sunflower745 Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Well my fiancee told me that he texts this stupid girl. I don't know if they just met on myspace or what. Anyway, he told me that he only talks to her cause she doesn't have good friends. He says he gives her advice cuz she likes this guy that treats her bad. Ohhhh what a good friend comforting her (sarcasm) what the hell?? The thing is I don't even think they know each other in real life just through myspace crap. I hate it sooooooooo much!!!!!!!! Can someone please tell me what they think??? PLEASE!!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
wuggle Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Psycho is a bit stong. Either he's flirting with her in the hopes of starting something or he's really nice. Tell him it bothers you and ask him to stop. then judge him on what he does next. Link to post Share on other sites
Geishawhelk Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 I think you need to calm down!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why is she stupid???????????????????? If she needs a friend, maybe you could make friends with her too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How about that??????????????????? Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 It is nonsense and tell him to stop it. He is basically telling you that he and this woman are "girlfriends". How unattractive in a real man. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 I think you need to calm down!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why is she stupid???????????????????? If she needs a friend, maybe you could make friends with her too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How about that??????????????????? <falls off chair laughing> You may be over-reacting but what the hell do I know? I don't text, I don't do Myspace or Facebook, I rarely even carry a phone. I'm hopelessly 20th Century and I'm sure there are social mores and intricasies involved with all of this stuff that I couldn't even begin to guess at. In short, I don't belong on this thread... Link to post Share on other sites
rod_in_gtown Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Maybe you should think twice about being engaged to him if you can't trust him to be faithful. Is he that untrustworthy that even though he's telling you about this person on his own volition he should not be allowed to talk to another woman for as long as he lives? Insecurity is so unattractive. Link to post Share on other sites
LostLamb Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Some questions. How did you find out? Was he keeping it a secret? Is her myspace page quite sexual? Has he ever met her in real life? I'm not sure about opposite sex friendships as it is rare for a man to befriend someone he doesn't find physically attractive Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunflower745 Posted February 24, 2009 Author Share Posted February 24, 2009 Well maybe I need someone like Gorilla who doesn't do text, myspace, facebook or none of that crap. But thank you all for responding and yes, yes, yes I'm really jealous is that sooooo wrong rod??? We had a spat in jan similar to this and he said it was nothing and was crying and everything. I don't know if he knows her in real life and she's all like slutty in her pics. She's like half-naked!! No, geisha no friends with her i don't need her backstabbing me ha ha!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author sunflower745 Posted February 24, 2009 Author Share Posted February 24, 2009 Uh yes you are correct Mr. Rod. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Well maybe I need someone like Gorilla who doesn't do text, myspace, facebook or none of that crap. But thank you all for responding and yes, yes, yes I'm really jealous is that sooooo wrong rod??? We had a spat in jan similar to this and he said it was nothing and was crying and everything. I don't know if he knows her in real life and she's all like slutty in her pics. She's like half-naked!! No, geisha no friends with her i don't need her backstabbing me ha ha!! Dump him. You're both better off. Link to post Share on other sites
rod_in_gtown Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 Well maybe I need someone like Gorilla who doesn't do text, myspace, facebook or none of that crap. But thank you all for responding and yes, yes, yes I'm really jealous is that sooooo wrong rod??? We had a spat in jan similar to this and he said it was nothing and was crying and everything. I don't know if he knows her in real life and she's all like slutty in her pics. She's like half-naked!! No, geisha no friends with her i don't need her backstabbing me ha ha!! To me a relationship and a marriage should be based on TRUST and love. If you feel that the only way to keep him is to police him constantly and forbid him from contacting other people, then maybe you should think about why you really want to marry him. Most of the time people do not trust their mates because they themselves are untrustworthy. It speaks as to the persons conviction of their nature as human beings and how inescapably out of our control our nature is. Therefore, you think he cannot be trusted because you picture yourself put in the same situation as he is and you see yourself doing the same as you fear him doing. Either that, or you believe we can control our nature but you know he will choose NOT to do so and be unfaithful, and in that case you believe his moral character and self control are below yours. On both scenarios I don't really see a good reason to enter in a lifelong bond like marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
flash582 Posted February 24, 2009 Share Posted February 24, 2009 I think you're giving him too much credit. I have no doubt that this girl would like him as a boyfriend, but most men will believe just about anything. Face it .... when it comes to relationships and women in general, we're pretty stupid. It very well could be that he believes that they are "just friends", but she has other ideas. Just say cool .... can I be her friend too? If she's cool with being your friend too, then it's all good. If she freaks, then you know she had other ideas. If your boyfriend freaks ... then you can rest assured that he wasn't as innocent as he proclaimed to be. In any case ... you'll have your answer. Link to post Share on other sites
voldigicam Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 These things can be weird. I'm moderately well known in my obscure field. I've been approached, emailed, and IM'd for advice first in the field. Then gradually about other things. Sometimes a person becomes a friend of my wife and I, even a very good friend. Sometimes my wife gets shut out and the IMs and such are only to me, and get more and more personal. This makes me uncomfortable and get rid of the person. A couple of these have turned into real stalkers. Even the innocent stuff is annoying. My wife spends gobs of time doing facebook BS. I think it will burn out. Usually does for her! At least it keeps her un-depressed and exercises her tired brain a bit. Link to post Share on other sites
Chat Posted February 25, 2009 Share Posted February 25, 2009 Um really Sunflower your the one coming off psycho - like your going apesh*t over something he has clearly been this open with you about - have you asked him to see the txt's? Your judging her on her profile on myspace - a bit harsh really - your clearly insecure and need to address that Jealousy is natural and normal but how you express and vent that is different Talk to him rationally - ask to see the txts - if they are innocent then whats the problem - if she says stuff inappropriate - then tell him thats a threat and you wish it to cease - if his replies to her ar inappropriate - dump his ass Link to post Share on other sites
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