jay8191 Posted February 26, 2009 Share Posted February 26, 2009 I have been married for 12 years. Have a 7 year old son. Our marriage was never good. She treated me like a servant. I tried to show my love many times but she always refused and said I am a bad man from a bad family. Recently one day I came home early and heard my wife having a romantic conversation. It appears she had relation with this guys from before our marriage. I was distraught and left home. Later confronted her. She says she never called anyone, not having any affair. Says that guys called once 1 year back. I said I need a divorce but she started saying she loves me so much that she cannot live without me etc. I think she is just doing damage control. Relationship gurrus, what should I do now? Link to post Share on other sites
toddro Posted February 26, 2009 Share Posted February 26, 2009 What do you want? You said you wanted a divorce...whether or not she wants you back is beside the point...what do you want? Link to post Share on other sites
pelicanpreacher Posted February 26, 2009 Share Posted February 26, 2009 Counselling counselling counselling! You need the professional intervention of an objective bystander that can guide you to the place you want to be! GL! Link to post Share on other sites
Shehe Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 I agree that you two should go to counseling. Give her an opportunity to open up and be honest. That should be a good starting point. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 So.. it's up to US? Hum... let's see... I say.. divorce! Link to post Share on other sites
mark982 Posted March 7, 2009 Share Posted March 7, 2009 jay, someones laying pipe to your wife,why would you want her back?Unless you enjoy being her servent Link to post Share on other sites
toddro Posted March 8, 2009 Share Posted March 8, 2009 I feel there is more to this story than this...need more info. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 8, 2009 Share Posted March 8, 2009 Sounds like the OP is in the M for his son. That's a valid reason. He sounds emotionally disconnected, hence why he immediately chose the D option and verbalized it. I know those signs well. There's always more to the story. It's up to him whether he wants to share it. If he's emotionally disconnected from a bad marriage, I doubt counseling will help any meaningful reconciliation, but could help the dissolution process to be more amicable. Hope he finds peace. Hug your son Link to post Share on other sites
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