carman15 Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 Hello i just need some advice on my situation I really like this girl at my school, and she thinks that im not going to this dance. I surprise her by going to dance and telling her im her secret admirer. She seems all happy in stuff The next day we had to write something that we care about and talk about, the one that i like says "that i have finally found someone that cares about me" Cool! OK.... next day, i want to get her a present for her birthday, but then she sends me a letter saying she cant accept a gift because its her chinese tradition, so i make her card that says a present is materialistic while a gift is something to cherish, the gift i want to give her is an oragami rose covered with words that describe her, i will give it to her on tuesday Am i doing the right thing:love: Link to post Share on other sites
Charles1978 Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 All depends on how well you know her. If this is a girl that you really don't know, you've made a couple mistakes. But we'd need to know more background. Link to post Share on other sites
Author carman15 Posted February 15, 2009 Author Share Posted February 15, 2009 I do know her pretty well actually, alot of my classes are with her Please help! Link to post Share on other sites
Author carman15 Posted February 16, 2009 Author Share Posted February 16, 2009 Hello?? Really need help here..... Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Accept and respect her words and her cultural traditions. What part of "I can't accept a gift due to my traditions" is so difficult for you to accept? It does NOT matter what interpretations YOU want to use, or how YOU distinguish "presents" from "gifts" (they are, at the end of everything, the SAME thing), or what YOU think will be an "okay gift" to give. Just wish her a happy birthday, and ask if there is some other way that you two might be able to celebrate her birthday (maybe going for a walk, or whatever), and ask if there is some other occasion on which it would be appropriate for you to give her a present-gift. Even when the answer isn't what YOU want to hear, it is respectful to accept the answer that is given, anyway. I'm guessing that you KNEW that, already...(so) don't blow things for yourself by forgetting what you know about good manners and how to co-exist with differences of cultures or personal preferences! Link to post Share on other sites
Author carman15 Posted February 17, 2009 Author Share Posted February 17, 2009 thank you, tell u the result after tuesday Link to post Share on other sites
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