mr.dream merchant Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 My GF will be starting a new job at a Social Security Building in the first week of March. Currently she is a teller at a bank and has only one male coworker, so you could imagine an insecure guy like me being a-okay with that. The problem is, her new job, is loaded with guys, young ones at that, and my GF is very attractive and friendly and polite if approached. She isn't flirty, but her kindness and politeness can be taken as flirty if you were a guy trying to get in her pants. I'm worried that she'll be the fresh meat of the office and pursued by a bunch of horny young guys because they all think they have a shot at her due to her normal polite behaviour. I always just play this scenario in my head of some random male coworker who'll be working near her cubicle, just staying in her ear all day at work, which is 9 hours a day 5 days out of the week, that's more than I get to see her for sure. I picture this guy being very suave, handsome, articulate, and everything she'd ever want in a possible boyfriend. I know she'd never cheat on me but my insecurities get the best of me when I picture her flirting with her male coworkers everyday. I get worried that if that does happen she'll become very close with this male coworker and continue to spend time with him outside of work ultimately leading to emotional and/or physical affairs. Now obviously the problem isn't her, its me, and I'd like a couple pointers from fellow insecure or previously insecure spouses, bf's, gf's, and everything in between on how to get over this ridiculous worry of mine. Link to post Share on other sites
ducknrun Posted February 21, 2009 Share Posted February 21, 2009 Have you told her how you feel? There is nothing wrong with being kind and polite even if it is taken the wrong way. As long as she wants to be with you and can draw a boundry line everything will be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
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