TrustInYourself Posted February 17, 2009 Share Posted February 17, 2009 Disagree. Until you show you do not care about her anymore, she will not realize your importance. This is the power of NC and the power of moving on. At the point where you could care less about her, that is when she will see Mike in a different light. Keep in mind, she may still decide to divorce or leave, but at least you are gaining a mindset that allows you to accept her decision fully. Just don't handicap yourself with another relationship. Go out and socialize. Have friends of the opposite sex, but I would highly recommend not taking it further. Be upfront as well. No relationships, just fun. Link to post Share on other sites
Author mendsley Posted February 17, 2009 Author Share Posted February 17, 2009 Thanks for the responses, I am and have decided to start moving on. I have never been like this my whole life, I have never had any one strong in my life. I could tell you what my life has been with my parents but, there is no need to go into that detail. I guess I am looking for someone to give me the answer that will resolve this pain. It will be very hard for me but, I am moving on and I know it is the right thing to do. Thanks again for everyone talking with me, I know none of you but you are the only one's I turn to when $hit goes rough, so thanks. MIKE Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted February 17, 2009 Share Posted February 17, 2009 Mendsly, Sometimes it's just over. As much as it hurts you to believe it, it's time. She has her own life, you are not a part of it. As for why she hasn't begun divorce proceedings, there are as many reasons as their are people. She may not be able to afford it (Calif isn't cheap). It may be as she says, she doesen't want to hurt you right now. Or she may be keeping you as a "back up plan", which is often the case. Look at it from her point of view. If you are a back up plan it costs her nothing. She has a place to go if her current plans don't pan out. She has zero to lose stringing you along. What you do is up to you. It may take awhile but sooner or later you will decide how you are going to move on with your life. Remember every decision has costs and benifits. You are at a crossroads. You can decide to continue on the path you are on or begin finding your own way. Link to post Share on other sites
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