I am at a MAJOR crossroads and don't know where to start.

[rubeegrl75]

I am 33 years old, and have hit a major rut of which i can't seem to get out of.

 

I am educated and make a good living. That's about all i am happy with right now.

 

I am in a relationship that is going nowhere, yet i hang onto it b/c it is better than nothing and the sex is great.

 

I am significantly overweight and can't seem to find motivation to get the weight off. To the point now where my joints get achy after awhile and i get tired easily. And I KNOW it's been an impediment in getting guys to ask me out. I've dealt with weight issues since i was a teenager, and this is the worst it's gotten. IM SO SICK OF IT. I am on weight watchers but i'm flaky.

 

I feel like life is passing me by and i have no control over any of it. I have younger cousins who are in serious relationships and at this rate will be married before me. Not that I personally care, but i loathe getting the "oh poor you" looks.

 

I feel so unmotivated and so stuck. And speaking of marriage, i don't even know if i want that. I don't like sharing my personal space, yet when he's gone i miss him. I don't like kids around me all the time, yet i can't imagine not having a family someday. i feel so confused. I don't feel comfortable talking to my family about it, i don't have a whole lot in common with them.

 

I feel like at 33....my direction is lacking. What's wrong with me????

[Mahatma]

What is wrong is you are 33 having a mid life crisis.

 

To me, it seems the only problem you are really having is your weight. Start by walking 3-4 mph on a treadmill and *slowly* start cutting out all the foods you deem bad for you.

 

I said slowly because you can not just cut out everything you like and expect that to work for long. Slowly get rid of sodas, then ice cream, then cakes... etc.

 

There is no rush, you have plenty of life to enjoy.

 

Do this, and everything else you spoke about will resolve itself.