Isolde Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Anyone else think that there is an infinitely larger number of good looking women, than good looking men? I am not attracted to women but I never go out without seeing several attractive women--but I can go a week without seeing a handsome man. Generally handsome men are in such short supply, that it is impossible to find one that is available, and if he is, chances he wants a relationship are not high. The dating and sociological implications are obvious. I wonder if it has always been this way or if it is regional or if women just have so many more ways to beautify themselves? Now I am not restricting myself to handsome men but more eye candy would sure be nice! Link to post Share on other sites
crosswordfiend Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 no, i think what your post suggests is that women don't have a good sense of what makes a woman attractive to a man. i can't think of how many times a female friend of mine has tried to interest me in her "cute" friend who turned out to be nothing of the sort. Link to post Share on other sites
zenith Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 It's a sign of homosexuality, bro Link to post Share on other sites
peteyj Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 What do you consider a handsome man? Because the truth is a guy could be walking down the street and consider you just avg looking at best. There are good looking people and not so good looking people. But as far as who is better looking, that just depends on the person. You might be beautiful to one person but not so beautiful to the next. I might be hot to you but not so hot to somebody else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted February 16, 2009 Author Share Posted February 16, 2009 no, i think what your post suggests is that women don't have a good sense of what makes a woman attractive to a man. i can't think of how many times a female friend of mine has tried to interest me in her "cute" friend who turned out to be nothing of the sort. Everyone has different tastes. I think I'm better at discerning what men find attractive than the average woman, FWIW. I think being friends with someone also biases you--I never think my friends are unattractive because I care about them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted February 16, 2009 Author Share Posted February 16, 2009 What do you consider a handsome man? Because the truth is a guy could be walking down the street and consider you just avg looking at best. There are good looking people and not so good looking people. But as far as who is better looking, that just depends on the person. You might be beautiful to one person but not so beautiful to the next. I might be hot to you but not so hot to somebody else. This post isn't about me! Don't drag me into it! I'm talking about broad, subjective attractiveness. For instance I don't like Johnny Depp's type but I would consider him handsome for purposes of this post. I am not saying that I want to date only gorgeous guys--I'm saying that I think women have the short end of the deal because there are fewer guys that are generally, subjectively attractive, than women. I also feel like handsome men are often spoiled in life because there are so few of them that women just flock to them. Beautiful women have the same difficulty, but since there are lots of beautiful women around, they become humbled, whereas the good looking men don't get to that point. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted February 16, 2009 Author Share Posted February 16, 2009 I'm not saying that goodhearted, handsome men don't exist, but there aren't a lot of them. This is sad for both sexes because: the women don't get the handsome guys and the handsome guys have difficulty learning that they are not the center of the planet, which is sad for them because they may miss out on a lot of wisdom. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 I wonder if it has always been this way or if it is regional or if women just have so many more ways to beautify themselves? Regional, socialogical and cosmetological! Or you're too picky! Link to post Share on other sites
movingonandon Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Bullshet!!! I think there are plenty of good looking guys out there. BUT most of them dress like shet, so unless you pay attention and put some effort to look them up, they blend with the garbage on the streets . (Don't ask me why I pay attetion . Ok, do ask. Because I'm perpetually impressed (and depressed) by how poorly the men in this country dress . Fedoras and the (properly fitted) suits should come back. The manners would go up, the crime - down. Oh well - let me lower the bar --> workwear is fantastic, as long as it fits. If I got a penny for every guy in oversized jeans/cargo shorts and polo shirt I've seen, I'd be posting from the Bahamas). Finally, there are many otherwise decent guys whose balls have already been busted by unfulfilling jobs or demanding girlfriends . Nothing can crimp man's style than the combination of these two things . So show'em some sympathy and you might be surprised by the sneuing handsomness . Link to post Share on other sites
westrock Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 I'm talking about broad, subjective attractiveness.How does one determine "broad, subjective attractivenes"? It's all relative according to each person's own perspective. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted February 16, 2009 Author Share Posted February 16, 2009 I agree that the prevailing fashion styles don't help one bit. Oh, for a return to the clean cut days of yore. Link to post Share on other sites
ruggy Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Isolde, what type of dude do you consider handsome in your world? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted February 16, 2009 Author Share Posted February 16, 2009 Does anyone here honestly think that there are as many 9/10 guys as 9/10 girls around? I've heard of far more attractive women that go for years single, than attractive guys that do so. The reason, I think, is scarcity of above-average looking men. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 I see plenty of hotties around where I work. But I'm a sucker for a man in a suit. But then again most Aussie men are gorgeous so perhaps you simply need to move. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted February 16, 2009 Author Share Posted February 16, 2009 I see plenty of hotties around where I work. But I'm a sucker for a man in a suit. But then again most Aussie men are gorgeous so perhaps you simply need to move. I'm glad you mentioned this because I HAVE been to Australia and yes, the number of handsome guys there and in many parts of Europe is so much higher than in the US. Link to post Share on other sites
zenith Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Seriously, the issue raised here by OP's same for men It's hard to find beautiful women, too Link to post Share on other sites
kashmir Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 It's your perspective, Isolde. As a young single guy, I sometimes feel that good looking and awesome guys are a surplus while women are allowed to be picky even among them. I realize that's influenced by my perspective, though. Link to post Share on other sites
ruggy Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 I'm glad you mentioned this because I HAVE been to Australia and yes, the number of handsome guys there and in many parts of Europe is so much higher than in the US. Guess you need to move then. Safe trip. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted February 16, 2009 Author Share Posted February 16, 2009 I've lived in several American cities, and the only places where I would see good looking guys on a regular basis were NY and California. I also feel like the larger the number of good looking guys, the less of a big deal it is to be good looking and possibly the less likely they are to think they're so special. It's an interesting thought. Link to post Share on other sites
lord alfred douglas Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 I've lived in several American cities, and the only places where I would see good looking guys on a regular basis were NY and California. I also feel like the larger the number of good looking guys, the less of a big deal it is to be good looking and possibly the less likely they are to think they're so special. It's an interesting thought. Im in the midwest and I look like Michael Moore Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 I think it's the opposite actually. I live on a university campus and see tons of attractive guys, but few attractive women. It may also be that I'm pickier when it comes to discriminating the beauty of women. That said, despite there being a bounty of objective attractive men, few are what I subjectively consider "handsome." Link to post Share on other sites
ruggy Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 It's your perspective, Isolde. As a young single guy, I sometimes feel that good looking and awesome guys are a surplus while women are allowed to be picky even among them. I realize that's influenced by my perspective, though. Statistically, there are more women than men, so this would make sense. Most women know they get the pick of the litter. Some, again, consider they can always do better. Thus, the said problem in the relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Im in the midwest and I look like Michael Moore I doubt Oscar would have approved. Link to post Share on other sites
zenith Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 But then again most Aussie men are gorgeous so perhaps you simply need to move. Aussie women are gorgeous, not men Link to post Share on other sites
Author Isolde Posted February 16, 2009 Author Share Posted February 16, 2009 Let me put it this way. I think stunningly pretty women (10/10) are pretty rare--but fairly attractive women (8/10) are very common. I think stunningly handsome men (10/10) are EXTREMELY rare--and even fairly attractive men (8/10) are still rare and coveted by large numbers of women. I'm sorry I made such a shallow post, but I think I might be onto something interesting here. Link to post Share on other sites
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