Goatsbreath Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Ok, so this is just a little post about hope that I heard while sleeping last night. You know those nights you sleep with the TV on and somewhere in the distance someone is speaking directly to you and you wake up. I ended up ordering a guitar at 3 am from the TV this way once but that's another story. So here's what I heard and It was a preacher saying it but even if you do not believe it is still helpful I think. He said this... 25 percent of people will never like you no matter what you do 25 percent of people will not like you but may be persuaded to 25 percent of people will like you but may be persuaded not to and 25 percent of people will like you and will like you no matter what Its this 25 percent of people that will not just like you but they will celebrate you for you who you are. So the message was pretty simple. Don't waste your time and energy trying to make someone love you. You are to busy for that, you have other things to do, you have goals and dreams. Don't invest your energy into trying to convince someone you are worthy but instead invest that energy into yourself. Someone will come along and celebrate your accomplishments and who you are. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Interesting information. You ought to sleep in front of the TV more often. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 So by reading this with my eyes closed I'm getting that 50% of the people will like you and 50% will not.. I hope to be shooting better odds than that in my life.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Goatsbreath Posted February 16, 2009 Author Share Posted February 16, 2009 So by reading this with my eyes closed I'm getting that 50% of the people will like you and 50% will not.. I hope to be shooting better odds than that in my life.. Well, really, 75 percent of people could like you if you count the ones you could persuade to like you. I don't know though, I think if I get 50% I'm doing pretty well because honesty I can tell you.........I only like about 25% of people Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Which city shall I rent for my funeral? Seriously, "people" should be qualified. Which people? People I pass in the street? People I talk to on an airplane? People who I've introduced myself to? People who remember my name? People who listen to what I say? Too many variables for me. Guess I better call and cancel the rental Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Obviously your statistics are not meant to be taken literally. This is a numerical metaphor for the fact that some things are simply beyond our control, and we just have to be our best selves. Great post. -kizik Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Don't waste your time and energy trying to make someone love you. You are to busy for that, you have other things to do, you have goals and dreams. Don't invest your energy into trying to convince someone you are worthy but instead invest that energy into yourself. Someone will come along and celebrate your accomplishments and who you are. And that's a fact, Jack! If your relationship is like this, wrap it up and dispose of it. It's not about you when this happens. It's all about the emotional state of your partner. Link to post Share on other sites
DSM-IV Tom Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Kiziks right, it's bs. Nice to think about some things are out've your control, though. But you have the ability to get anyone to like you, provided you say/do the right thing. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Ok so given this information, why do men worry about rejection at all? It seems to me to be completely pointless. If you have the b*lls to talk to a woman you meet in the grocery store and she rejects you, SO FRACKING WHAT?! 75% of the women you meet will most likely reject you and NOT for the reasons you think. They most likely do because they are either involved in someone or insecure themselves. If they are secure in who they are and single, they will RELISH the fact that you had the confidence to walk up and talk to them. Takes a MAN to do that. If you want to be a man, you have to act like one and that includes accepting and brushing off rejection. How the heck are any of you single men going to meet someone if you're too wussified to talk to a woman? Being insecure is NOT sexy or attractive in any way. A confident man will approach, say his thing and when (most likely) he is rejected, he will smile and move on to the next woman. Eventually someone will bite. The key is never letting rejection bother you. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 Kiziks right, it's bs. Nice to think about some things are out've your control, though. But you have the ability to get anyone to like you, provided you say/do the right thing. Like, maybe. Date, no. Some things are out of your control. The sooner you accept that, the better off you are. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted February 16, 2009 Share Posted February 16, 2009 If you want to be a man, you have to act like one and that includes accepting and brushing off rejection. How the heck are any of you single men going to meet someone if you're too wussified to talk to a woman? Being insecure is NOT sexy or attractive in any way. A confident man will approach, say his thing and when (most likely) he is rejected, he will smile and move on to the next woman. Eventually someone will bite. The key is never letting rejection bother you. Ahh, CaliGuy, such tough talk. To go back and read through your posts, one would think you don't have Insecurity Number One. All this talk about what a Man is and what it takes to be a Man. So being insecure is not Sexy. Or Attractive. That's unfortunate, because I am plenty insecure. I have doubts about myself and my life and what I am doing with it. I used to think those emotions were semi-normal, but now for some reason I just can't get past the fact that it's not Sexy to have insecurities. Rejection bothers anyone with a ticking heart. As humans, we want to be loved and desired and needed. A rejection is the opposite: a denial of who you are and your character. A rejection is someone else saying: "you are sh*t. You are not Sexy. You are Unattractive." As far as playing the numbers game, it seems robotic and predatory. Link to post Share on other sites
ItsMe Posted February 17, 2009 Share Posted February 17, 2009 Oh I love that lol, cheered me right up! Gotta love preachers:D Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted February 17, 2009 Share Posted February 17, 2009 Ahh, CaliGuy, such tough talk. To go back and read through your posts, one would think you don't have Insecurity Number One. All this talk about what a Man is and what it takes to be a Man. We all have insecurities. It's how we handle them and what we do to overcome them that determines how our lives progress. So being insecure is not Sexy. Or Attractive. That's unfortunate, because I am plenty insecure. I have doubts about myself and my life and what I am doing with it. I used to think those emotions were semi-normal, but now for some reason I just can't get past the fact that it's not Sexy to have insecurities. It's not sexy to let your insecurities stop you from ejoying life, making friends, meeting people, etc. It's a detriment to let them rule you. Rejection bothers anyone with a ticking heart. As humans, we want to be loved and desired and needed. A rejection is the opposite: a denial of who you are and your character. A rejection is someone else saying: "you are sh*t. You are not Sexy. You are Unattractive." So what if they're having a bad day? So what if they have a boyfriend? Does that mean you are unworthy of being loved by someone other than them? Of course not. If you see rejection as your own self worth then it's easy to see how you can let it destroy your sense of self-worth. If your value comes from within, nothing anyone can say to you should tear you down. Some people are just arseholes. That has nothing to do with you. As far as playing the numbers game, it seems robotic and predatory. Maybe. It's also life. Link to post Share on other sites
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