calithin83 Posted October 1, 2003 Share Posted October 1, 2003 Ok i was with my boyfriend for 2 years and 8 months, the 2 years were wonderful cos we both love eachother and were attentive to eachother needs, the 8 months were one sided..it felt like i was giving more then him,...and he wasnt the same sweet self he was...only ONCE in A while.. we were eachothers FIRST serious relationship...so we shared EVERYTHIGN Together and it was awesome, he even told me how he felt this electricity one time when we were laying down ...it was awesome..i felt it too! Anyways things got sour..and we kept arguing..he then dumped me..and this was a month ago...and well i was heart broken but in denial..but its been a MONTH and sometimes im still in denial "LIke I cant believe its over" I constantly dream about him holding me, and being happy with him..then i wake up and i get so tempted to call him...thinking he will be as sweet as he is in my dreams.. OK my question is that i see him in Biology class every Tues and THurs. and I still have feelings for him and sometiems i get the feeling he does too...because I see him looking at me and notices the things I do..we dont talk and I try not to make eye contact with him..i try to pretend i dont care, by just acting WHATEVER..so we broek up a month ago but the first 2 weeks of school we kinda still acted like bf and gf...but then somethign happened that he told me he didnt want anything to do with me....so we have had 2 weeks ignoring eachother.... Then yesterday in class i decided to leave class early ..and i knew he would notice..right wheni stepped out of class he text me saying "I did better then u on the test"..i didnt text him back...but it made me smile that he actually text me saying something right when i left class..do u think he just didnt know what else to say so he just said that? he looks at me, u think he wants me? BUT WHY hasnt he tried to get me back??? Hes weird..and i still like him but i havent done anything cos HE BROKE UP WITH ME, so i dont wanna seem needy...but i wish he would approach me or do soemthing!! Link to post Share on other sites
midori Posted October 1, 2003 Share Posted October 1, 2003 Am I right in thinking you're in high school? At any rate, you're very young, and so is he. Navigating the Ex Terrain is hard for anyone at any age, so it's not surprising that he's sending you some mixed signals. Right now it sounds too ambiguous to tell. He could be interested, sure. Or he could be keeping an eye on you to gauge your hostility/friendliness toward him. Maybe he's hoping he can nudge you into a civil, non-romantic relationship (aka friendship, but it's always a bit different with exes, esp. at first). Or he could be a game player who's trying to see if you still want him so that he can feel good about himself. Who knows? Chances are he doesn't know either. I've learned that if someone is having second thoughts about a break-up they initiated, if they're unable or unwilling to take ALL the steps back to the person they dumped, they're not really serious about getting back together. It sounds like you would like to get back together with him if you had the chance. So my advice is to sit tight and try your best not to read too much into anything he says or does. He needs to be explicit if you're supposed to take him seriously. A bit of flirting, texting -- all that's fine, go ahead and respond. Keep it light and don't press him. Keep your eyes open and consider yourself available to whatever comes up -- with him or with another guy. I'm not advising you to play games with him; I'm advising that you don't get too worked up over something that is only a possibility right now. If he's got something to say, he'll say it. Your choice is whether you wait with baited breathe or get on with your life in the meantime. Link to post Share on other sites
Author calithin83 Posted October 1, 2003 Author Share Posted October 1, 2003 nope im in college, im 20 and hes 19..i know he needs to grow up cos he only has had me and he needs to have another girl to know the difference...ugh but..i miss him......and i just wish he could do something ASAP before someone else comes my way and loses me completely..but i guess he doesnt care.. Link to post Share on other sites
james_1989 Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 wow this story sounds so familiar. i was with my girl for a year and a half. we were eachothers first serious relationship and we were in 'love.' we pretend not to notice each other in the halls and we dont speak. she is apparently caught up in some other dude but it doesnt seem too serious. well we havent talked for about 4 months and i see her everyday at school 2 or 3 times. its pretty akward. im wish i knew what she was thinking. im pretty sure she isnt gonna say anything until this new guy is out of the way. all i have to say is i wouldnt antitate the contact. just wait and let everything takes it natural course and eventually he will say somethin. hes bound too. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 He's not getting laid. He know he'll get you easily just by fluttering those puppydog eyes of his and you'll be puddy in his hands, just like before. Link to post Share on other sites
backspn Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 You two are pretty smart. You guys are playing it the way you should. Just make him think that you are doing fine without him. He/ she will want you back soon and you have to take it real slow. They will think that they have you again and they will dump you again. Make sure this time they mean it and take it slow. Indifference is the key here. Btw...why so negative Kevin? I notice alot that your posts are negative. Or is it just me that notices that? Link to post Share on other sites
james_1989 Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 thanks for the advice bckspn. i will take it slow. i got forever with this girl, why rush in? yeah dude this kevin crackhead is a weirdo Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 Does my EX still want me? No Link to post Share on other sites
netrie Posted September 21, 2004 Share Posted September 21, 2004 Originally posted by backspn Btw...why so negative Kevin? I notice alot that your posts are negative. Or is it just me that notices that? [color=blue]Hi Backspn[/color] Ive noticed about 2 other people who are total PESSIMIST on this online help chat site. I also confronted another person too! I think that Kevin has probably been very burned recently and has been hurt--he tends to cover his hurt with "logic-based" responses. But in psychology that is called a "defense" to avoid painful emotions or to hide behind his true thoughts... [color=indigo]Hello, Kevin![/color] If you read this, I don't hate you and your photo is cute, but gee! lighten up! Smiles, [color=red]Netalia [/color] Link to post Share on other sites
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