Handsome men = a rarity

[Trialbyfire]

Let me put it this way.

 

I think stunningly pretty women (10/10) are pretty rare--but fairly attractive women (8/10) are very common.

 

I think stunningly handsome men (10/10) are EXTREMELY rare--and even fairly attractive men (8/10) are still rare and coveted by large numbers of women.

 

I'm sorry I made such a shallow post, but I think I might be onto something interesting here.

I disagree with the bolded comment.

[lord alfred douglas]

I doubt Oscar would have approved.

:laugh:Well Oscar liked his steak rare, that is to say quite undercooked

[Isolde]

Im in the midwest and I look like Michael Moore

 

We still like you because you have the coolest name and profile pic on the boards.

[lord alfred douglas]

I disagree with the bolded comment.

I agree with it, but women suffer less than men

[shadowplay]

Let me put it this way.

 

I think stunningly pretty women (10/10) are pretty rare--but fairly attractive women (8/10) are very common.

 

I think stunningly handsome men (10/10) are EXTREMELY rare--and even fairly attractive men (8/10) are still rare and coveted by large numbers of women.

 

I'm sorry I made such a shallow post, but I think I might be onto something interesting here.

 

That's interesting, because I tend to go for guys who are very handsome, but not 10/10. They have some edge or unconventionality to their features that make them stand out. A perfect 10/10 is bland and boring to me. But a guy who is both handsome and slightly unconventional according to my standards (in other words his face has character, intelligence and life) IS a rarity.

[Isolde]

That's interesting, because I tend to go for guys who are very handsome, but not 10/10. They have some edge or unconventionality to their features that make them stand out. A perfect 10/10 is bland and boring to me. But a guy who is both handsome and slightly unconventional according to my standards (in other words his face has character, intelligence and life) IS a rarity.

 

I'm with you too shadow, my point was any guy that's much above average looking is RARE AND COVETED BY TOO MANY WOMEN!!! :lmao:

 

You're right though. The type you describe is perhaps, the rarest of all. I've met maybe three guys like that in my life.

[shadowplay]

I'm with you too shadow, my point was BOTH ARE RARE AND COVETED BY TOO MANY WOMEN!!! :lmao:

 

I think it's actually pretty easy to find a guy who resembles a generic male model if you look around a university, but a guy who has that extra something...maybe it's that movie star quality...or a certain expression to the features...THAT is rare.

[shadowplay]

 

You're right though. The type you describe is perhaps, the rarest of all. I've met maybe three guys like that in my life.

 

All the big crushes I've had, including current one, have been that type (except for Mr. Harvard). I've probably met 4-5 guys in my life who have "IT." But it's a deceptive quality because it can suggest depth or some magical quality behind the eyes that's not there.

[ruggy]

Wow. Never been around so many perfect or near perfect women. You two must be the sheer rarity.

[Isolde]

All the big crushes I've had, including current one, have been that type (except for Mr. Harvard). I've probably met 4-5 guys in my life who have "IT." But it's a deceptive quality because it can suggest depth or some magical quality behind the eyes that's not there.

 

Yes, a boring but handsome guy could be a better pick ultimately. You never know what is hiding behind those sparkling eyes.

[shadowplay]

Wow. Never been around so many perfect or near perfect women. You two must be the sheer rarity.

 

We never claimed to be perfect. Besides, my whole point is that I find perfection boring.

[Isolde]

We never claimed to be perfect. Besides, my whole point is that I find perfection boring.

 

Thanks shadow for clarifying

[lord alfred douglas]

We never claimed to be perfect. Besides, my whole point is that I find perfection boring.

youre like a gay fashion designer

 

you like quarks and imperfections as some sort of artisitic expression, but you only like skinny young men and you hate aging and death

[Lizzie60]

I disagree.. I think both beautiful women AND men are a rarity..

[movingonandon]

That's interesting, because I tend to go for guys who are very handsome, but not 10/10. They have some edge or unconventionality to their features that make them stand out. A perfect 10/10 is bland and boring to me. But a guy who is both handsome and slightly unconventional according to my standards (in other words his face has character, intelligence and life) IS a rarity.

 

 

I such a case, we should go out, babe ! Per your criteria my big nose, somewhat discernible need for jaw surgery and generally gruff exterior make me a new and improved version of Tom Cruise, which I otherwise resemble, or so I've been told (by my mom ).

 

I'm not a woman, but I agree that there is such a thing as a man being a little "too pretty" in a conventional sense. Take Brad Pitt in "Fight club. Hottie, blah, blah, blah --> Ed Norton is a trillion times handsomed than him in that (or any other) movie...

Same for my other favorites of all time - Boghart, Pacino, DeNiro, Bronson - none of them "10s", but they surely are some handsome cats. Not a big fan of Cary Grant, Alain Delon and Pierce Brosnan etc. - too pretty , and too smooth. But, many girls obviously would disagree.

[fral945]

I disagree with your original observation, but I will say this. There are so many overweight and obese Americans now that there probably are fewer "handsome" men (and fewer beautiful women) generally speaking. They are there, they are just hidden underneath a bunch of extra weight.

 

My observation is that there are a lot of women that would be very attractive but are significantly overweight. I would imagine the same goes for guys.

[shadowplay]

youre like a gay fashion designer

 

you like quarks and imperfections as some sort of artisitic expression, but you only like skinny young men and you hate aging and death

 

Ha. That's a good summation! Sort of like people who romanticize urban decay. I am a visual artist after all, so I'm easily seduced by the illusion of depth even when I fully realize it's an illusion. I briefly considered becoming a casting agent or model scout, but I realized I couldn't deal with such a superficial industry.

[Isolde]

I such a case, we should go out, babe ! Per your criteria my big nose, somewhat discernible need for jaw surgery and generally gruff exterior make me a new and improved version of Tom Cruise, which I otherwise resemble, or so I've been told (by my mom ).

 

Ed Norton is hot! I like how he can look really handsome but he still has enough geekiness to seem attainable.

[Trimmer]

We never claimed to be perfect. Besides, my whole point is that I find perfection boring.

So then the lack of highly attractive men shouldn't present any problem then, eh?

 

Me, I agree with the OP (Original Premise): I also find there are loads more attractive women out there than men. Then again, I'm a dude, and I dig bangin' chicks, so.....

[chrislovestosurf]

Where do you live? This is important. Maybe you should move to NYC, although people there can be extremely rude and its so busy, there are tons of good looking people. On any given day I've fallen in love (WOMEN) walking to my office down 42nd street with at least 40 women, lol.

 

If you however live in east bumble****, of course you arent going to see many good looking people.

 

And maybe youre just so hot that everyone is ugly to you.

[Isolde]

So then the lack of highly attractive men shouldn't present any problem then, eh?

 

Me, I agree with the OP (Original Premise): I also find there are loads more attractive women out there than men. Then again, I'm a dude, and I dig bangin' chicks, so.....

 

No, our point is you can be highly attractive (and sought after) without being perfect. Like, Ed Norton is a 10/10 in my view but he doesn't look perfect all the time.

[shadowplay]

Ed Norton is hot! I like how he can look really handsome but he still has enough geekiness to seem attainable.

 

I used to think he was hot, but now that I'm a few years older he seems too mousy or ineffectual to me. Can't explain it. He doesn't have enough masculine force.

[Isolde]

I used to think he was hot, but now that I'm a few years older he seems too mousy or ineffectual to me. Can't explain it. He doesn't have enough masculine force.

 

I see what you're saying , but I prefer that to overly masculine(ie, Tom Cruise ick).

[chrislovestosurf]

OR, go to a warm city that borders the beach where people are surfing, swimming, and are just more active. Im sure southern california would get you hot.

[shadowplay]

I see what you're saying , but I prefer that to overly masculine(ie, Tom Cruise ick).

 

Tom Cruise is not my idea of extreme masculinity. He's the controlling overly possessive type, which I associate with weakness which I associate with femininity (sexist as that is). Strength is someone who is controlled, confident and doesn't need to control another person.