2sunny Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 I have wondered with so many of the OW/OM on this forum what kind of outing or get together you all celebrate with your MM/MW? Seems likely that it would be either the day before or the day after V-Day, mainly not to tip off the spouse. Maybe it's just that I wasn't paying attention to what he was doing the day before or after V-Day... I'm trying to remember when I was married what my xH did on the day of V-Day; makes me wonder when he said he was going out shopping if he was actually meeting her for breakfast or lunch during his "shopping" excursion. Also makes me wonder if the OW/OM have hurt feelings knowing that he/she still has the remainder of the day planned with the spouse. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 My SH and I had early evening Valentines, complete with gifts (nice ones - I was impressed!) and such. Then later on in the evening, he went out and saw his girlfriend and he had gifts for her too. He celebrated with both of us at different times, with different motivations and outcomes to say the least! I'm sure his girlfriend (I don't call her OW even though technically she is) was happy that he was able to see her, even though it was pretty late. I'm not sure how she felt about him not seeing her until late that night. He has always been very, very clear with her about the limitations so if she was upset I doubt she showed it. I'd have to say that some MM at least try to make an effort on the day - even if it has to be very early or very late. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2sunny Posted February 15, 2009 Author Share Posted February 15, 2009 and when he left to see her - where did he say he was going? Link to post Share on other sites
thatsme123 Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 We work together, so he came over after work for about a half hour. We cuddled/talked, did some "stuff" followed by more cuddling, and then he went home. It was all over by 7:30 PM. The rest of the night I was alone cause my friends weren't available. So I decided to go get a new piercing (that's what I do when I get bored or restless), pamper myself a bit at home and get my mind off it. It was hard but I knew what to expect. Kind of crappy night but kind of not... Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 and when he left to see her - where did he say he was going? I already knew - it was understood, I guess. He even told me what he got her, and all that. When he went out, I knew it was to see her. I also knew he would likely have a sleepover and he did. He and I operate more as family/friend. Neither one of us has anything to hide. I have started seeing someone too, and SH knows about him as well. I guess our situation is fairly unique though. Always has been. We don't consider ourselves married, even though we are on paper still. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 LB, how does she feel knowing that you two live together and that you know about her? I'm glad it's working for you though and you've got a new guy as well.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 I don't get all that Hoola over Valentine's Day.. It should be Valentine's Day.. every day.. with nice words, flowers, etc.. we shouldn't wait for VD to show our love.. This is a day where only florists and chocolate stores make money.. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 15, 2009 Share Posted February 15, 2009 LB, how does she feel knowing that you two live together and that you know about her? I'm glad it's working for you though and you've got a new guy as well.. I do wonder about that. I wonder if she gets sad or if she wants more. I wonder if she will get to the 'when are you going to leave your wife' point, if at all. She is young and has her own life, so there is a very good possibility that those limitations work entirely in her favor. He is honest with her about things. He doesn't mislead her, or make her promises, or any of that stuff. He is clear about the nature of our relationship. She seems to be ok with it. For now, anyway. She knows that I am ok with things. H and I don't have that kind of relationship, and I certainly wouldn't deny him that. Besides, I'm too busy being swept off my own feet. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 My husband just told me that he heard that Valentine's Day is the biggest day for people to hire private investigators. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 I actually try to celebrate V'day a little. To me it is just another day, still I would get my valentine / SO something. This is a day where only florists and chocolate stores make money.. Don't forget dating sites and starting Monday more posts in dating and breakups. My husband just told me that he heard that Valentine's Day is the biggest day for people to hire private investigators. I have to remember that and hire an private investigator earlier. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 My husband just told me that he heard that Valentine's Day is the biggest day for people to hire private investigators. It makes sense. People get so gaga over the ridiculous notion of Valentines Day that they feel the need to be with the one they love/lust after on this one "special" day. Doesn't take a genius to figure out they're going to be stupid. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 My husband just told me that he heard that Valentine's Day is the biggest day for people to hire private investigators. Did he just hire one ? Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Did he just hire one ? :lmao: Watch your back T. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 It makes sense. People get so gaga over the ridiculous notion of Valentines Day that they feel the need to be with the one they love/lust after on this one "special" day. Doesn't take a genius to figure out they're going to be stupid. I agree. True. And I have to say that I can't believe it but I actually agree with Lizzie on here. V-day should be most days...with flowers, nice words, special treats and favors, lots of consideration and love. Now that's how it should be..not just on one day. That said, we do celebrate it. But it's really not that different than many other days we have. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 :lmao: Watch your back T. Hahaha! You're bad. Very funny, AC. Actually I'm laughing because I ran out of coffee on V-day and Mr. T offered to go get me some but was gone forever and I teased him about whether he went to go see his g/f! Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 I celebrated V-day five days early by making dinner at my place with my MM, and a fancy dessert, then the "other" kind of dessert. We had one other night later in the week. I had my kids for V-day and visited family. Then, my bf who was going out of town for the weekend gave me chocolates from the dollar store. I was pissed! When I mentioned it to my MM he said, awww I'll get you some real chocolate, so that is what I am getting when I see him tomorrow I tried to break up with the bf but he is determined to make this work. So much going on in my life right now, I have to hang on for a bit, bf knows I'm playing along though. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 What? You have a b/f AND a MM? Did I read that right? So one gave you chocolates from the dollar store and the other pretty much gives you nothing? Have I got that right? Ewwww. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 The MM has something for me tomorrow (we work together). He is very good with gifts. The MM and I have other plans because of our schedules, and so we have alot of patience. I'm leaving for a week, and then we go on a business trip together. He spoils me on our trips. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Very good with gifts? We must have different ideas about what comprises a "gift" I guess. The rest sounds uhm...just loverly. Enjoy. Link to post Share on other sites
Shygirl15 Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 My husband just told me that he heard that Valentine's Day is the biggest day for people to hire private investigators. ! Oh, God! I swear I thought of hiring a PI last night when BF cancelled on me, due to babysitting his kids . Good thing we talked on the phone almost all night, so at least that cleared any doubts I had on him.. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 ! Oh, God! I swear I thought of hiring a PI last night when BF cancelled on me, due to babysitting his kids . Good thing we talked on the phone almost all night, so at least that cleared any doubts I had on him.. That's great I guess, shygirl. I just think there's something wrong either with you or with your SO if you're thinking of hiring a PI. Know what I mean? Link to post Share on other sites
Shygirl15 Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 That's great I guess, shygirl. I just think there's something wrong either with you or with your SO if you're thinking of hiring a PI. Know what I mean? Most probably me. I'm the most insecure human being I have seen.. He is sweet but I can't seem to get enough.. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Most probably me. I'm the most insecure human being I have seen.. He is sweet but I can't seem to get enough.. That's screwy. Sorry, shygirl. You know it is. Link to post Share on other sites
Shygirl15 Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Yeah, I know. And I'm working on that. BTW, I always love your honest opinions. Wish we had more people like you on here.. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Yeah, I know. And I'm working on that. BTW, I always love your honest opinions. Wish we had more people like you on here.. Wow. I don't know what to say. Thanks, shygirl! I sure appreciate your honesty. Link to post Share on other sites
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