Keith35 Posted October 3, 2003 Share Posted October 3, 2003 Hello everyone! I have a dilema here. I really need some advice if I'm going to figure out what steps to take in my current situation. I'm 35 Now, But when I was 18 I met a woman who was 15. I was currently in the Marine Corps and came home from basic training when I met her. We spent the next 2 weeks together and really hit it off. After I left I found out that a month later she had gone with another person. So at that point I decided to end it. But I never forgot the feeling she gave me when I was with her. I got married to my Currently Xwife and had 2 Children. During my 11 year Marriage I often thought of her and what it would have been like if we stayed together, her freinds use to tell me that she realized she had made a big mistake. I honestly can say that I did talk to her on some occasions during my marriage, just to say hello and see how she was doing. Me and my wife decided that our marriage was more of a convenience than a marriage so we decided to seperate. And it went smoothly I may add. So I looked up this woman to find out if she was single. And to my surprise she was. (at least I thought she was). I found out a couple of weeks later that she had dated a man for 5 years after we had broken up some 16 yrs ago. And then I found out he was in prison and getting out in a year. So she had stuck by his side for the 9 years he was in already in Prison, I mean visiting, she did have other realationships. There was no problems getting back with her. We both admitted that we have thought about eachother frequently. Keep in mind I just got seperated. So adjusting to a new life was difficult and I know I put alot of burden on her emotionally. She swore her relationship with him was over. She stopped seeing him completely and spent all of her time with me. It was wonderful and we both fell in Love. He just got out, she broke up with me saying that even though she loves me she needs to get closure with him. I always knew that day would come, but I figured we would do it together and that she wouldn't walk away and try to do it herself. I understand she is confused. She use to Love this man too. Do I sit and wait or just move on. This guy use to call her rotten names, when he find out we were going out he threatened her and me, The names were the names you would say "OH MY GOD" He was an absolute jerk to her. He cheated on her before he went to prison but she still stayed there for him. I respected her, I cared about her, I enjoyed the smiles we gave eachother. Will this pass and will she come back, or should I just give up and move on. We have been seperated for a week. I have already been asked out on 3 dates and have declined, but how much longer should I wait before she decides she wants to be with him or me. Loves waits for noone, time heals all wounds. How much time should I give her before moving on? Any Advice Link to post Share on other sites
thatgirl88 Posted October 3, 2003 Share Posted October 3, 2003 I say move on but stay open to her. I had a friend go through something similar and the girl had closure with her ex and came back to him. Link to post Share on other sites
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