darby1 Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 The feelings this guy gives me is incredible! When I met him I thought he was 30yrs old, so obviously he comes across older, but reality is he is 23 years old! I didn't find out his age until after a few meetings and the connection had already been set in motion. I just turned 34 yrs old last week. I am not at all your typical 34 yr old. I don't look a day over 26yrs and I am in no hurry to be old for that matter. I take care of myself and have a young heart for certain. But reality is that in 5 years I will be nearing 40yrs old and he will be nearing 28years old.. I mean the age difference between us is so unrealistic for me to set my heart on! But it seems so unfair.. so unfair! All your life you hope to find someone that inspires you to feel truly alive, and when I do.. its the most unrealistic reality... I am aware. But being aware does not stop my feelings for him. I am dating others and think I am interested in them, or try to be, but I know I'm kidding myself the second I feel this intense dramatic light illuminate from within myself for my 23yr old. What to do?? whats real here? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 What have you got to lose? honestly.. My last ex wanted to marry me on my 50th bd.. he was 38. I met him when I was 45.. he was 33... 12 years difference. It bothered me at the beginning.. but after a year I didn't see the age gap at all... What guarantee do you have that you would be happier with a guy your age.. and what guarantee do you have that it would last any longer.. Enjoy life.. and everything that it has to offer you. I am now 56 and I still see men in their 20s... mind you.. it's not for long term commitment.. but it's a lot of fun.. and why not.. like I said.. life is too short. Link to post Share on other sites
michelangelo Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 and don't worry about conventions. I will say one thing though, just about every woman in their midthirties thinks they look much younger than their age. Not to zing ya, just be clear eyed. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 I'm 28 and would shag a 35 yr old woman if your both single and hot for each other I dont see what the problem is. And even if you get older you can still be hot. Why are you thinking about it so much??? Link to post Share on other sites
AGBourne Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 Just have fun, I am sure he wants to have fun too. Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 Just have fun, I am sure he wants to have fun too. Bomm Chicka Wahh Wah!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelybird Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 you mean young guys are more mature than older guys ? Link to post Share on other sites
Chrome Barracuda Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 I'm mature, but who said anything about maturity!!! LMAO. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted February 27, 2009 Share Posted February 27, 2009 I have a friend that met a 26 yr old when she was nearing 40; like 3 years later they are still together and in love. I remember how much it weirded her out in the beginning. But I guess she had too much fun to give him up. I say just have fun yourself and see where it goes, try not to think about his age very much. Link to post Share on other sites
burning 4 revenge Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 What have you got to lose? honestly.. My last ex wanted to marry me on my 50th bd.. he was 38. I met him when I was 45.. he was 33... 12 years difference. It bothered me at the beginning.. but after a year I didn't see the age gap at all... What guarantee do you have that you would be happier with a guy your age.. and what guarantee do you have that it would last any longer.. Enjoy life.. and everything that it has to offer you. I am now 56 and I still see men in their 20s... mind you.. it's not for long term commitment.. but it's a lot of fun.. and why not.. like I said.. life is too short. ....yes, some lives are shorter than others..... Link to post Share on other sites
Lovelybird Posted February 28, 2009 Share Posted February 28, 2009 can you know which is love which is lust? Link to post Share on other sites
Ricky01 Posted March 3, 2009 Share Posted March 3, 2009 I don't see the issue for right now, everything is fresh and new. He is actracted to you, and vice versa. On a personal note, I find older women that take care of themselves far sexier than younger women. 1. Younger women are too fickle, uncertain, and inexperienced when it comes to either how to have a relationship or how to have a FWB. 2. Older women, know how to appreciate a man that takes care of himself. Many times, younger men experience this and are amazed, because of the dramas and immaturities younger women dish out constantly (ok that one was a lil unfair). 3. Most young girls are in good shape just due to being young, metabolism and such. An older woman in shape, healthy spirit and mind, is very attractive, because that is because she chooses to be healthy and works hard on that daily. 4. Older women know how to manage thier finances. No more needs to be said on that. 5. Last, but certainly not least, an older woman knows what she wants, how to get it behind closed doors. I am fairly certain, these qualities are benchmarked in your friend's head as turn ons and such. I say go with the fun side now, if things tend to steer towards more official means, then re-evaluate where you both are in your lives. But for now... enjoy the ride Link to post Share on other sites
melodymatters Posted March 3, 2009 Share Posted March 3, 2009 I'm 42 my H is 24, feel free to look at our wedding pic in my profile ! I have always dated men my age or older, but when I met M, I was willing to at least have a "fling" which turned into love which turned into marriage AND he is the sweetest, kindest, most loyal guy I have ever met, and we have SO much fun together ! Sure, he could change his mind in 10 yrs when I'm 52 and he's 34, but read these boards : people, leave, cheat, die all the time when they are " age appropriate", so why not seize the day ? Good luck ! Link to post Share on other sites
LoveLace Posted March 3, 2009 Share Posted March 3, 2009 I'm 42 my H is 24, feel free to look at our wedding pic in my profile ! I have always dated men my age or older, but when I met M, I was willing to at least have a "fling" which turned into love which turned into marriage AND he is the sweetest, kindest, most loyal guy I have ever met, and we have SO much fun together ! Sure, he could change his mind in 10 yrs when I'm 52 and he's 34, but read these boards : people, leave, cheat, die all the time when they are " age appropriate", so why not seize the day ? Good luck ! That's great MM. I'm 32 and your kind of story becomes more and more like a fantasy for moi! lol Link to post Share on other sites
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