monkophile Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 When someone says a guy may be afraid of his own feelings, does that mean he is torn and doesn't know what to do? For example, this guy and I have been friends for years and recently flirted with each other. Now he's ignoring me. A friend told me that maybe the reason for the ignoring is that he's afraid of his own feelings. Does she mean that he doesn't know whether to like me (friend) or love me (more than friend) and so doesn't know how to confront it? Link to post Share on other sites
Adri Ana Posted February 20, 2009 Share Posted February 20, 2009 He is probably at the moment confronting his own self . Let some time pass . He will recognise you again afterwards .. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 When someone says a guy may be afraid of his own feelings, does that mean he is torn and doesn't know what to do? Because there's a 20+ year age gap between you two he probably figures it's not worth opening that door. A friend told me that maybe the reason for the ignoring is that he's afraid of his own feelings So, you don't know this for a fact? It's just your friend assuming or thinking that's what he is thinking? My advice to you hasn't changed, except that you're going to drive yourself NUTS if you don't let go and move on, forget about this guy. How many threads have you started asking more or less the same thing? It's been over 2 months and he hasn't contacted you. If he were truly interested in a friendship, keeping intouch or even a relationship he would have contacted you. He hasn't done that and you hanging on to him is only hurting you.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author monkophile Posted February 21, 2009 Author Share Posted February 21, 2009 This was more or less a generic question because you hear that term "he's just afraid of his own feelings" all the time; sort of like the other ever-popular phrase "it's not you it's me." I just used the situation going on in my life as an example because my friend used that term. I have slowly but surely forgotten about him; I don't think about him as much, but am still going to send that email in a couple weeks - just to get his honest response so that I understand. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 don't think about him as much, but am still going to send that email in a couple weeks - just to get his honest response so that I understand. And if he doesn't return your email? What happens then? Will you take his silence as his answer that he isn't interested? The guy should've had just disappeared and ignored you like that, but unfortunately this is how he has decided to handle things. It's not right and he's a jerk for not ending it properly with you. He may not care and may not feel he owes you any kind of explanation. If I were you I wouldn't send that email at all. It's just going to upset you more when he doesn't reply back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author monkophile Posted February 22, 2009 Author Share Posted February 22, 2009 And if he doesn't return your email? What happens then? Will you take his silence as his answer that he isn't interested? The guy should've had just disappeared and ignored you like that, but unfortunately this is how he has decided to handle things. It's not right and he's a jerk for not ending it properly with you. He may not care and may not feel he owes you any kind of explanation. If I were you I wouldn't send that email at all. It's just going to upset you more when he doesn't reply back. I appreciate your advice, but I'm still gonna send it. And if I don't hear back from him, then that is most definitely it. I can't force him to do anything and if he wants to be all immature about handling this, then I can't do anything about it - c'est la vie. Either way, I'm gonna get an answer (silence or an actual response). Hopefully he'll respond and not ignore this email, too. I'm gonna title the email "are you okay?" - hopefully that'll grab his attention. I was gonna title it "important - please read" but figured that might be a little intimidating for him. Edit: BTW - does anyone know if there's a way I can get a confirmation that he did indeed open the email without him knowing? I use hotmail. I know there's a way to get a confirmation but the receiver would know because a friend back home, whenever I open one of her emails a box pops up that says "so-and-so would like confirmation that you read this email. Is this okay?" Because at this point I don't even know if he reads them or sees my name and automatically deletes them. If it's the latter then I'm screwed. And I definitely do not want him to find out I'm "tracking" this particular email cause then I think I'd just make things worse (if there is a worse). Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 I can't force him to do anything and if he wants to be all immature about handling this, In one sense he isn't being immature about this. He's chosen to ignore and not respond after 2 months. His silence IS his answer.. For all you know he's blocked your email address. And even if there is a way of tracking to see if he's opened your email, it still doesn't mean he's going to respond. I use hotmail. I know there's a way to get a confirmation but the receiver would know because a friend back home, whenever I open one of her emails a box pops up that says "so-and-so would like confirmation that you read this email. Is this okay?" I think this only works if he or you uses outlook express or if you both use hotmail/MSN. Either way, he could easily check the option NO and you still wouldn't get a read receipt. Link to post Share on other sites
Beauty28 Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 I'm gonna title the email "are you okay?" - hopefully that'll grab his attention. I was gonna title it "important - please read" but figured that might be a little intimidating for him. I would title the email 'F... You' and see how that grabs his attention! LOL! Sorry... I'm jus being a jerk! Link to post Share on other sites
Author monkophile Posted February 23, 2009 Author Share Posted February 23, 2009 I would title the email 'F... You' and see how that grabs his attention! LOL! Sorry... I'm jus being a jerk! That made me laugh! Link to post Share on other sites
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