Can a relationship start again?

[Dragonflys]

Hello to you all,

 

I have a question which relates to my situation with my ex girlfreind.

 

We had a relationship for 2,1/2 months that began quickly romantically (everything but actual sex) in the first few weeks, then declined romantically over time. When the relationship began we were good freinds, now we are very good freinds.

 

Since the breakup on Monday, intimacy between us has not changed and maybe even improved a little, so we are not behaving like we broke up. She says she has strong friendship feelings for me, but is worried the romantic feelings may not be enough to sustain a relationship. She agrees though that if we can find that romantic spark then we would have a wonderful and strong relationship. She is diappointed like me it is not there and wishes things were different.

 

When I look back over the 10 weeks or so, I guess romantically I came a little too easily to her. Although in no way smothering, I was always available for romance, and there was no challenge for her to get it out of me. I think that was the problem and why the chemistry or 'spark' is not there yet. Maybe I also go too close to her as a freind in the early part.

 

My question is, is it possible to start again romantically. I mean use our strong friendship and some romantic feelings to begin again and let the romance increase naturally?. If I was to let her initiate at least the majority of the romance, maybe she would feel more comfortable, and we could speak more on the level with each other (she was very closed during the relationship). As freinds we adore each other, but sharing our feelings as people and being more relaxed may allow the chemistry between us to improve aswell.

 

Does anyone agree this possible, has anyone had a similar experience that worked?

 

Or is this approach unlikely to be successful?.

 

Please let me know because I would like the opportunity to start again with her.

[Nicky]

Hello to you all, I have a question which relates to my situation with my ex girlfreind. We had a relationship for 2,1/2 months that began quickly romantically (everything but actual sex) in the first few weeks, then declined romantically over time. When the relationship began we were good freinds, now we are very good freinds. Since the breakup on Monday, intimacy between us has not changed and maybe even improved a little, so we are not behaving like we broke up. She says she has strong friendship feelings for me, but is worried the romantic feelings may not be enough to sustain a relationship. She agrees though that if we can find that romantic spark then we would have a wonderful and strong relationship. She is diappointed like me it is not there and wishes things were different. When I look back over the 10 weeks or so, I guess romantically I came a little too easily to her. Although in no way smothering, I was always available for romance, and there was no challenge for her to get it out of me. I think that was the problem and why the chemistry or 'spark' is not there yet. Maybe I also go too close to her as a freind in the early part. My question is, is it possible to start again romantically. I mean use our strong friendship and some romantic feelings to begin again and let the romance increase naturally?. If I was to let her initiate at least the majority of the romance, maybe she would feel more comfortable, and we could speak more on the level with each other (she was very closed during the relationship). As freinds we adore each other, but sharing our feelings as people and being more relaxed may allow the chemistry between us to improve aswell.

 

Does anyone agree this possible, has anyone had a similar experience that worked? Or is this approach unlikely to be successful?.

 

Please let me know because I would like the opportunity to start again with her.

I'm sorry to say, but personally I think if it was meant to happen, it would have- no matter how you came onto her in the beginning.

 

When I think back to my own experiences, that is certainly the case for me, and I have been in your situation several times. I thought they were great guys, but at the end of the day, though very fond of them I just couldn't sleep with them.

 

I think it isn't possible to become too close to somebody as a friend in the beginning of a relationship. If she had feelings for you- that would have helped the intimacy.