Mag-Lone-Freak Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 and until I let go of my latest crush, his show of little interest in me will kill me...we've been in touch on and off online for 2 years, now we're txting, but I'm the one keeping it up. He responds, but with little to say, and sometimes like today won't answer a question. I've been told by my sis we should talk on the phone to get a feel for our rapport, especially if I want to go down and visit, but I'm a bit shy. Neither of us really has what it takes for an LDR right now:( But does that mean we can't be friends? Do guys take for granted girls they don't know in another country from the internet? From MY experience with 2 in the past, it seems like it, even if we've exchanged many messages...What I also think it is, is that he's a popular social bunny with lots of girls after him, same was with the other ones in the past. Link to post Share on other sites
Shnuggles Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 Sooo did you date? Have a relationship of any sort? 2 years is a long time. My 2 cents, move on. I usually give girl 2-3 weeks to see if they really do like me before I move on. Its pretty clear by then if they like you or not. It worries me you have tried to keep in touch with this person for 2 years and still feel so deeply about them. In my experience us guys will put a lot of effort into getting a girl we like if we know we could have them. This guy doesn't sound like his interested. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 For two years you have been keeping this "relationship" going. You have been doing ALL of the work. You get ignored (like the other day when you send a message and he doesn't respond) and you forgive it/forget it and proceed to keep messaging. Aren't you sick of not being a priority? Aren't you sick of being treated as an afterthought? You deserve so much better. You need some healthy self esteem boosts and you need to realize you should NEVER be doing all of the work to keep a relationship going. You deserve more but you won't get it as long as you keep holding on to the idea of this guy. And it seems you've been in this same situation before...? You said: "What I also think it is, is that he's a popular social bunny with lots of girls after him, same was with the other ones in the past." So what is the real deal? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mag-Lone-Freak Posted February 22, 2009 Author Share Posted February 22, 2009 No, we don't have a romantic relationship, we've just been keeping in touch on myspace very casually while flirting with other people, just recently we've been flirting via txt. I was supposed to visit him, but he said he didn't have time, then he got in a relationship, but said it won't last, and said early this year I could come down, it doesn't look like he's in a relationship now, we're casual txting and no invite yet. It may not be personal, he has expressed that basically he can't afford a LDR. Neither really can I, I guess I'm just being desperate considering a fling with him if I can't get anything more out of it... I should probably have enough of this, but I bond with people easily and like to be forgiving and open minded thinking thats just him... I AM open to someone new if they strike me, but until then... I'll talk to him so long as he does...? Link to post Share on other sites
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