Feeling like: what's the point of life? How can I be strong again?

[bicyclejunk]

It's hard. I mean i just feel like a bunch of crap isn't going away. anyone else ever feel like stuff just isn't going your way?

 

You're a good person, you give to other people and you try to do the right things in life or you've reaching for that goal of yours in life and it just aint happening.

 

You hate your job, you hate the people you work with, you hate the town you live in,

 

You a male getting older, hitting 30, losing your hair, your girl just broke up with you after 6 years of thinking i was going to ask her to marry me. my dad's hitting the bottle too hard and risking his health and medication. my sister is out making very bad decisions and i'm trying to be there for her.

 

F**K can it get any worse? i mean sure it can. i could be starvin to death like people in Africa or sitting on the corner without a job and a hole in my belly from hunger.

 

I mean i do count my blessings that i'm well, but mentally i just take it....i'm having a hard time trying to get that strong guy back in my body. i'm losing my hair, big deal, i'm still handsome, but it's not that easy for me.

 

I know i probably sound like a whining baby, but does anyone have any ideas for me to get my switch turned back so i can get some stuff done and accept the things i can't change???

[MercyRose]

My sister is absolutely gorgeous, men are crazy about her and she loves a guy with no hair. So don't worry about the hair going

 

About your job. Thats the most simple, change it.

 

If its your career choice, change that, get the education you need. And don't say you can't cos I did it, nearly finishing too

 

About your father you can do nothing...its his life and his decision. Just be there for him if/when he asks for help.

 

Same goes for your sister.

 

But you also need to take care of you.

 

Try and arrange fun things to do for yourself. Get a massage, go soak in a jacuzzi drinking champagne and eating strawberries.

 

You might not be ready for another relationship but if you are go out and meets some girls.

 

Basically the only thing you can do to change your life is to take some action. Or else everything stays the same...

 

Don't feel guilty about whining, some times life is too much for us, but start feeling guilty if you choose to stay in a rut and do nothing to change it.

[EnigmaXOXO]

First, you could cut your stress level in half by not expending so much energy worrying about everyone else. I know it’s easier said than done when it comes to family, but if you're not taking care of number one (yourself) you won't be of much help to anyone else, anyway.

 

Take a temporary furlough from playing family councilor until you’re in a better frame of mind. What your father and sister do, while it may bother you, should not have any influence on how you conduct your life unless you allow it. Let them take responsibility for themselves and be accountable for their own decisions. You have enough on your plate to deal with.

 

Second, if a receding hairline has caused self loathing, then do something about it. I know many men who shave their heads completely and many women who find the look sexy as h*ll. If this is not a look that you feel you’d be comfortable with, then perhaps you could seek consultation with a professional regarding the matter. I know two men who have had restorations and it looks so natural that I wouldn’t have even known if I hadn’t been told.

 

But more importantly, the way you perceive yourself on the outside is more of a reflection of how you’re feeling about yourself on the inside. So let’s focus on the most important person in your life right now --- YOU.

 

What are the things in your life which bring you the most joy? Are you spending enough time pursuing your hobbies or establishing new ones? Are there things you’ve always wanted to try…places you’ve always wanted to go but just didn’t have the time while you were in a relationship?

 

If you had to “re-invent” yourself, what kind of man would you like to be? Adventurous?---Bilingual?---More physically fit? Do you wish you could learn to play guitar, better your education, write a book, travel to another country, or learn to prepare a gourmet meal for that next special lady in your life? Is there a career you would rather be pursuing but need a few college courses under your belt to get there?

 

The world is FULL of opportunity, and our lives are an open book ready to be written and re-written again. Fear and self-doubt are the ONLY obstacles holding us back from becoming who we want to be, and from doing all the things we dream about.

 

Tonight, you should sit down and take some time for yourself. Put together a “wish list” of those things about yourself and your life that you would like to change, and all those things you wish you could be doing if your life were different. Then, start with the most realistic and easiest goal to accomplish…and GO FOR IT. With each new goal you meet, you will become happier, more fulfilled and self-assured. Soon, even the most difficult tasks on your list won’t be a challenge at all. And by doing this, you’ll eventually be just too darn busy to dwell on all the unimportant crap that now seems to be cluttering your life. With a little effort and determination, “Change” will become a welcomed opportunity in your life rather than the inconvenience you perceive it to be now.

 

So…Do you think you can find the courage to give it a try?

 

Be the change you want to see in the world --- Ghandi

[bicyclejunk]

I thank you kindly for all of your words. They have already helped me feel better even though I haven't changed a thing yet.

I appreciate you all very much. Thank You.

[HokeyReligions]

Would you like some cheese with that whine?

 

Hey, we ALL have to whine and vent sometimes -- if we are lucky! How boring if we didn't have any stress in our lives.

 

Yes, action is the best thing to do and your first action was to let it out and post your feelings!

 

Go rent Pollyanna and play the glad game. Fine ONE thing that you like about your job and build on that. I like that i have the freedom to post here during the day, knowing that I may be working quite late because I wait on other people. I had an 11:30 meeting today. It's 1:44 and she hasn't shown up yet!

 

Remember that just as your life seems to be in a downward swing right now - it wasn't always like that and it WON'T ALWAYS be this way. A downward swing comes just before the upward swing!

 

Do some volunteer work where you will be appreciated - the gratification that comes from KNOWING that you are appreciated is wonderful and will help you have a positive outlook.