carman15 Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Im really sorry but, this has been bugging me for a long time Is there a difference between friends with benifits and a full out relationship Gimme your take on it Link to post Share on other sites
voldigicam Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Still no replies. I can't get my head around the difference. There might be a blurry line somewhere between "Here's $50, hop in the back seat" and "Honey, can you pick Johnny up at soccer?" but it's a blurry line indeed. Just defining "relationship" is pretty difficult. I suspect the distinguishing characteristics lie in level of contact and in exclusivity. I also suspect that one or the other often shifts to the "relationship" or "not another call" end of the spectrum before the other. Link to post Share on other sites
LostLamb Posted February 18, 2009 Share Posted February 18, 2009 I've never experienced a FWB situation but there must be a big difference? If I was in a FWB situation I would know that the other person could still date others , we were not in love or "exclusive" as Americans call it and it was a purely sexual arrangement. I would expect nothing . If I was in a relationship I would expect commitment and a future with that person. If I was ill-they would be there etc Link to post Share on other sites
gracielou Posted February 18, 2009 Share Posted February 18, 2009 FWB is a no strings-attached arrangement either between 2 friends or 2 acquaintances. The FWB is for sexual gratification without any emotional attachment or expectations. There is freedom where the two parties can go and hook up with other people, date other people etc without it being an issue. Or at least this is what i have noticed while in college. Its almost/basically a mutually agreed upon booty call. From having some "experience" (except there was no actual sex involved) and watching close friends engage in very sexual FWB relationships i find that someone always gets hurt. Someone (usually the women, but not always) gets emotionally attached and finds that they want more. its hard to get that intimate and still keep that disconnect from the emotions Where as a relationship is just that. Its not about immediate gratification sexually in some form. Its getting to know the person for who they are, there is that expectation of getting emotionally involved and invested in that person. Many relationships have that sexual aspect to them however that is not, nor should it be the main focus of a commited relationship. Its about knowing all aspects of who they are, what makes them tick as a person not just about what they can give you in bed. Link to post Share on other sites
Plato Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 It Depends On The Individual Totally... We are all different. This is not about mental analysis. It is what happens when emotion is involved. It is different for everyone. It did not bother me or her years ago...and we still remained friends and went on to have other relationships. In this case we were good friends but not great firends (what does that mean...indeed?). In another case, today, I have a very close female friend that does not want romance with me...if I enter into FWB with her...I will be playing with fire...I love her very much and need to remain friends best I can or move on.... Hope this helps! Link to post Share on other sites
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