Am I being silly or do I feel right to be upset?

[Twilight_Guy]

Hi everyone,

 

Need a bit more advice please! I've been with my girlfriend now for coming up to 8 months and on the whole its been pretty good but there's some things that are eating away at me and are starting to bug me more. The problem is I'm not sure if its just me being silly or if I have a good reason to feel like i'm feeling......so honest opinions please.

 

1) - Photos with other guys - Now I understand that there's always gonna be photos of her with other guys but every time I go over to her house I'm greated with a photo collage with photos of her looking VERY close with other guys......one of which she used to say was "The fittest guy on the planet" back when we weren't going out.....he used her then dumped her but still keeps the photo up on her wall? There's also a photo of her very close to one of her ex's there too. I've hinted very obviously that I'm a bit uneasy about them but should I really need to hint?

 

More recently there's a couple of photos of just her and other guys from nights out where she's hugging them and when I've asked who they are she says she doesn't know, for example a "random guy who wouldn't leave the group alone"......so why have a 1 on 1 photo taken with him?? :S

 

2) - Lack of caring - It feels a lot like she doesn't care about me even though she says she does....whenever she's been ill i've made sure she's ok and she says she really appreciates it and i'm the best boyfriend ever etc......but recently I've been having a hard time of it (Serious car crash & possible very bad illness) and even though I've tried talking to her about them she seems very un-interested. Her own problems which are nowhere near as serious seem to be all she's interested in talking about.

She's never actually asked me if I'm ok, just listens, acts upset, then thats it. My illness is ongoing and I've got an important test coming up (Suspected Cancer) but since I told her 2 weeks ago she's never asked anything about it.

 

3 ) - Sex Problem - As described here in an old thread. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t175792/

Its not really so much of a problem these days because we simply rarely do it (in my eyes). When we do she doesn't stop anymore but lets just say I'm getting upset at the amount of times I get knocked back

 

 

 

Although the above probably makes her out to be horrible she is really a nice girl, its just these three things are really upsetting me.

[moman]

Buddy I have to break it to you, she's not digging you.

 

Any girl who really liked you wouldn't even consider putting those kind of pics where you can see them. I'm sure she might keep them in a scrapbook or something which is fine, but in the open, that is not good.

 

The bigger issue is that it doesn't seem like is in genuinely interested in helping you. Especially if she only talks about her problems.

 

Sounds self-centered. You should let her go, and then she can date someone else who wants to listen to that stuff, and you can date someone who actually cares.

[Geishawhelk]

Yup.

I completely concur.