Author hopesndreams Posted May 17, 2009 Author Share Posted May 17, 2009 He knows he doesn't truly love you. If he did he wouldn't have hurt you, and continued to hurt you. you hurt the ones you love? wishful thinking? and why care about someone who can do such a thing? hmmm Link to post Share on other sites
Author hopesndreams Posted May 17, 2009 Author Share Posted May 17, 2009 I think I'm losing the plot. Link to post Share on other sites
scootncash Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 CaliGuy I'm doing the so you want a second chance that's on your signature. I will follow it to a T. I need to feel empowered, whatever the outcome. I did go to Dr Dobsons site and read whatever was online from his book but why didn't it fill me with any promise? What am I missing from reading what Dr Dobson has put out there? The website is more for follow up and encouragement. You will never understand the empowerment and self esteem increase and knowledge that can be yours without reading the book. The book goes more into specific details about situations such as yours. Having the knowledge to understand whats really going on underneath his demeanor will help you tremendously. He goes into great detail about the reasons for the behavior and gives you courage and insight to choose what is right for you. Knowledge is your power and healing comes with it. Dr. Dobson doesnt make the choice for you. He leaves that strictly with you but either way he arms you with the necessary armor to get through this battle. I wish you much success. Scootncash Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 CaliGuy I'm doing the so you want a second chance that's on your signature. I will follow it to a T. I need to feel empowered, whatever the outcome. I did go to Dr Dobsons site and read whatever was online from his book but why didn't it fill me with any promise? What am I missing from reading what Dr Dobson has put out there? You need to buy the book "Love Must Be Tough" which contains the information that is referred to on Dr. Dobson's web site. Without reading the book, some of the information on the site won't make sense. I would suggest that you read Dr Dobson's book. He will "empower" you with the psychological reasons behind a wayward spouse and how YOU need to act -- if you are to save the marriage or to pull chocks and leave the flight line (so to speak). Only YOU can make that decision. You have ZERO control over your husband. All you can do (and what he is finding out now) is give him a taste of what life is like without you. Granted, he also has a lot of work to do to gain your respect, love and trust back. That's a very difficult thing to do. If you can, my respect to you. Personally there is only one thing I would not allow in a relationship and that is infidelity. I can forgive them, but we'd never be a "couple" again. Once that trust is lost, in my eyes, it can never be regained nor will things ever be the same. And that, ultimately, is something a cheater must understand before they let their passion get the best of them. It's a risk all cheaters take... Link to post Share on other sites
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