Author one goal Posted February 21, 2009 Author Share Posted February 21, 2009 sorry never responded sooner, lots of work. Yes, Be yourself, remember it's ok to be nervous, most are when placing themselves on the line, be nice, don't try to be over confident you will posibly come across as a jerk. And if she says no remember that's ok too, it's not the end of the world. Never tried a xanax but would probably suggest you dont, just go as you are. good luck. Yea Im kinda nervous. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted February 22, 2009 Author Share Posted February 22, 2009 I got to the game early as usual, and said hi to her as usual and talked to her. Anyways so I did ask her if she was doing anything after the game and go hangout and shes like "I'm going home after" so I'm thinking "ok" and I asked to exchange phone #s and I go to get my phone, and going to give her my # as well and she's like "just give it later" and she was smiling, but the expression she gave was like "oh brother, whatever". She didn't talk to me the rest of the game when I walked by to go get a drink and take a piss. Then later in the third period another usher came to our section, and replaced her after the game why she moved to the next section over and stood by one of the security dudes. After I talked to her before the game she was talking to one of they guys who sits by where she stands and saw them look up at me, as well security guy came after that too. I'm thinking she must have informed security. I mean WTF. I was polite to her, I talk to her every game say hi and BS and shes always been nice to me before. I didn't think I did anything to creep her out. So if shes there on Tue, what should I say when I walk to my seat when she sees me? It might be kinda akward. Should I just say hi as usual, or just don't talk to her? Link to post Share on other sites
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 I don't get the exchanging #s thing...but whatever (meaning that I don't understand why you didn't just get HER number and kept the "power," so to speak). In this case, probably wouldn't have mattered. If she got offended over something so stupid, then that's not somebody I'd want to get involved with, anyway. Better to have found out now rather than later, huh? If she's there in your section when you get there, how about a short smile, polite nod of the head, walk past, and sit down. Then I wouldn't really bother beyond that. If you avoid first eye contact at all if she does look your way, you end up looking like you're scared of her, or something. But really, beyond the initial eye contact, I'd kind of avoid her eyes if she tries to catch your gaze at all (like she realized between the last game and Tue that she overreacted). Link to post Share on other sites
wuggle Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 Sorry to hear that she acted that way. Does sound like she over reacted a bit if you were nice and polite, but if she's not interested that's up to her. There is a whole world of people out there so don't get hung up on one at this stage. Next time your at the match just smile and say hi. If you act normal she will realise that that she probably over reacted. It may be that she has been hassled by people before which is why she felt uncomfortable, you really do never know. Still, you faced your fears and asked. That is important. Now next time you meet a nice girl it will be (slightly) easier. Eventually you will meet someone and you will both click. As long as you are nice with people and remember that they have the right to say no and make thier own mind up you will get there in the end. Remember , there are roughly 3 billion women on the planet, so dont start panicking yet. Was the game good ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted February 22, 2009 Author Share Posted February 22, 2009 Sorry to hear that she acted that way. Does sound like she over reacted a bit if you were nice and polite, but if she's not interested that's up to her. There is a whole world of people out there so don't get hung up on one at this stage. Next time your at the match just smile and say hi. If you act normal she will realise that that she probably over reacted. It may be that she has been hassled by people before which is why she felt uncomfortable, you really do never know. Still, you faced your fears and asked. That is important. Now next time you meet a nice girl it will be (slightly) easier. Eventually you will meet someone and you will both click. As long as you are nice with people and remember that they have the right to say no and make thier own mind up you will get there in the end. Remember , there are roughly 3 billion women on the planet, so dont start panicking yet. Was the game good ? No, they lost. It will be akward when I see her on Tue at the next game. What should I say? Should I just say hi as usual? whenever i asked a hot girl out i get rejected. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted February 23, 2009 Author Share Posted February 23, 2009 So what should I say to her when I see her on tue? Link to post Share on other sites
ddraper Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 It seems like she's a little creeped out. You have two options: 1, forget about her and move on. Find another girl to focus on. Or 2, something similar to what I initially said. The problem is you are coming on too strong and showed her too much interest too soon. You have to distance yourself from that and show her that she is not your be all and end all. You have to show her a lack of interest. If you want to have any chance of trying to make it work, try to be a little sarcastic, but in a non-serious manner. Link to post Share on other sites
wuggle Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 Have to agree with ddraper, she does sound a bit creeped out (rightly or not I really dont know). Suggest you're just polite next time you see her and move on. Remember , if she's not interested that's fine, that's her decision. There are lots more women out there. Dont get hung up on one and just be patient. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted February 23, 2009 Author Share Posted February 23, 2009 Have to agree with ddraper, she does sound a bit creeped out (rightly or not I really dont know). Suggest you're just polite next time you see her and move on. Remember , if she's not interested that's fine, that's her decision. There are lots more women out there. Dont get hung up on one and just be patient. She wasn't mean about it or anything, I dunno. I'll know tommorow if shes working. If shes interested she will tell me. No need to push it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted February 24, 2009 Author Share Posted February 24, 2009 Any last minute advice? Link to post Share on other sites
likestolaugh Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 just say hi... but don't ask her out again or anything. Frankly she sounds like she might have issues, if she got freaked out by what you did. Assuming what you described is how it all really went down.... we only know one side of the story here. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted February 24, 2009 Author Share Posted February 24, 2009 just say hi... but don't ask her out again or anything. Frankly she sounds like she might have issues, if she got freaked out by what you did. Assuming what you described is how it all really went down.... we only know one side of the story here. Yea. When I asked her out she wasnt mean, she smilled, was pleasant. I told her I thought she was cute right before i asked her out and she said "thanks" and it seemed like she knew where it was going after I said that lol. I'll just say hi and ask how shes doing. I dont want to come off as persistant. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted February 25, 2009 Author Share Posted February 25, 2009 I didn't get to see her, she wasnt there. Not that it means anything, but the game was against the Coyotes and not very many people there, and they only had a couple ushers on the mezzanine level until later in the game they had a couple of the ticket guys being ushers. The Blues do that alot though when the games dont sell well they don't scheduel a lot of ushers. I'll likely see her next tue since its a game against the Red Wings. Do you think she will forget I asked her out? Link to post Share on other sites
likestolaugh Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 um, no. she won't have forgotten. Link to post Share on other sites
SoulSearch_CO Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 I think you should bring a date to the next game. Link to post Share on other sites
Chinook Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 Um, no offence but you need to drop it now. She didn't respond well to the initial ask and she decided to stay away from where you might be. She's probably a little creeped out and maybe with some girls, this is a little of an over-reaction. But essentially what happened in the moment you asked her, she was alerted to your intentions and whilst you guys were just chatting, she had no need to do anything about it. But once you declared your intentions, she had to make some moves to avoid being in a situation to take it further. It's simply that she has avoided a negative situation or situation of conflict. Not unusual these days as a lot of people dont have the balls to say 'no, thank you for asking me though'. She simply didn't want to feel uncomfortable having to tell you no, then having to continue being nice with you afterwards. A lot of people are like that. The whole thing of standing by the security guy had the effect she wanted - she may have intended it or not - but you didn't go over to ask her again, so she succeeded in keeping you from approaching her again. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just congratulate yourself that you asked and be thankful that you know that she can't handle conflict... cuz down the line, it would likely have been an issue. Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted February 27, 2009 Author Share Posted February 27, 2009 SO any more advice for me on Tue? What should I say? If she mentions it how should I react? Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 She wasn't mean about it or anything, I dunno. I'll know tommorow if shes working. If shes interested she will tell me. No need to push it. You're right that there's no need to push it, because she's already told you by her actions that she's not interested. Whether she was strong or weak or whatever, you should understand from her behavior that she's not interested. Do you understand this? As far as what to say, take your cue from her and respond in kind. If she ignores you, don't make any contact. If she says "hi," respond with that and no more. I doubt it will go beyond that, if it even goes that far. No need to push it. Absolutely correct. Take your own advice here. Link to post Share on other sites
jadelil25 Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 Just go for it. Im sure it will be fine and if she says know at least you would have tried and you know. Just be casual about it. Maybe say something like do you fancy going for a drink or coffee after the game? Or do you have much planned for the weekend? If she says not much, take that as an opening to ask her. Good luck. Im sure that it will be fine! Link to post Share on other sites
confused_2008 Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 Just go for it. Im sure it will be fine and if she says know at least you would have tried and you know. Just be casual about it. Maybe say something like do you fancy going for a drink or coffee after the game? Or do you have much planned for the weekend? If she says not much, take that as an opening to ask her. Good luck. Im sure that it will be fine! Did you even read the thread? He tried that and it was not fine. Link to post Share on other sites
gopher Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 Based on my experiences...act like you never asked her out. Be nice, friendly, but keep it very impersonal. It seems like she is not interested, so now your main goal is to not ruin going to the games for yourself and not to make her uncomfortable... Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted February 27, 2009 Author Share Posted February 27, 2009 Based on my experiences...act like you never asked her out. Be nice, friendly, but keep it very impersonal. It seems like she is not interested, so now your main goal is to not ruin going to the games for yourself and not to make her uncomfortable... So what makes you think shes not interested? Is it because she said shes going home afterwards, and because she said "you can give me it later"? Link to post Share on other sites
likestolaugh Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 So what makes you think shes not interested? Is it because she said shes going home afterwards, and because she said "you can give me it later"? can't you tell from her reaction last time... the whole 'talking to security' thing.... that she's NOT interested. Link to post Share on other sites
gopher Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 So what makes you think shes not interested? Is it because she said shes going home afterwards, and because she said "you can give me it later"? Well, she switched sections and was talking to security as someone said....also, she never made it back to get your number. If she was interested, she would have gotten your number before you left. My question is...After you asked her, how much attention did you pay her the rest of the game? Were you constantly looking trying to catch her eye or did you play it cool? Link to post Share on other sites
Author one goal Posted February 28, 2009 Author Share Posted February 28, 2009 Well, she switched sections and was talking to security as someone said....also, she never made it back to get your number. If she was interested, she would have gotten your number before you left. My question is...After you asked her, how much attention did you pay her the rest of the game? Were you constantly looking trying to catch her eye or did you play it cool? I didn't talk to her anymore the rest of the game, and I wasnt checking her out the entire time. Link to post Share on other sites
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