Losing my wife

[Rhardin]

Ok, so this is gonna be kinda a long story so i apologize in advance. My wife and I have been together for almost 10 years, only married for about 7 months. Our relationship for eachother was excellent in all ways until about 5 months ago. she worked in a fast food restaurant and after about 6 months of working there, another guy started working there with her. She ended up becoming friends with him, as did I for a while simply because we played the same online games together. He was going through a divorce with his wife at the time, getting a restraining order put on him for whatever reason. (Him and his wife both had different stories about it). Anyway, he got booted out of his house, and my wife asked me if it was ok if he stayed with us for a few days until he got his head back together. Big mistake on my part saying yes. Well prior to him moving in with us, my wife would go visit him at his place before he got kicked out just to "comfort" him in his tough times. I had problems with it becuase she usually blew me off to go over to his house. I trusted my wife, and just prayed to god that nothing was going on. Well he has now been living with us for 2.5 months and was only supposed to be for a a couple of weeks. He finally left a few days ago due to me stepping him and making him pretty upset. He ended up pulling a knife out on my wife, making threats to myself and I, so obviously we called the police and he left that night. However, during the arguement between us three, my wife yells up the stairs to me while she is talking to him at the door that they had slept with eachother....I just about dropped to the floor. The two of them go to quite a few parties with eachother which i am highly against, just because she is married to me, i dont think it is right to be going to parties with another guy, friend or not, and get drunk and do whatever. I believe she is screwing herself over big time. I know that i have been lied to about where she has been going and what she has been doing. The last three nights she said that she has been over at one of her girldfriends houses and wouldnt be back home too late. Well she never came home until after i had been well off at work. This morning was the same thing, she went to a friends party last night, i got mad because the mad she cheated on me with was there, and she didnt come home until 10 minutes before she had to go to work. She said she wanted to see other people and that we have been together for 10 years and she is sorry that she likes to have a good time and I dont..which isnt true. So she said she wanted to see other people. The people she goes to hang out with are drunks and very rude people for the most part and i dont agree with it. I dont want a divorce, she is the world to me and i would and have done everything for her. Any advice for a loving husband?

[lkjh]

Dump her. She brings this guy into your home and bangs him, he pulls a knife on her, she screams that she is sleeping with him, and for the past couple of nights she doesn't come home. This is a easy one. do you have any kids?

[edgeof27]

Ok, so this is gonna be kinda a long story so i apologize in advance.

My wife and I have been together for almost 10 years, only married for about 7 months.

Our relationship for each other was excellent in all ways until about 5 months ago.

she worked in a fast food restaurant and after about 6 months of working there, another guy started working there with her.

She ended up becoming friends with him, as did I for a while simply because we played the same online games together.

He was going through a divorce with his wife at the time, getting a restraining order put on him for whatever reason. (Him and his wife both had different stories about it).

Anyway, he got booted out of his house, and my wife asked me if it was ok if he stayed with us for a few days until he got his head back together. Big mistake on my part saying yes.

Well prior to him moving in with us, my wife would go visit him at his place before he got kicked out just to "comfort" him in his tough times.

I had problems with it becuase she usually blew me off to go over to his house.

I trusted my wife, and just prayed to god that nothing was going on.

Well he has now been living with us for 2.5 months and was only supposed to be for a a couple of weeks.

He finally left a few days ago due to me stepping him and making him pretty upset.

He ended up pulling a knife out on my wife, making threats to myself and I, so obviously we called the police and he left that night.

However, during the arguement between us three, my wife yells up the stairs to me while she is talking to him at the door that they had slept with eachother....I just about dropped to the floor.

The two of them go to quite a few parties with eachother which i am highly against,

just because she is married to me,

i dont think it is right to be going to parties with another guy,

friend or not,

and get drunk and do whatever.

I believe she is screwing herself over big time.

I know that i have been lied to about where she has been going and what she has been doing.

The last three nights she said that she has been over at one of her girldfriends houses and wouldnt be back home too late.

Well she never came home until after i had been well off at work.

This morning was the same thing, she went to a friends party last night, i got mad because the mad she cheated on me with was there, and she didnt come home until 10 minutes before she had to go to work.

She said she wanted to see other people and that we have been together for 10 years and she is sorry that she likes to have a good time and I dont..which isnt true.

So she said she wanted to see other people.

The people she goes to hang out with are drunks and very rude people for the most part and i dont agree with it.

I dont want a divorce, she is the world to me and i would and have done everything for her.

Any advice for a loving husband?

 

It's a NO BRAINER, DUMP HER, ASAFP,

 

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[Rhardin]

No, no kids. We both really wanted them. Just not sure where i went wrong if I did at all. My wife means everything to me, what she did was terribly wrong and the first time and im hoping this is a phase. Im gonna be talking to her tonight over dinner and see what she really wants out our marriage. If i dont get a good truthful answer out of her, im pulling the plug. I want this to work, but im afraid its not going to. We have been living with eachother for 4.5 years and I never for once saw this day coming. We have always been so happy and I dont see how so much change for the worse is such a short amount of time.

[cyabye]

No, no kids.

Thank god.

 

We both really wanted them. Just not sure where i went wrong if I did at all.

You can still want kids, just NOT with her. You went wrong by allowing her to disrespect you and your marriage by allowing this OM to come into your home.

 

My wife means everything to me, what she did was terribly wrong and the first time and im hoping this is a phase.

What kind of phase? What she did is a DEAL BREAKER IMHO.

 

Im gonna be talking to her tonight over dinner and see what she really wants out our marriage.

She has already showed you what your marriage means to her. There is NO marriage at this point.

 

If i dont get a good truthful answer out of her, im pulling the plug.

You got a truthful answer from her when she yelled she had slept with the OM. Sorry to say she beat you to "pulling the plug."

 

I want this to work, but im afraid its not going to.

It won't.

 

We have been living with eachother for 4.5 years and I never for once saw this day coming. We have always been so happy and I dont see how so much change for the worse is such a short amount of time.

Most don't. Again, you allowed this OM to enter the marriage home for 2 months. What she did is 100% her fault and responsibility. However, you made it easier for her and OM to bang away at your expense. I wouldn't say anything to her and serve her with divorce papers ASAP.

 

One more piece of advice. Think with your brain and be strong. Do NOT follow your emotions.

 

Hope this helps,

cyabye

[mark982]

buddy, it's rough, but toss her out. she works in a fast food place,so you know the $$ rolling in:D. let her see how tough it is in the real world.now you know why his ex got a pfa on him.if the police were at your house because of him, i'd get one against him also.get money seperated.