KATE Posted November 4, 1998 Share Posted November 4, 1998 I had a talk with my boyfriend and I told him before that I am not ready for sex. I am a virgin and we have been going out for 2.5 months. Few days ago we had the discussion and few hours later when we were making out he said "do you want to do it?", at which I pushed him away from me and I told him that he does not understand me at all. He later apologized, called me the next day and asked me if I was still mad, I said yes, and he said that I should call him back when I am not mad anymore. I told him that I he shouldn't be expecting to hear from me. What should I do, I think I like him Link to post Share on other sites
Dani Posted November 4, 1998 Share Posted November 4, 1998 Hello Kate! Don't feel bad. You didn't go anything wrong. You told him how you felt, and granted he shoulda been a little more considerate,but guys sometimes let other parts o' there anatamony think, instead of there brains . It happens. In most cases they don't mean to push, they just get carried away. If you really like this guy, try talking to him about this again. Let him know how IMPORTANT it is to you that he hear you on this one. (right about here tho..a lot of guys will unintentionally tune out, but still do your best! Tell him that you have made a decision and you REALLY wish he would respect that. You say he apologised and has been calling you, he sounds like he is genuinely sorry! Give him a second chance, if you feel you can. You say that you really like him so give it a try. If again the same thing hapens, then you know that he is not respecting your decision, and isin't the right guy for you! By the way, *hugs* on your decision to wait till your ready!! Dani I had a talk with my boyfriend and I told him before that I am not ready for sex. I am a virgin and we have been going out for 2.5 months. Few days ago we had the discussion and few hours later when we were making out he said "do you want to do it?", at which I pushed him away from me and I told him that he does not understand me at all. He later apologized, called me the next day and asked me if I was still mad, I said yes, and he said that I should call him back when I am not mad anymore. I told him that I he shouldn't be expecting to hear from me. What should I do, I think I like him Link to post Share on other sites
Rachel Posted November 4, 1998 Share Posted November 4, 1998 Kate, It took a lot of strength for you to stop him and tell him you weren't ready. A lot of people wouldn't have been able to do that. Sex is a very special thing that should not be done with everyone you meet, and if he doesn't realize that, there could be trouble ahead for you two. Call him if you want to, but if he ever tries that again, stand by your beliefs and don't give him a third chance. Best of luck to you! I had a talk with my boyfriend and I told him before that I am not ready for sex. I am a virgin and we have been going out for 2.5 months. Few days ago we had the discussion and few hours later when we were making out he said "do you want to do it?", at which I pushed him away from me and I told him that he does not understand me at all. He later apologized, called me the next day and asked me if I was still mad, I said yes, and he said that I should call him back when I am not mad anymore. I told him that I he shouldn't be expecting to hear from me. What should I do, I think I like him Link to post Share on other sites
Jana Posted November 4, 1998 Share Posted November 4, 1998 I am in love with the most wonderful man, except there is one problem- he is 32 and I am 18. It sounds just plain ridiculous, I know because if someone told me this I would laugh and say "ya right." But it is true, and we both love each other. He is moving back to Boston the 23rd of this month and I am seriously considering going to Boston University just so that I can be with him. Is this practical? Link to post Share on other sites
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