dgbt Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 Hi everyone, so i'm having a bit of a problem with this girl that ive been seeing for a while. like we've only started going out a few weeks ago but it seems like things are a bit weird right now. basically to fill you in, im a 3rd year in college and i'm on this recreational rowing team at my school. i met this girl on the team that i really like and im pretty sure she likes me back. we've gone on a few dates already....including a date on valetntine's day where she invited me to stay at her place for a while after the date. so i know that sounds like things are going well and all....but today was kind of awkward between us for some reason. so basically, after our valentine's day date last weekend, she has been texting me pretty much everyday and stuff like that and it was all good. but today at practice, it seemed like she didnt want to talk to me. when i said hi to her she acted awkward and didnt really make eye contact with me and instead started chatting it up with a guy standing right next to me. i could tell she wasnt really into him cuz she kept looking back at me every once in a while to see if i was looking but seriously...whats the deal? when we first started going out (only like a couple weeks ago) she couldnt take her eyes off me and i would always catch her staring at me. but now it almost seems like she makes the effort to ignore me as much as possible. is this some kind of game that women play? actually, to makes things even more awkward, i was supposed to go with her to a basketball game tonight at our school, but seeing that she didnt want to talk to me i couldnt really bring it up. any ideas why she was acting this way? has she "lost interest" in me after only one week even though we have been texting each other like everyday? (we didnt see each other during this week so i thought she would be happy to see me today finally. apparently this was not the case). any advice would be deeply appreciated! thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 So you texted all week but didn't see each other. Why? Why didn't you ask her out since Valentine's Day? Why didn't you make any effort to see her before running into each other at practice today? And why didn't you ask her about the game tonight BEFORE today? You know, like when you were texting yesterday or the day before. If you didn't ask her out all week, and you didn't say anything about the game, she may have thought YOU were losing interest so she backed off. Link to post Share on other sites
lamaman3 Posted February 22, 2009 Share Posted February 22, 2009 She invited you to stay at her place after a date on valentines day? Did you kiss her? Touch her? If not - she probably think you cant read the signs, has no balls, and maybe are gay/wont make a move - so shes moving on to a guy who isnt afraid to rarvage her. Link to post Share on other sites
Mercury888 Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 Did you kiss her? Touch her? If not - she probably think you cant read the signs, has no balls, and maybe are gay This sounds like a strong possibility. Can't really say without more specific details though. Although its kind of confusing since she kept texting you constantly after Valentine's Day. Link to post Share on other sites
princess Linda Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 omgosh* these people who are replying to u are gay* not u! don't worry.. women are moody .. heck i know i am.. one min i'm hot the next im cold* of course i'm not extreme & i'm sure neither is this girl you're interested in.. she might be trying to get your attention by hoping to make you a little jealous or whatever by talking to another guy in front of you. maybe she wants you to make a bit more effort.. not even sexually but maybe emotionally.. who's doing most of the texting? sounds like her.. so maybe u should impress her with how much you are 'worried' about this situation.. let her know you do care & are intersted.. how about asking her to the movies.. and then surprise her with a dozen pink roses (those are my fav!) .. and just straight up be happy and enjoy her company. there's nothing a girl loves more than an honest & humble man! you be the pursuer!!! GO GET HER! xoxo good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgbt Posted February 23, 2009 Author Share Posted February 23, 2009 haha ok so i went to her place after our date on valentines day...you guys think im gay and didnt do anything just because i didnt brag about it all over this forum? i have enough confidence in myself than to be bragging about my sexual life with people on the internet thank you Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 Great, so you hooked up on Valentine's Day, and you haven't called her or asked her out on date since. No wonder she backed off. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 23, 2009 Share Posted February 23, 2009 OP, accuracy helps us understand your relationship better. So I'm clear, you went to her place after your Valentine's day date? Did you have any sort of sexual relations? IME, if a woman invites you to her place alone, that's pretty serious. I would've called her the next day (no texting) and asked her out again. Romance is about flow. Are you interested in romance here? Link to post Share on other sites
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