chris250 Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 I've met my worst enemies on LS. I have never seen such negativity and bullying in my life. Even my high school bullies were more friendly than most people here. This whole message board is a big joke. There is nothing benefical to get out of it. Most of the posts here are borderline bragging. I have to be skeptical about any man who posts here and brags about how he's a great catch with the ladies and gets chased all the time. If you are such a great catch then why the hell are you even here? This place is for people who have relationship problems. Trust me. If I was such a great catch with the ladies I wouldn't even register an account here. This place is a waste of time if you don't have relationship problems. If you were really a great catch with the ladies then I doubt you would take the time to brag about it on here. I have no desire to stay here once I've resolved all my problems. I don't have many enemies in the off-line world but the ones I do treat me much better than the ones online. They don't give me nearly as much of a hard time as the bullies on LS. So I say I don't care if I get banned from this place. Most of the dating advice here sucks! I didn't come here to make friends. Good luck to everybody! None of your doom and gloom predictions about my life mean a hill of beans. Go on and continue to post your doom and gloom predictions to me but that doesn't make you right. Furthermore when it turns out that I've proven everyone wrong I won't be here anymore to talk about it. Link to post Share on other sites
kdark Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 I come here because i appreciate honesty and other peoples opinions. I'm sorry you don't feel the same... Link to post Share on other sites
Author chris250 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Share Posted February 19, 2009 Who cares what other people think? Why can't you think for yourself? Why do you need the approval of others before you do something with your life? Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 um ... don't let the door hit you in the fanny on your way out? Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 Bye! I'd like to say it was a pleasure...but well it wasn't. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chris250 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Share Posted February 19, 2009 Taking advice to heart on this site is the reason why relationships continue to be messed up. It's boards like these that mess up relationships! Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 I've met my worst enemies on LS. I have never seen such negativity and bullying in my life. I come here because i appreciate honesty and other peoples opinions. I'm sorry you don't feel the same... Why can't you think for yourself? Chris - you are showing a very negative, bullying attitude to kdark here. Why do you feel the need to do that? Link to post Share on other sites
blondesmiler Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 Who cares what other people think? Why can't you think for yourself? Why do you need the approval of others before you do something with your life? Thats what sites like these are for, to come to get others opinions on things. I don't understand why you would come here if you don't what advice, others points of views ~ people can only bring to the table what they've experienced, heard of, think, know and each is different. If you can't handle people expressing their views and opinions maybe this isn't the place too be and post. Perhaps your own private blog would be better? Link to post Share on other sites
nama Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 Who cares what other people think? Why can't you think for yourself? Why do you need the approval of others before you do something with your life? It's not about approval and caring about what other people think. Its about getting a fresh new perspective on your problem/ situation. Its about gaining insight from people who may have been in your situation before, have more experience. Just venting to people who don't know you and will listen. HOWEVER there are a few people on this site who do get side tracked from the original issue and use the forum to bash each other. But as with most things if you don't like it, its quite easy to leave. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chris250 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Share Posted February 19, 2009 Thats what sites like these are for, to come to get others opinions on things. I don't understand why you would come here if you don't what advice, others points of views ~ people can only bring to the table what they've experienced, heard of, think, know and each is different. If you can't handle people expressing their views and opinions maybe this isn't the place too be and post. Perhaps your own private blog would be better? How can you take the advice of faceless strangers? I don't trust anybody on here because I don't know what your motives are for giving the advice. It's much easier to deceive others through a message board. You can be anybody you want to be on here. Why should I believe you? Link to post Share on other sites
kdark Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 I don't need the approval of anybody else. But I believe that my first judgement on a situation isn't necessarily the best one. Hence why come here to ask for advice, and to dish out my opinion on a subject. From the previous posts of yours I have read, you just state your opinion on something, and expect everyone else to agree with you, no matter how ridiculous it sounds to the rest of the community. Granted some people's advice on this thread I would never take. But a few, like Geisha, TBF, carhill, TonyT, and alphamale have a great track record of giving sound advice. So now I ask, why are you here posting those kind of threads? Link to post Share on other sites
blondesmiler Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 How can you take the advice of faceless strangers? I don't trust anybody on here because I don't know what your motives are for giving the advice. It's much easier to deceive others through a message board. You can be anybody you want to be on here. Why should I believe you? because most people on here want to help or be helped. If you believe everyone is bad in the world then your world will naturally be a dark and gloomy place. I prefer to see that most people are good and only few are bad. Why do I seek advice, because sometimes outside perspectives are great and give us ideas about thinking slightly differently, tkaing a different stance, to how we might if left to our own devices. At the end of the day all we can do is listen, take on board, process and come out with our own answers. But you have to be willing to listen if nothing else. Link to post Share on other sites
blondesmiler Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 I don't need the approval of anybody else. But I believe that my first judgement on a situation isn't necessarily the best one. Hence why come here to ask for advice, and to dish out my opinion on a subject. From the previous posts of yours I have read, you just state your opinion on something, and expect everyone else to agree with you, no matter how ridiculous it sounds to the rest of the community. He is right about that Chris, you do seem to think everyone is against you and that your opinion is correct all the time. No one is correct 100% of the time. Most others on here will sit, think, digest what others say and come up with their own conclusions with the added help from others from which they have chosen to hear what they have to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chris250 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Share Posted February 19, 2009 because most people on here want to help or be helped. If you believe everyone is bad in the world then your world will naturally be a dark and gloomy place. I prefer to see that most people are good and only few are bad. Why do I seek advice, because sometimes outside perspectives are great and give us ideas about thinking slightly differently, tkaing a different stance, to how we might if left to our own devices. At the end of the day all we can do is listen, take on board, process and come out with our own answers. But you have to be willing to listen if nothing else. How do you know most people just want to help? Are you able to read their minds and find out their true motives? I'm not about to leave this site just because I want to think for myself and come to my own conclusions. Maybe the forum would be more productive if more people were encouraged to come to their own conclusions instead of blindly taking the advice of faceless strangers who are not guaranteed to have their best interests at heart. This site is obviously not for free thinkers. It's certainly good for people who want to fuel their own insecurities and fears. Go ahead and spout your doom and gloom predictions about my future but let me come to my own conclusions about that. That's the only way I can learn from my mistakes. I can't learn from mistakes by being told what to think. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chris250 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Share Posted February 19, 2009 He is right about that Chris, you do seem to think everyone is against you and that your opinion is correct all the time. No one is correct 100% of the time. Most others on here will sit, think, digest what others say and come up with their own conclusions with the added help from others from which they have chosen to hear what they have to say. The only reason I'm aggressive here is because I don't speak my mind in the real world. I'm more inclined to let things slide and not pick battles in the offline world. I come here to release it all. Trust has to be earned too. I don't just trust people until they've earned it. We require that in all walks of life. Before you hire someone they have to prove themselves trustworthy to perform the job responsibly. You need to check for references and other things. I think most posters give advice here just to satisfy their own egos! Why else would anyone get mad that I won't blindly take the advice? Because I won't stroke their ego. Link to post Share on other sites
blondesmiler Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 The only reason I'm aggressive here is because I don't speak my mind in the real world. I'm more inclined to let things slide and not pick battles in the offline world. I come here to release it all. Trust has to be earned too. I don't just trust people until they've earned it. We require that in all walks of life. Before you hire someone they have to prove themselves trustworthy to perform the job responsibly. You need to check for references and other things. And then moan and call people bullies because we do not agree with everything you have too say. Your very Ironic. Link to post Share on other sites
kdark Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 Not everything is black and white Chris. With all of the advice that gets thrown around on this site, their are infinitly varying degrees of how to use that advice. For some they will just take the advice and put it in the back of their head. Some will take the advice and use it EXACTLY as it was given. Some won't use it at all. Now I think it's safe to say that most people came to this site looking for advice on a problem in their life. Now some of those people leave once their problem is solved, and never come back again... Some stay and truly enjoy giving their advice and helping people work through their problems. That's why I'm here. Now I ask again, why are you here Chris? Link to post Share on other sites
Author chris250 Posted February 19, 2009 Author Share Posted February 19, 2009 I can't do a reference check on anybody here. That's why I can't trust anybody on a message board. If you are so trustworthy then you wouldn't be threatened when your advice is challenged and analyzed and investigated. I don't consider myself being bullied because others disagree with me. I'm being bullied because I've been told that I'm not worthy to be in a relationship just because of the way I look or the kind of job I have or the fact that I don't want to be the leader in the household. Link to post Share on other sites
era Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 Chris - I think you are expecting waaaay too much from a web site.... Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 I've read some of your stuff, Chris. High-quality trolling; well done. Link to post Share on other sites
kdark Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 If it means anything to you Chris, I truly enjoy hearing what you have to say about things. They may be a little out there for most members of LS and may be presented in a "manifesto" manner, but it's always nice to hear differing opinions. Especially yours. Link to post Share on other sites
nana yaw II Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 OP, some thoughts that sprung in my mind while reading the thread: - Why are you so irate? Even if men post here to brag, so what? You cannot control what they type here. furthermore, who should it bother you so much? The men who brag about getting lots of action and women are faceless strangers (which are your own words) so it shouldn't really matter, should it? - You say you are being bullied? How? Why? If people here are antagonistic towards you, you maybe be contributing to it. Why would a poster automatically pick on you, if you didn't yourself act in a hostile way? Human interaction doesn't usually work like that, in that people don't normally attack others without any justification or provocation. - Also, your post about being less aggressive in real life seemed interesting. Why not be more assertive in real life, instead of posting aggressive comments to faceless strangers on a website? I'm tempted to say "nobody here cares if you feel roughed up in real life", but that would be too harsh. In honesty though, i seldom get offended by what people on the internet say or write. On weekdays I spend about eight hours at work, come home, relax, chat with some MSN friends, watch TV, listen to the radio, prepare for the next working day, and then go to bed. A person's comment on the Web shouldn't affect me living my life, should it? I cannot speak for anybody else, but it seems a bit strange to vent out on a website, when people are simply busy living their own lives. - and lastly, why should it matter what a person's motives are in giving advice? IMO, the only issues are - is the advice pertinent to the problem posed? Does it offer a solution acceptable to the person experiencing a problem? Does the advice gel with a person's own reasoning, temperament and values? What i mean by the last point is that advice can often come from subjectivity. Say if a person feels stressed a lot, and a poster here posts in response that they should pray to God to relieve the stress. Well, perhaps prayer can have positive psychological effects, who knows? But what if the poster posing the problem doesn't believe in God? What if the person posing the problem despises religion/spirituality with a passion? In that sense, how can praying to God be of much practical benefit? I think you need to take a chill pill and recognise that this is only a web site. I'd suggest to literally get a pen and paper, and write down your problems in the real world and figure out a detailed solution for each problem. It's more effective and beneficial to you than venting on a website. Link to post Share on other sites
wuggle Posted February 19, 2009 Share Posted February 19, 2009 Nana are you growing up and offering sensible advice ?? never thought I'd see the day. nice to see. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Feel free to abstain. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 Feel free to abstain. :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
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