He is finally moving!!!!

[forbidden fruit]

Well first off my h does not interact with. They haven't spoke in about 6 months. Second when my kids play which has been awhile I deal with his W. Third I think he is moving to get away from the situation because when I told him I would call the cops, to him that was finally closing the door.

 

He knows he has no way back in. So yes he wants to move which means he is done. I don't think I have to do anything because he is the one moving which means maybe yesterday was not a game. We have had no interaction since I told him we were done. He has been hiding in his house until the for sale went up. I personally think his ego is so bruised and how dare I not want him.

[Meaplus3]

He is using his kids to get in contact with me. Yesterday he had his child ask my child if they could play and then did not follow up. I just ignored the whole thing, but I wish he would move already. I am so tired of his antics. He has not walked out his front door in two months, but continues to play games.

 

Then simply keep the kids from playing. He's moving anyway right? I mean really FF you need to just drop this already with him. I think your focusing on him to much perhaps to avoid dealing with your own marriage issues. I'm just giving you my honest OP here. Not trying to be harsh in anway.. and you know I love ya. But really now.. enough is enough.

 

 

 

 

 

 

He knows he has no way back in.

 

You just said above that he's using his kids as a way back in so, that does not make sense??

 

Mea

[forbidden fruit]

No enough is not enough. I am not done feeling the way I need to feel about this. I am not avoiding my martial issues. I did love him and those feelings whether they were right or not do not just go away in two months. your right I need to move on and let go, but I am not there yet.

 

Well that is what he has done in the past as his way in, that was all I was saying.

[Meaplus3]

No enough is not enough. I am not done feeling the way I need to feel about this. I am not avoiding my martial issues. I did love him and those feelings whether they were right or not do not just go away in two months. your right I need to move on and let go, but I am not there yet.

 

Well that is what he has done in the past as his way in, that was all I was saying.

 

I understand that feelings just don't go away over night, but FF this has been going on for a real long time now. Even with you sticking to NC, your still having feeings for him. So how is anything going to change when he moves? Just because he is out of sight does that mean he will be out of mind? What I'm not hearing from you in all of this is how you plan to get over him?? What steps are you going to take to improve your marriage and family life? I think you should talk to a therapist. You seem to need more direction in order to move on from this.

 

Mea:)

[bentnotbroken]

Moving forward means to end the current drama and put it in the past. As long as FF hasn't told her H, there will always be a part of her in the past because she is keeping a secret. She has to keep this mess in her mind, so she doesn't slip up and let her secret out. She will always be on guard against the MM because he can come out as well. That makes him and the A a part of her everyday life. He can't be in the past, because he isn't the past.

[forbidden fruit]

Wow, today has been really hard. I know that his moving is a good thing, then why am I so upset. He has open houses after open houses and I feel like he is moving because of me. He is moving because I would not do what he wanted me to do. He is doing this to one up me because I told him my h was twice then man he was. If he claimed to love me like he did how could he not care one iota now. How do you move on when you never get closure? I know I am still dwelling on him, while everyone's advice is right and true it is hard to accept this is the end.

 

How do I put closure on what was part of my life for three years? Why is it so easy for him to move on? I know he would not be moving if I would of stayed in the affair.

 

He seems to be over the moon that he is moving. How can someone go from loving you two months ago to hating you when you have done nothing except stand up for yourself. I know you are all shaking your hands, but I feel like I cannot fully move until I get closure which I will never get from him. I want to expose him to the world for the phony he is. He has everyone fooled including his wife. I want to text him and tel him the only place he is moving is a trailer park so start packing.

 

If it wasn't for my kids and my h I would take him down. I can't stand to see him go totally unscathed when I have been through a living hell for three years. Sorry for the rant

[signedin2008]

I want to expose him to the world for the phony he is.

 

Do it then. Wait, you can't, because you're selfish and you were just as bad as him. Exposing him to the world means exposing YOURSELF to the world and you don't want the world to see the real you, because it ain't pretty at all.

[forbidden fruit]

I don't care about myself anymore-and i know full well what a horrible person I am, but thanks for reminding me what would I do without people like u on a support forum.

[whichwayisup]

FF, this is the ego part of you taking over. Stop focussing on him and what is going on over there. The why's, how's etc..DOESN'T matter. Point is, the guy is moving and WHO cares if he is acting like nothing is wrong. Isn't that exactly what you've been doing when you can, when you see him? You ignore him, you act like he doesn't exist. He is doing the same thing. I know it bugs you that his persona right now is all happy and you want him to suffer.. But how do you know he isn't suffering? You have no idea what happens behind closed doors in their house.

 

Maybe they are going to divorce and have kept that quiet. Maybe things are better between him and his wife..Either way, it isn't your concern anymore.

[whichwayisup]

Continued..

 

Part of you seems like you're disappointed that he is moving and this chapter of your life is FINALLY coming to an end. In some way, him wanting and chasing you, the whole game back and forth HAS been your life for so long, I wonder if this part of the drama that is now about to end completely IS what's upsetting you as well?

 

Just remember, if you expose him, he'll turn around and expose you to your husband. Be careful for what you want to happen..

 

Anyway, I hope you focus on letting go, finally giving yourself closure (yes, you can do this without the exMM) so you can move on with your life.

[bentnotbroken]

Wow, today has been really hard. I know that his moving is a good thing, then why am I so upset. He has open houses after open houses and I feel like he is moving because of me. He is moving because I would not do what he wanted me to do. He is doing this to one up me because I told him my h was twice then man he was. If he claimed to love me like he did how could he not care one iota now. How do you move on when you never get closure? I know I am still dwelling on him, while everyone's advice is right and true it is hard to accept this is the end.

 

How do I put closure on what was part of my life for three years? Why is it so easy for him to move on? I know he would not be moving if I would of stayed in the affair.

 

He seems to be over the moon that he is moving. How can someone go from loving you two months ago to hating you when you have done nothing except stand up for yourself. I know you are all shaking your hands, but I feel like I cannot fully move until I get closure which I will never get from him. I want to expose him to the world for the phony he is. He has everyone fooled including his wife. I want to text him and tel him the only place he is moving is a trailer park so start packing.

 

If it wasn't for my kids and my h I would take him down. I can't stand to see him go totally unscathed when I have been through a living hell for three years. Sorry for the rant

 

 

Nothing has changed with you. It is still all about him and you. HOW CAN HE MOVE ON FROM ME. Translation, he didn't leave his wife, chase after me and beg me to leave my H.

 

I FEEL LIKE HE IS MOVING BECAUSE OF ME. Translation, he is moving and I am in panic mode. How will I survive daily without standing at my window waiting to get a glimpse of him?

 

HE IS DOING THIS BECAUSE I WOULDN'T DO WHAT HE WANTED ME TO DO. Translation, it's all about me. I have to make up in my mind that all his actions revolve around me, because they really don't.

 

HE IS DOING THIS TO ONE UP ME BECAUSE I TOLD MY HUSBAND HE IS TWICE THE MAN THE OM IS. Translation, I was feeling pissy at om and I decided to lie to my H to feel better about myself.

 

HE CLAIMED TO LOVE ME, HOW COULD HE NOT CARE ONE IOTA NOW. Translation, how dare he move on with his life without mourning me, pining for me, or consulting me.

 

HOW DO YOU MOVE ON WHEN YOU DON'T GET CLOSURE? Translation, he still has more power over me than my H, marriage and family. OM is still in my heart and I will never let him go as long as I refuse to do the right thing.

 

WHY IS IT EASY FOR HIM TO MOVE ON? Translation, is it possible he is trying to put his wife and family first for a change and kicking me out of his thoughts permanently?

 

I KNOW HE WOULD HAVE NOT MOVED IF I HAD CONTINUED THE A. Translation, I am more woman than his wife, why isn't he chasing me. I played the hard to get role. It didn't drive him mad for him to come running to me. How dare he.

 

HE APPEARS TO BE OVER THE MOON. Translation, he seems happy without me, why?

 

HOW CAN SOMEONE GO FROM LOVING YOU TWO MONTHS AGO TO HATING YOU WHEN YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING BUT STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. Translation, I don't get why he isn't still telling me he loves me. I am the innocent one in the mess, why is he treating me this way.

 

HE HAS EVERYONE FOOLED EVEN HIS WIFE. translation, that pig wants his wife.

 

I WANT TO TEXT HIM AND TELL HIM THE ONLY PLACE HE IS GOING IS TO A TRAILOR PARK. translation, I want to punish that prick for not choosing me over his family. I will get him one way or the other.

 

IF IT WASN'T FOR MY H AND MY KIDS I WOULD TAKE HIM DOWN. translation, I don't give a damn about his wife and kids, or my family really, because I haven't done anything definitive in 3 years to deal with my obsession, so why not make someone else suffer too.

 

You are a piece of work.

[herenow]

Awesome post BNB!

 

The only thing I have to add is that FF needs to realize that his world doesn't revolve around her and never did. His world revolves around him and only him. He is not leaving because of you or anything you did. He is moving because it's what works best for him and it's what he wants to do. I highly doubt that anything he does has anything to do with you.

 

You, on the other hand. seem to believe that he thinks as much about you as you do about him. The sooner you realize that he isn't concerned with you or how you feel, you will be able to move on. He has moved on, it's your turn. You have closure on that part of your life, it's just not the closure you want. JMO

 

BTW, what makes you think that he is the only one that wants to move? He does have a wife and she does have a say. Most couples make these kind of decisions together. His moving most likely has nothing to do with you or your affair.

[Meaplus3]

He is moving because I would not do what he wanted me to do. He is doing this to one up me because I told him my h was twice then man he was. If he claimed to love me like he did how could he not care one iota now. How do you move on when you never get closure? I know I am still dwelling on him, while everyone's advice is right and true it is hard to accept this is the end.

 

 

What did he want you to do FF leave your H? And if that's is the case then what would that accomplish if he was not willing to leave his W? As you have said all along. Did he just want to continue the A? For some reason I doubt that. Closure? What more closure do you need? Your in NC.. this man is moving, he's not commited to you and is making no plans for that. You say your H is "The better man".. well then treat him like it. Repair your marriage and focus on YOUR family. You are wasting your time and energy on a man who has hurt you and will continue to get your goat if you allow him to. Time to take a stand and forget about him!!

 

Great post bent.

 

Mea:)

[forbidden fruit]

I am really surprised by you meaplus. Thank wwiu you are the only one that makes sense. Bent you have no idea who this guy is. WWiu knows exactly the situation and does not try to generalize it. If you knew the guy you would not be making these blanket posts. Stop being the spurned spouse.

 

If you continue to be derogatory to me I will report you. "your a piece of work" is that helping me . I already told you I know what a pos I am .

 

I ended the A do you not get it, I am not trying to be the martyr. Can't I just say I am going through something without a harsh and unfair criticism. How do you know I don't focus on my kids and h. What I write here is what is going in my head and heart. I don't put it out there for everyone to see.

[forbidden fruit]

Nothing has changed with you. It is still all about him and you. HOW CAN HE MOVE ON FROM ME. Translation, he didn't leave his wife, chase after me and beg me to leave my H.

 

I FEEL LIKE HE IS MOVING BECAUSE OF ME. Translation, he is moving and I am in panic mode. How will I survive daily without standing at my window waiting to get a glimpse of him? Translation-I don't watch him!!

 

HE IS DOING THIS BECAUSE I WOULDN'T DO WHAT HE WANTED ME TO DO. Translation, it's all about me. I have to make up in my mind that all his actions revolve around me, because they really don't. Yes alo of them do he is a manipulative, narcissitic game player.

 

HE IS DOING THIS TO ONE UP ME BECAUSE I TOLD MY HUSBAND HE IS TWICE THE MAN THE OM IS. Translation, I was feeling pissy at om and I decided to lie to my H to feel better about myself. I never told that to my H I told that to xmm.

 

HE CLAIMED TO LOVE ME, HOW COULD HE NOT CARE ONE IOTA NOW. Translation, how dare he move on with his life without mourning me, pining for me, or consulting me. Yeah he should he because he told me he loved me and wanted to be with me and wanted to take care of me. Yeah he should realize what he lost. T

 

HOW DO YOU MOVE ON WHEN YOU DON'T GET CLOSURE? Translation, he still has more power over me than my H, marriage and family. OM is still in my heart and I will never let him go as long as I refuse to do the right thing. I am doing the right thing by having no contact with him.

 

WHY IS IT EASY FOR HIM TO MOVE ON? Translation, is it possible he is trying to put his wife and family first for a change and kicking me out of his thoughts permanently?You have no idea-he is moving so he can get a bigger house a nicer car and anything new to keep his mind off his marriage of conviennce. he is waiting for his wife's windfall.. If she had no money her way he would of left along time ago. He told me numerous times he was a goldidgger.

 

I KNOW HE WOULD HAVE NOT MOVED IF I HAD CONTINUED THE A. Translation, I am more woman than his wife, why isn't he chasing me. I played the hard to get role. It didn't drive him mad for him to come running to me. How dare he. I am not playing hard to get, I am simply not playing and yes it is killing him.

 

HE APPEARS TO BE OVER THE MOON. Translation, he seems happy without me, why?

He will never be happy. He was unhappy before me and he will be unhappy after me. The only difference is he will be alot richer and will have more affairs.

 

HOW CAN SOMEONE GO FROM LOVING YOU TWO MONTHS AGO TO HATING YOU WHEN YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING BUT STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. Translation, I don't get why he isn't still telling me he loves me. I am the innocent one in the mess, why is he treating me this way. I am not the innocent one. I just believed all of his bullcrap. He shined it up real good for me.

 

HE HAS EVERYONE FOOLED EVEN HIS WIFE. translation, that pig wants his wife.

He does not want his wife he wants her money. If he really wanted his wife why would he still want to have sex with me and want me to be in his life .

 

I WANT TO TEXT HIM AND TELL HIM THE ONLY PLACE HE IS GOING IS TO A TRAILOR PARK. translation, I want to punish that prick for not choosing me over his family. I will get him one way or the other. No Iwill not get him, he will do that all his own.

 

IF IT WASN'T FOR MY H AND MY KIDS I WOULD TAKE HIM DOWN. translation, I don't give a damn about his wife and kids, or my family really, because I haven't done anything definitive in 3 years to deal with my obsession, so why not make someone else suffer too.

 

The only one who is going to suffer is me.

[bentnotbroken]

FF, your assumption that I don't know this man is correct. You are correct I don't know him personally, but I know his personality and type(you don't know what I actually do for a living)and I also know your type.

 

Your own words spoke volumes. You said and I quote" what I write here is what is going on in my heart and my head. What makes us FF. Our thoughts(head) are what lead to our actions. Ever heard the saying, Watch your words, they become thoughts. Watch your thoughts they become actions. Watch your actions they become who you are. Who you are is a reflection of your character.

 

If these thoughts are in your heart and head, where is there room for your H and children. My statement about you being a piece of work, I stand by. Here you are 3 years of your life gone, 3 years that you deprived your family of 100% commitment, 3 years of angst and turmoil. What do you have to show for it? A healthier marriage? A happier home? Personal peace? A clearer view of your own efforts to sabotage your life?

 

What has anyone here said that has helped you move on from this mess? Mea has been one of your biggest supporters and cheerleader. Have you taken any of the support and encouragement she has given you and moved away from the disaster you are calling living now? No. So why would I say or do anything that you would consider helpful? You told me you didn't read my post anyway, remember? That won't stop me from responding because there maybe someone about to step into a quagmire like you are in and they will read my responses(and others) and make the choice not to go the route you have.

 

As for me being a spurned spouse, been there, done that, and I can take whatever you have to dish. I know that the place you are coming from is one of more damage than I ever could be. 2 years ago Mr. Messy was relived of his duties as my spouse. I stuck to it. Can you say the same for your situation?

 

Report me until your heart is content. It won't change the fact that you haven't done one thing to help yourself or your situation. If it makes you feel better, report away. If that is the only way I can help you, go right ahead.

 

I have seen people like you before. I see where you are headed and the train wreck at the end. That is unless you put the brakes on and make some drastic, immediate changes. To assume that all my responses come from having been cheated on is not only untrue but assumes that I am not a rational, thinking, educated person who is more than capable of moving on(can you say the same)from a dead situation.

[bentnotbroken]

Nothing has changed with you. It is still all about him and you. HOW CAN HE MOVE ON FROM ME. Translation, he didn't leave his wife, chase after me and beg me to leave my H.

 

I FEEL LIKE HE IS MOVING BECAUSE OF ME. Translation, he is moving and I am in panic mode. How will I survive daily without standing at my window waiting to get a glimpse of him? Translation-I don't watch him!!

 

HE IS DOING THIS BECAUSE I WOULDN'T DO WHAT HE WANTED ME TO DO. Translation, it's all about me. I have to make up in my mind that all his actions revolve around me, because they really don't. Yes alo of them do he is a manipulative, narcissitic game player.

 

HE IS DOING THIS TO ONE UP ME BECAUSE I TOLD MY HUSBAND HE IS TWICE THE MAN THE OM IS. Translation, I was feeling pissy at om and I decided to lie to my H to feel better about myself. I never told that to my H I told that to xmm.

 

HE CLAIMED TO LOVE ME, HOW COULD HE NOT CARE ONE IOTA NOW. Translation, how dare he move on with his life without mourning me, pining for me, or consulting me. Yeah he should he because he told me he loved me and wanted to be with me and wanted to take care of me. Yeah he should realize what he lost. T

 

HOW DO YOU MOVE ON WHEN YOU DON'T GET CLOSURE? Translation, he still has more power over me than my H, marriage and family. OM is still in my heart and I will never let him go as long as I refuse to do the right thing. I am doing the right thing by having no contact with him.

 

WHY IS IT EASY FOR HIM TO MOVE ON? Translation, is it possible he is trying to put his wife and family first for a change and kicking me out of his thoughts permanently?You have no idea-he is moving so he can get a bigger house a nicer car and anything new to keep his mind off his marriage of conviennce. he is waiting for his wife's windfall.. If she had no money her way he would of left along time ago. He told me numerous times he was a goldidgger.

 

I KNOW HE WOULD HAVE NOT MOVED IF I HAD CONTINUED THE A. Translation, I am more woman than his wife, why isn't he chasing me. I played the hard to get role. It didn't drive him mad for him to come running to me. How dare he. I am not playing hard to get, I am simply not playing and yes it is killing him.

 

HE APPEARS TO BE OVER THE MOON. Translation, he seems happy without me, why?

He will never be happy. He was unhappy before me and he will be unhappy after me. The only difference is he will be alot richer and will have more affairs.

 

HOW CAN SOMEONE GO FROM LOVING YOU TWO MONTHS AGO TO HATING YOU WHEN YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING BUT STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. Translation, I don't get why he isn't still telling me he loves me. I am the innocent one in the mess, why is he treating me this way. I am not the innocent one. I just believed all of his bullcrap. He shined it up real good for me.

 

HE HAS EVERYONE FOOLED EVEN HIS WIFE. translation, that pig wants his wife.

He does not want his wife he wants her money. If he really wanted his wife why would he still want to have sex with me and want me to be in his life .

 

I WANT TO TEXT HIM AND TELL HIM THE ONLY PLACE HE IS GOING IS TO A TRAILOR PARK. translation, I want to punish that prick for not choosing me over his family. I will get him one way or the other. No Iwill not get him, he will do that all his own.

 

IF IT WASN'T FOR MY H AND MY KIDS I WOULD TAKE HIM DOWN. translation, I don't give a damn about his wife and kids, or my family really, because I haven't done anything definitive in 3 years to deal with my obsession, so why not make someone else suffer too.

 

The only one who is going to suffer is me.

 

 

Even in this response to me 80% of it was about his actions, his thoughts, his reasons for doing things, his ideas, his potential affairs, his economic status, his....his... his. What about yours and the the plans you have to repair the damage you have done to yourself and your family. I never said you were a POS, that is how you view yourself, don't you think there is something wrong with seeing yourself that way? Don't you think that isn't a healthy attitude to have? Don't just see the words that people are typing to you and jump into fight mode.

 

Everyone isn't the OM in your situation or out to get you. You are in the middle of the ***** storm, and the rest of us aren't. That means we are out of the storm, we all got out somehow. It is possible but not without changes to ourselves; our psyche, our hearts or very souls. You have chosen to sit down on the middle of the mess and wallow, get up and move.

[NoIDidn't]

OMG Bent! What an awesome post!

 

FF, I agree with Bent: You are a piece of work. Too bad you don't realize it. Everything you post is always tilted back to put the attention on YOU and YOUR needs and out of control thoughts.

 

I'm surprised that Mea seems to be taking off the kid gloves. She's been your most avid supporter and encourager, but you only want a cheerleader no matter WHAT you do. You are living in LaLaLand still.

[forbidden fruit]

Yes exactly I came on this board to discuss my needs and my out of control of thoughts. I thought this was the place I could that. I have taken mea advice and wwiu otherwise I probably would still be in the A and probably would of completely self destructed along time ago.

 

They have given me the strength to go NC and not continue the A. You have no idea what mea and wwiu have discussed with me in private.

 

Read wwiu posts she is honest without enabling me and always helpful. Maybe I do not always follow her advice all the time, but I sure as heck listen and it helps me see different points of view without feeling threatened.

[bentnotbroken]

We agree that WWIU and Mea are great people. You get no argument from me on that. I never suggested I knew what any of you did in PM. It isn't my business. I only comment on what I see here. And you may not be physically in the A anymore but you certainly seemed to emotionally invested in what you thought you had with MM and what the future holds for him.

 

What about your own family? What about your H? What about you?

[NoIDidn't]

Yes exactly I came on this board to discuss my needs and my out of control of thoughts. I thought this was the place I could that. I have taken mea advice and wwiu otherwise I probably would still be in the A and probably would of completely self destructed along time ago.

 

They have given me the strength to go NC and not continue the A. You have no idea what mea and wwiu have discussed with me in private.

 

Read wwiu posts she is honest without enabling me and always helpful. Maybe I do not always follow her advice all the time, but I sure as heck listen and it helps me see different points of view without feeling threatened.

 

The advice you need to follow is this: FORGET ABOUT HIM.

 

I thought this thread was going to be all the relief you felt that he was moving and you no longer had to worry about his attempts to sabbotage NC. Instead its about you wondering why he is hiding his real self from everyone else - as if you know his real self better than he does.

 

It doesn't matter who he is. You are in NC. It doesn't matter that his W is still in the dark about the A. You are in NC. He didn't lose anything, and you should accept that. You are in NC.

 

Being in NC should be like forgiveness: you stop expecting retribution. He owes you nothing. The A is over IRL. Time to end it in your head and heart too, FF.

[forbidden fruit]

How do you move on and let go?

[NoIDidn't]

How do you move on and let go?

 

First, you make a decision to do so. Then, you do it.

 

It doesn't seem like you've made that decision yet. Its hard to forget about someone when they have a permanent residence in your thoughts.

 

You need to evict him from your thoughts. Not care about what he thinks or where he is moving.

 

His moving is the prime opportunity for you to make plans for your own life and family. Wasting this prep time thinking about what "he is losing" is just that, a waste.

 

Think about it, he IS moving. He is planning his life without thought for you and your life. Its time you start to do the same. Your life should not have stopped just because the affair did. And if it did, its time to find out WHY concerning YOU, not him.

[bentnotbroken]

How do you move on and let go?

 

 

Admission, remorse, repentance, forgiveness(yourself), and professional help. But notice admission is the first step. Until you admit that you have some deep seeded issues that cause you to make self destructive decisions you won't get anywhere. You are in a pattern. Your fear of the steps that it takes to get you out of this lifestyle, keeps you in the very thing that is killing your heart and soul.

 

It is so consuming for you that you can't even appreciate and protect the things that are good about your life, your H and your family. And as much as you don't want to hear this, you are going to have to tell your H as part of the your healing process. You are in too deep. If you continue to hold your secret it will reinforce the self destructive behavior pattern that you have set up.

 

We are shaped by issues and experiences from our past. They cause us to make decisions and live our lives in way that isn't healthy, nurturing or productive. We often do this unconsciously and if the pattern is pointed out, we deny, resist and get offended. Until you accept that there is a possibility that you need help that you can't provide for yourself and decide that you need behavior modifications, you can expect to still be making the same poor decisions the rest of your life.

[Meaplus3]

How do you move on and let go?

 

You have to WANT him out of your mind and heart.. truly it's the only way. By seeing that he's NO good for you that should help. You know FF, I have tried to the very best of my human ablility to guide you here. I only want to see you happy again and past all this. But, it has to come from within YOU.

 

Now taking a look back at my scenerio with having had the long ea with xmm nextdoor. One thing that helped me the most was to tell my H. I could no longer live with the guilt that I had inside. I was wakling around sulking and crying.. and one day I just went for it and came clean. It was a real big burden off my shoulders. It helped me to further stay away from XMM.. and to give my failing marriage a shot. In my case that shot did not workout, but it was for the best. At least I was honest and did try to fight to keep my family intact..I gave it my all and looking back I have no regrets.

 

I wish I new what else to tell you.. but the fact is I don't. I wish you the best of luck here my friend. I'm hoping that one day soon your mind and heart will be on the same page and you will be able to see things from a new point of view. You know everyone here has been trying to help you. I think bent made some great points and she is a great person and IMO she has been trying to really help you see things. Anway, good luck girl. Stay strong.

 

Mea:)