options... The hardest thing I have had to do when I've loved a toxic person is cut them off. I just did it again recently- and it's hard. But if it's never going to work out- and that is incredibly evident.... You have to make a good choice for yourself and put them squarely behind you.You pretty much summed it all up.Like you said it will never work and going back will only be setting myself up for a downfall a few weeks or a month if it gets that far.It sucks caring for someone who has treated you like crap sigh. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 14, 2009 Author Share Posted February 14, 2009 Another thing that sucks she kept pulling me back when i was kissing her and told me it wasnt an empty kiss?Then today im at work she text me i broke off things with this new guy so its very confusing but like ive said i cant trust her and seem to forget about her grrrrr. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 Sucks and it hurts. if you get back together with her WILL it change. WILL it change. Ask the expert, which is you. If the answer is NO. What should you be doing right now. What would you do if a dude was treating me like crap in the same way and I asked for your advice...what would you tell me. That's the advice you should be heeding at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 oh man, you are going to break, I can see it in your words. Somebody get in here and help the guy out. Haha, dude, you know as well as everyone else where this goes if you chose to play along. Fast forward a month or two or even just a few weeks and then shes telling you shes not sure what she wants. Then shes either with the other dude again or shes clinging on to some new guy. Its tempting though ha, I bet your thinking maybe you should have sex with her and then you remember, shes been with someone else. Don't let her get to close man cuz shes like a vampire. She thought she sucked you dry and you were pathetic and limp and now that you she sees you are standing shes back. good luck man Link to post Share on other sites
Joker77 Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 Dude, Do not go back. You will hate yourself in the end. This chick isn't being validated by the current douchebag she is dating so she's going back to the person she feels will validate her. Don't give her the pleasure. I kind of would like to be in your shoes though with my ex....just to tell her that she made her freaking bed...now lay in it. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 So she's sleeping with a guy who's sleeping with his ex and she doesn't care? What a CATCH man!!!! GO FOR IT!!! Kidding. She's not good for you or anyone else. Let her wallow in her own self destruction. She only wants you to confirm she is wanted because the guy she is with only wants her for sex. She's filling an EMOTIONAL need with you while she gets her PHYSICAL needs met by someone else. Totally unfair to you. MOVE ON. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 14, 2009 Author Share Posted February 14, 2009 She contacted me once again last night saying Im bored what you doing I ignored her from this moment on back to nc cause if I keep replying she will try to bait me back in.in my defense when I did kiss her I felt nothing much from her.I will also say the way she was kissing and where her hands were feeling thank god we weren't inside I know we would have had sex.she's good though cause now she has me dwelling and thinking things over.I have gotten this far I can't and won't go back to that.I think I have learned this from my time on these boards and that is this.if you do nc more then likely they will notice what a mistake they made and maybe even come crawling back.I did cave and go with the kiss but in my defense never told her I miss her or love her.sigh Link to post Share on other sites
redmelon Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 I agree with whoever said that she is looking for validation that she isn't getting from anyone else AT THE MOMENT. After all she has done, think how twisted it is that she's looking for it from you. She is weak and you HAVE TO BE STRONG. When you find yourself dwelling on the past, remember it's just that, THE PAST. Stay in the facts of right now and take a good look at who she is, hopefully that's all you need to do to see that being with her is a first class ticket to **** town. Hang in there! Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 14, 2009 Author Share Posted February 14, 2009 Not to back track and change topic but is it really that hard to get back together with an ex.what I mean like say u didn't work out for whatever reason and the dumper feels guilty and wants to fix things .I was just curious if second chances can be better or no Ill continue to be strong she's still texting me im ignoring her Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 Quit being a chump OCDave. Either block her number or change your number. Why in the heck would YOU ALLOW a woman to continue to pull your strings like this after the breakup ? YOU are in control of how this plays out.. Not her.. How are you going to play it out ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 14, 2009 Author Share Posted February 14, 2009 I will keep moving ahead and ignore her.like everyone has told me she's no good and nothing good will come of this. Link to post Share on other sites
Goatsbreath Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 Not to back track and change topic but is it really that hard to get back together with an ex.what I mean like say u didn't work out for whatever reason and the dumper feels guilty and wants to fix things .I was just curious if second chances can be better or no Ill continue to be strong she's still texting me im ignoring her If you want her back you cant just take her back and everything goes back to the way it was. It can never go back to what it was. The only thing that can happen is that it can turn into something different but I would not trust her. If you are planning to let her in then don't do it to fast. In fact if you find yourself unable to keep away whatever you do, don't let her have what she wants. Things have to be on your terms. If you keep contact you have to be indifferent to the relationship part otherwise she will get what she wants to easy. Blow her off 6 out of 7 days a week. I actually dont know what Im talking about. I hope you just say seeya. Good luck man Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 14, 2009 Author Share Posted February 14, 2009 I can't and won't take her back she has hurt me bad enough.she can keep texting me ill act like she doesn't exist which is a bit tougher after what happen the other day but its needed to heal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 15, 2009 Author Share Posted February 15, 2009 Grrr now she text me saying have a good valentines day.I said u to and she replied I will im out with a great guy I met lol.this girl loves mind games then again maybe she's just that easy. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Grrr now she text me saying have a good valentines day.I said u to and she replied I will im out with a great guy I met lol.this girl loves mind games then again maybe she's just that easy. She's just easy to read. She has mental problems. She's punishing you because she told you she dumped the other guy and you haven't gone running back to her again. Guess what? She's not out with anyone- she's sitting at home doing nothing. These antics? She's not only messed up- she's got a mean streak. Don't answer at all- no returning texts. Block her number so you don't get the texts in the first place. She's totally messing with you. How old is this woman? She sounds like she is a teenager. Link to post Share on other sites
hunkahunkaburninlove Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Don't you have any way to block her phone, so she can't keep doing this to you? Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Don't you have any way to block her phone, so she can't keep doing this to you? You can block numbers on the phone- you just have to WANT to do it. Not sure he's ready yet to blcok and delete this woman from his life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 15, 2009 Author Share Posted February 15, 2009 I know she's sitting at home lol anyway she's 24 and has 2 kids.the part that also burns in this I went to get my stuff the other day and the kids seemed to miss me a lot.I am still angry I raised these kids I didn't mind if they weren't mine I loved them as if they were.she is very immature and needs to grow up or she will just settle .the other part that bugs me she will have guys coming and going if she doesn't shape up im sure the kids will take to that ugh. Link to post Share on other sites
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