kindasad Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 I have been divorced for 1 and a half years. We were married for 11 yrs. I just can't stop thinking about him. He found someone very shortly after we separated. I want to start dating again, but I get sad a lot lately. I sometimes wish we were still married. Any suggestions on how I can get over him. I am sure he got over me real quick!! Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 why did you divorce in the first place, what's the story? Link to post Share on other sites
suzanne2009 Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 Men can usually rebound faster when there is someone else involved. In my opinion, they just replace feelings for you with feelings for new person. It's okay to still think about him and it is okay to be sad. You were married to this person for 11 years. What you have to ask yourself is if the saddness is getting in the way of you getting on with your life? If so, you need to take measures to gain control back over your life. Start excercising, take a class, learn a new hobby or start going to individual counceling. It is okay to be sad as long as you are doing it and still moving forward with your life. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 That's not neccesarily true. men are equally hurt when we get dumped, we go through it too. But I guess when we move on in some form we do it quick because what's the point of moping? She's not coming back, and we have our needs to be met. That's all. So women can equally rebound just as quick. But women are emotional beings and thus it takes them a lil longer to situate themselves, then men. Link to post Share on other sites
TrustInYourself Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 I don't know I was pretty emotional when my wife left. Anger, sadness, loneliness, regret, helplessness, and pain were quite powerful during those first months. I would suggest dealing with your negative emotions, but also take time to focus on the positive. Things get better when you want them to. Link to post Share on other sites
stepka Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 If he got with someone else that quickly after the separation, then maybe he had her before the separation and lied about it. Yes, sadness is natural, and have yourself a good cry when you need one, but try to stay busy and productive. I've been working out a lot myself, and it helps a LOT. My future ex moved out less than a week ago, and that was a relief, but I'm sure I'll have a lot of sad times too. Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 I have been divorced for 1 and a half years. We were married for 11 yrs. I just can't stop thinking about him. He found someone very shortly after we separated. I want to start dating again, but I get sad a lot lately. I sometimes wish we were still married. Any suggestions on how I can get over him. I am sure he got over me real quick!! Without some clues as to why you divorced it's not possible to proffer reasons you can't get over it, or why he moved on so quickly. Kids? Lots of fighting? Someone cheat? the universe is full of "reasons". Link to post Share on other sites
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