aqlpswkodeji Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 I'm almost 21 and have never had a girlfriend. Yesterday was Valentine's Day and not fun. Probably about half of the people I talk to on a given week are girls, so its not as though there's no contact. I think a lot of my problem is that, unlike a lot of guys, I have no sorts of desires to turn those friendships into anything more. Of course, there are exceptions and that always sucks. I think the traits that allow me to become such good friends with girls are exactly the same ones that prevent me from ever getting anything more. I'm genuinely funny, but maybe too much so. I'm smart. And nobody will really hear me say anything bad about anybody. I don't get upset, at least visibly, about really anything that anyone does to me (which may lead people to think I wont defend myself). There are also negative traits which I dont know if they make a big difference or not but I'll list them anyways. Even though I'm tall, I apparently look like John Heder. Everyone says it. People tell me I'm timid relatively often. I'm ridiculously unathletic. I'm kind of a nerd, but I think that's more or less a neutral or "cute" trait. I'm not necesarilly the least akward person when it comes to meeting new people, though I'm not akward with my friends at all. Anyhow, yesterday was Valentine's Day and it kinda sucked. First we had this big dinner. And of course, we had the candy hearts that said stuff on them. I'm fine with being made fun of normally, but since yesterday was valentines day i kinda was secretly upset when 2 of the 4 girls present gave me hearts intended for girls (ie "my girl," etc). Then when someone wanted to know the ingredients for some girly drink, of course I was the one she asked. I mean, wtf? This is the same girl that once said she could beat me in arm wrestling. Then I find out the girl that I am really attracted to is really hoping this one guy calls her but of course he's a tool and doesnt actually do it. Normally all this stuff wouldnt bother me but yesterday it did...certainly because it was saint valentine's day. (in other words, I normally am neither upset nor somewhat bitter about all this stuff). WHAT CAN I DO? PLEASE HELP! THANKS! Link to post Share on other sites
doomed Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 Lighten up on yourself. Try to contain those friendship vibes and exude, something more that says "I'm interested". Then say so. You talk to girls all the time, but how many have you expressed clear interest in ? Link to post Share on other sites
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