confused and broken Posted February 14, 2009 Share Posted February 14, 2009 I have just been through the mill when it comes to relationships... And lately my new solutions seems to be work work work and then work some more.... I have two jobs and I seem to take every shift they give me.... I wasn't suppose to work tonight but when I got offered the shift I was excited.... Really excited more work yeah.........Honestly happy... I had no date for Valentines anyways so why not work... I love my jobs and I love my career... But I have worked over 60 hours this week going straight from one job to the next and excited about it... Working helps me avoid the intense sadness I feel about my latest breakup and the heartaches of all my breakups put together.... Just looking for some opinions Link to post Share on other sites
sedgwick Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 It sounds like you love your job(s) and are excited to go to work. You are really lucky to have not one but two jobs you enjoy. If that's what you need to do right now to keep yourself busy, go for it -- and spend the extra money on something fun like travel or fixing up your place or taking a good friend out for a really nice dinner. Even if you're working right now at the expense of having a social life, maybe that's what you need to do. It won't be forever. But working overtime is a lot better than sitting around moping and crying, right? Link to post Share on other sites
wowIlose Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Good for you. Stay productive. I did the same thing for a while though I don't nearly love my jobs enough to do it long term. I did none stop work for about 3 month last year this time - it helped me at the time. Link to post Share on other sites
MalachiX Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 If your work makes you happy and you're not feeling drained then don't worry about it. Some times it's great to work your butt off, make some money, and climb the career ladder. Hell, I often think many of us are driven to succede because of a lack of a social life. We figure, "well, if I'm not doing well in one area, I better overcompensate in another." It's not the best thing to do that your whole life but it's a great way to get to the place you want to be and then start worrying about romance. I know I've never really done a good job balancing work and play. The most productive times of my life where when I had few friends and just obbsessively worked my butt off. Just try to go out for drinks with your co-workers every once in a while so you don't go postal or something... Link to post Share on other sites
wuggle Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Just make sure you take some time out to 'feed the ducks' or other relaxing stuff, working 60 hours a week even if you love it will start to wear you down. Take some 'you' time occasionally . Link to post Share on other sites
Author confused and broken Posted February 16, 2009 Author Share Posted February 16, 2009 Wow im feeling better maybe Im not so crazed after all.... Glad to hear im not alone...im sure its temporary too... It works so well...Im so busy at work I never think about my ex Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Good ... whatever works for you.. better work than alcool or drugs.. no? Link to post Share on other sites
MalachiX Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Can I just add one quick note however: Try to find something validating outside your work. You see, I've also been trying to throw myself into work (filmmaking) but that has it's drawbacks (which I'm experiencing at this moment). When you're work is all you're doing, and something goes wrong, your entire world can come crashing down. I'm trying to finish my latest film and I've just found that the climax of the movie is COMPLETELY falling flat because I screwed up when directing. Despite all the work I put into this sucker for almost a year, it seems it may be all for not if I can't fix this one scene. At this moment I really want to jump off a building because everything in my life has been devoted to this kind of stuff. Work your butt off but try to find a support system for when stuff goes wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
saturnsfall Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 Hi, There was a point where I was so torn up that I worked three jobs. One full time job and two other night jobs. I would go from my day job, to my second shift job and pick up an overnight shift at my other job, then back to my day job. I did this for quite some time, and I think it's one of the main factors in having healed. I will tell you, looking back, I can't believe I ever had the energy to do this. I don't think I could do it again. I had no time for myself; which overall I wasn't interested in having and I wanted nothing to do with going out with friends, etc. Working can be mind numbing, it can allow a person to drift to another place and focus on work and nothing else because you become so consumed with work. You will, eventually, break away and start finding time for your life again. The time line is different for everyone, but one day you won't work both jobs, you'll only work one, you'll find you don't pick up the extra shift, and you'll be happy to get home when the sun is still out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confused and broken Posted February 20, 2009 Author Share Posted February 20, 2009 Hi, There was a point where I was so torn up that I worked three jobs. One full time job and two other night jobs. I would go from my day job, to my second shift job and pick up an overnight shift at my other job, then back to my day job. I did this for quite some time, and I think it's one of the main factors in having healed. I will tell you, looking back, I can't believe I ever had the energy to do this. I don't think I could do it again. I had no time for myself; which overall I wasn't interested in having and I wanted nothing to do with going out with friends, etc. Working can be mind numbing, it can allow a person to drift to another place and focus on work and nothing else because you become so consumed with work. You will, eventually, break away and start finding time for your life again. The time line is different for everyone, but one day you won't work both jobs, you'll only work one, you'll find you don't pick up the extra shift, and you'll be happy to get home when the sun is still out. Interesting Im really glad I made this post because it is so nice to hear that I am not alone... What you are describing is exactly where my life is... And it really does work My body is really sore though from being at a desk too long So I am going to take 2 days off and exercise and stretch and already Im thinking about cutting back a bit to balance my life Not my social life yet But my health Link to post Share on other sites
EmperorR Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 I did the same thing, and to add I hated takin vacations because I would be home alone and then my thought process would be negative, I won't lie worked help me alot, got my mind off stuff etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Butterfly01 Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 I've been doing this too -- work has been my escape, the one place I'm so busy that I can't think about anything else. I've been working late every night and then bringing work home -- some nights I'm so tired that I even sleep without dreaming about him. We all have our escape -- and work, especially if you love it, is the perfect thing to keep busy. Link to post Share on other sites
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