Island Girl Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Cora- I live near where you are going... if you need anything you can PM me. GL. It can be a little scary but you are doing the right thing. -Charlotte P.S. I take something for the nerves. It helps. I get them too. I feel like an absolute maniac for 2 days beforehand and a week after. It's normal I think... That is so sweet of you LikeCharlotte! I the people on LS. Awwwwwwwww Link to post Share on other sites
Sweet326 Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 You will do just fine! I am very slow to warm up as well and was very nervous going to another country by myself and spending a week with someone I barely new. All those questions came up, "What if he doesn't like me" or "What if I don't like him". It all turned out great. Like us, you will have so much to talk about and share with each other. My guy admitted to me a couple days later that he was extremely nervous also!! Have fun and enjoy your time, things will come naturally. Can't wait for updates! Link to post Share on other sites
LikeCharlotte Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 That is so sweet of you LikeCharlotte! I the people on LS. Awwwwwwwww Thank you... I would be half insane without LS! Seriously Cora... I live in NJ. I am a woman too. I know how scary it can be. I am a safe place if you need one. I can give you some contact via pm for emergencies or if you just want to get an idea of where you will be going and what you need to know about that area. NJ isn't that big and I can get anywhere pretty fast. I know it seems strange because you don't know me but I want you to feel supported and safe while you are up here. Can you PM? hrrrmmmm. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cora Posted February 24, 2009 Author Share Posted February 24, 2009 Wow am I so glad I found this forum!!! Everyone is so nice and very helpful!!! LikeCharlotte: That means so much to me!! I would really appreciate that, you just don't know how much girl!!! I am still new here so how do you PM? Is there a way to contact other members privately? I haven't figured all this out yet LOL so please just bare with me. Thank you so much guys!! You are all so amazing!!! :) Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Wow am I so glad I found this forum!!! Everyone is so nice and very helpful!!! LikeCharlotte: That means so much to me!! I would really appreciate that, you just don't know how much girl!!! I am still new here so how do you PM? Is there a way to contact other members privately? I haven't figured all this out yet LOL so please just bare with me. Thank you so much guys!! You are all so amazing!!! :) There is a limitation. You have to be a member for a length of time and have a certain number of posts here as well. I don't know how you can exchange information safely. Certainly you can't do it here out in the open... Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 I think you just have to have 100 posts. Not sure, though. Or pay the 2.50 a month and be supporting member. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cora Posted February 25, 2009 Author Share Posted February 25, 2009 Ughh yeah I'm not even half way there! Well I don't mind posting my email if that is okay? Is there any kind of rule on here stating we can't post our email? Link to post Share on other sites
LikeCharlotte Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 Unfortunately I wont put my email here... I don't think you should either. Its not a good idea for lots of reasons. I was thinking that it might be a good idea to make or share a chat program ID... like yahoo, msn or aim. Maybe we could both make one just for this and delete them so we don't have to worry about strangers. How long do we have to figure it out? When are you leaving? There has to be a simple way to exchange info. Edit:Apparently a one month subscription to LS is only 2.50... You could get a PM with one. I'll give it some thought. I'm sure I'll come up with something by tomorrow. :bunny: How are the nerves? teehee. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cora Posted February 25, 2009 Author Share Posted February 25, 2009 I think that's a great idea about the chat program ID....I'll make one up tomorrow and post it. I don't leave until the 19th of March so we still have some time. Nerves are okay right now but I'm sure they are just gonna get worse as the time for me to leave gets closer! I just can't believe this is really happening. I have wanted to see him for so long!!! Thank you so much for everything LikeCharlotte. I can't express how much I appreciate all of this!!! :) Link to post Share on other sites
LikeCharlotte Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 In the meantime Cora, keep making posts here and head over to the off-topic thread (or others that interest you) and get busy posting. You might be very close to pm privileges, which would make things much easier! I could do 50 posts in a day easily! I know that I really appreciate when other people take me and my LDR seriously... I'm with ya' sweetie. Link to post Share on other sites
Nicodaemos Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 I am, or was, partly in his situation. Trying like a dog to get ahead. I offered to go to her, but it still would not be for 4 or 5 more months. at the earliest, and only if everything went well. I understand the concern others have about meeting someone IRL that you truly, cant know. Its the sad trurh of this world, always has been. So, you have two choices, either live in fear, and wonder what could have been, or arm youself as best you can, and strike out into the dangerous unkown. My advice, meet him. That you will be staying in a hotel, great, meeting public first, great. What if you get a bit more intimate than that, and return to his place, rather than your hotel, is something to account for. Asking him to come to you, when he may be truly wanting to, but anable, then judging him on that issue alone is unfair. If you didnt have that extra money saved, would you be able to go? Maybe, if things start to head to a more private setting, ask him to your hotel. Inform the hotel staff on duty of the situation, that you are travelling to meet someone for the first time, and maybe have them call up to the room in the late morning. (dont want to interrupt a wonderful wakeup call now would ya eh?) Check in with the clerk when you get there with him so they can see him. Maybe even ask him to surrender his license to the attendant. Now, some would see that as blatant distrust, and wouldnt do it, even though they are entirely trust worthy. Others, that should never be able to see your back, would do it. The only thing you can do is take precautions, but if you take too many, then you arent really trying anything. Before you go, get a tazer, or at least some pepper spray, and dont keep it in the door, if you drive, you cant reach the door if someone opens it, but maybe on the visor, or between the seats. Also, bring it with you when you meet him, and especially if you go to his place. Telling him you have it could do a few things. If he is a predator, he knows your defence, and can prepar for it, OR, may deter one from trying anything knowing you are prepared yourself. If he is honest, it may tell him you dont trust him, and cause hurt, OR, may tell him you are smart, and arent afraid to do what is needed to protect youself. Like I say, go and meet him. But protect youself. To what extent is determined by what you know about yourself and him. Enjoy the time together. I hope it works for yall. Link to post Share on other sites
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