Fat Girls are Unattractive

[Green]

I think I speak for myself and a large number of people when I say fat girls are unattractive. What prompted this thread is I read another thread on this site http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=181357&page=4 and the thread basicaly had a guy scheduled to be married to a girl who is just putting on weight past the mans tipping point and he said it was unattractive and unhealthy and he was embaressed and people actualy bashed him and harped on the fact that he said it was unhealthy. First off not every one gains weight because they are lazy some people are injured, have a disease, or are born with really F'd up motablism. Some people are just born really short but alot of women will still find him unattractive. I think that being fat is unhealthy I don't need a dr's opinion because I can see the results for myself fat people get tired more often have less energy and it is unatractive to look at. If fat women were these energetic hard to attain condition that meant a women was very healthy then in our psyche being fat and a women would look so hot. Look bottome line fate women are not attractive, I think its perfectly acceptable to dump some one if they gain 30 pounds of weight in a scenario where it was just because they were letting themselves go as opposed to a disease. I think its easier to date some one who was attractive when you started dating them and the love is built and then they gain the weight. I'm not saying its imposible to find a fat women attractive just the for the most part they are not

way too fat

http://ohiobbwexpo.com/photogallery/photo00027256/Ohio%20BBW%20Expo%20Saturday%20July%2016%202006%20053.jpg

to skinny also gross

http://www.enjoyfashion.com/images/fashion/skinny_model.jpg

healthy in shape people are just so attractive http://www.authorstream.com/Content/Demian-20860-pretty-dancers-Entertainment-ppt-powerpoint-118_88.jpg

and at the beach and other less clothed activities women who arn't fat look so much better http://media.thedaily.com.au/img/photos/2008/02/27/bikini-main_t350.jpg

 

http://www.swingingpuss.com/upload/2007/12/jennifer_love_hewitt_bikini_06.jpg

this girl is about 10-15lbs away from looking fat from the looks of this pic http://www.celebritywonder.com/picture/Khloe_Kardashian/KhloeKardash_Grant_13336363.jpg

and this is over the tipping point she looks pregnant and has alot of weight in her face http://outhouserag.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/kirstie_alley_fat_1.jpg

[Sears]

I think I speak for myself and a large number of people when I say fat girls are unattractive. What prompted this thread is I read another thread on this site http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=181357&page=4 and the thread basicaly had a guy scheduled to be married to a girl who is just putting on weight past the mans tipping point and he said it was unattractive and unhealthy and he was embaressed and people actualy bashed him and harped on the fact that he said it was unhealthy. First off not every one gains weight because they are lazy some people are injured, have a disease, or are born with really F'd up motablism. Some people are just born really short but alot of women will still find him unattractive. I think that being fat is unhealthy I don't need a dr's opinion because I can see the results for myself fat people get tired more often have less energy and it is unatractive to look at. If fat women were these energetic hard to attain condition that meant a women was very healthy then in our psyche being fat and a women would look so hot. Look bottome line fate women are not attractive, I think its perfectly acceptable to dump some one if they gain 30 pounds of weight in a scenario where it was just because they were letting themselves go as opposed to a disease. I think its easier to date some one who was attractive when you started dating them and the love is built and then they gain the weight. I'm not saying its imposible to find a fat women attractive just the for the most part they are not

way too fat

http://ohiobbwexpo.com/photogallery/photo00027256/Ohio%20BBW%20Expo%20Saturday%20July%2016%202006%20053.jpg

to skinny also gross

http://www.enjoyfashion.com/images/fashion/skinny_model.jpg

healthy in shape people are just so attractive http://www.authorstream.com/Content/Demian-20860-pretty-dancers-Entertainment-ppt-powerpoint-118_88.jpg

and at the beach and other less clothed activities women who arn't fat look so much better http://media.thedaily.com.au/img/photos/2008/02/27/bikini-main_t350.jpg

 

http://www.swingingpuss.com/upload/2007/12/jennifer_love_hewitt_bikini_06.jpg

this girl is about 10-15lbs away from looking fat from the looks of this pic http://www.celebritywonder.com/picture/Khloe_Kardashian/KhloeKardash_Grant_13336363.jpg

and this is over the tipping point she looks pregnant and has alot of weight in her face http://outhouserag.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/kirstie_alley_fat_1.jpg

 

 

Says who? Give me a Niki Blonsky or Queen Latifa built woman and I would be just happy. One man's poison....well you know the rest.

 

P.S.

 

I'm hoping this is a poorly constructed troll... If so.... I award 1/10 troll points to you...

[clv0116]

I think I speak for myself and a large number of people when I say fat girls are unattractive.

 

....

 

I think its perfectly acceptable to dump some one if they gain 30 pounds of weight ....

 

I agree, depending on how far along you are. Not married, for sure. For what it's worth I wouldn't date any of the chicks you posted except the dancer. Call me superficial all you like I'm not gonna hook up with a gross chick.

[grogster]

I agree, depending on how far along you are. Not married, for sure. For what it's worth I wouldn't date any of the chicks you posted except the dancer. Call me superficial all you like I'm not gonna hook up with a gross chick.

 

I agree. Everyone has likes and dislikes when it comes to what they find attractive or unattractive.

 

I make no apology for finding fat women physically unappealing.

[BCCA]

"Fat" and "unnatractive" are very relative terms. What is considered fat to some, might seem just right to others. Likewise, having a prefect figure and face doesn't mean that you have a great personality.

 

I think its your right to dump anyone at anytime for any reason. It would be the nice thing to do to let someone know that their weight gain has had a negative effect on your opinion of them, but you are by no means required to. I think most people get comfortable in a relationship and put on a few.

[clv0116]

It sort of follows that whole love goggles thing; if my wife looked like the chubby swimsuit chick at age 50 after 25 years of loving me and popping out a few kids, I'd be more than fine with it. But a 25 year old woman who looks like that now, and we just met? Nope. Love goggles firmly in my pocket on that one.

[serial muse]

I agree, depending on how far along you are. Not married, for sure. For what it's worth I wouldn't date any of the chicks you posted except the dancer. Call me superficial all you like I'm not gonna hook up with a gross chick.

 

For real? You thought this woman: http://media.thedaily.com.au/img/photos/2008/02/27/bikini-main_t350.jpg

 

was gross??

 

man you're tough. good luck with that.

(or was she too old? she looks like she might be almost 24 or so. )

[blind_otter]

It is true, "fat" is not the same to every person. My best friend's exBF used to call her fat at least once or twice a week - in fact he did this once while they were having sex. Currently she weighs about 110 lbs and is 5'4", and to me she seems really thin. Her arms and face are very very thin.

[blondesmiler]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

 

Although it maybe unattractive to you and many others, there are just as many others who find it attractive. If that was not the case all fat people would be single, and there would be no couples walking around DisneyWorld in Florida!!

 

Same as someone might not think you are attractive but another will.

 

Everyones tastes are different, some people do not like bald men others do, so people like short hair on women others like long hair, some men like big boobs others like big bums.

 

You cannot state what is unattractive too all, only what is unattractive to you.

[clv0116]

For real? You thought this woman: http://media.thedaily.com.au/img/photos/2008/02/27/bikini-main_t350.jpg

 

was gross??

 

man you're tough. good luck with that.

 

She's sort of borderline but she looks flabby and out of shape. Her weight isn't the issue so much as the way it's distributed. I'm picky because I can be, if I wasn't already dating or able to date slimmer cuter women I might eventually have to lower my standards. But as it is, I am and can, and I don't, so I won't.

[Trialbyfire]

Green, any guy who wants someone "healthy", doesn't stay with someone for six years who consistently battles weight problems, then, make issue of it a year or less before their wedding, talking about his g/f like she's not even a person, just a representative of who he is. That's sick.

 

Using the healthy term is just a cover up for wanting to trade in the old model for a new model.

 

I don't have issues with people who want someone who's thin or "healthy" or living a healthy lifestyle. This is their choice.

 

I have serious problems with disingenuity when the entire issue is tied around being shallow.

[grogster]

For real? You thought this woman: http://media.thedaily.com.au/img/photos/2008/02/27/bikini-main_t350.jpg

 

was gross??

 

man you're tough. good luck with that.

(or was she too old? she looks like she might be almost 24 or so. )

 

That's a beautiful young woman. I'm talking morbid obesity, not mere "extra" pounds.

[Star Gazer]

For real? You thought this woman: http://media.thedaily.com.au/img/photos/2008/02/27/bikini-main_t350.jpg

 

was gross??

 

man you're tough. good luck with that.

(or was she too old? she looks like she might be almost 24 or so. )

 

Actually, the OP said she was an example of what's attractive:

 

"healthy in shape people are just so attractive http://www.authorstream.com/Content/...int-118_88.jpg"

[Star Gazer]

She's sort of borderline but she looks flabby and out of shape. Her weight isn't the issue so much as the way it's distributed. I'm picky because I can be, if I wasn't already dating or able to date slimmer cuter women I might eventually have to lower my standards. But as it is, I am and can, and I don't, so I won't.

 

That's ridiculous.

 

If you're calling HER out of shape and fat, you need to post a picture of your adonis-like body.

 

The only thing wrong with that girl is her toes.

[2sure]

Having at different times of my life been attracted to both men and women...I would say that my preference is for non-fat. I'm not attracted to fat people.

 

Fat women however are more attractive by far than fat men. Fat men are not voluptious, you never hear "He is fat, but has a great face", no one even seems to have a fetish for fat men. Fat women are not sloppy fat the way fat men are.

[serial muse]

Actually, the OP said she was an example of what's attractive:

 

"healthy in shape people are just so attractive http://www.authorstream.com/Content/...int-118_88.jpg"

 

sorry, was referring to clv's post. (he later explained that yes, he doesn't think she's attractive. ooookay then. )

[Green]

Says who? Give me a Niki Blonsky or Queen Latifa built woman and I would be just happy. One man's poison....well you know the rest.

 

P.S.

 

I'm hoping this is a poorly constructed troll... If so.... I award 1/10 troll points to you...

 

Niki Blonsky the girl who payed the girl so fat she was an outcast in hairspray? doesn't that kind of make my point that most people arn't into that... I mean I don't think you should be mean to fat girls but the movie is unrealistic.... and Queen Latifa admitted to being a lesbian interesting... Oh and yes I love getting called a troll with my 6000 points by the 26 post un established member... I subtract -3 troll points from you and but send some goats your way yum

 

I agree, depending on how far along you are. Not married, for sure. For what it's worth I wouldn't date any of the chicks you posted except the dancer. Call me superficial all you like I'm not gonna hook up with a gross chick.

 

haha I was mostly just posting body types but yeah butter faces is a post for another day lol the dancer is cute and fun looking I agree and not your typical rail because I didn't want fat girls comming on this thread and yelling about how skinny every one has to be... No just don't be really fat

 

I agree. Everyone has likes and dislikes when it comes to what they find attractive or unattractive.

 

I make no apology for finding fat women physically unappealing.

 

Well there are a growing number of women who think you should apologize or atleast thats the feeling I have and thats why I made the thread thank you for your attitude on the situation haha

 

"Fat" and "unnatractive" are very relative terms. What is considered fat to some, might seem just right to others. Likewise, having a prefect figure and face doesn't mean that you have a great personality.

 

I think its your right to dump anyone at anytime for any reason. It would be the nice thing to do to let someone know that their weight gain has had a negative effect on your opinion of them, but you are by no means required to. I think most people get comfortable in a relationship and put on a few.

 

well I think at a certain point fat is no longer a relative term and a woman looks like shes pregnant or worse... nothing wrong with looking prego IF YOU ARE!

 

It sort of follows that whole love goggles thing; if my wife looked like the chubby swimsuit chick at age 50 after 25 years of loving me and popping out a few kids, I'd be more than fine with it. But a 25 year old woman who looks like that now, and we just met? Nope. Love goggles firmly in my pocket on that one.

 

exactly this thread isn't about dumping ur wife of 20 years because she packed on 40 lbs its about the fat young gf who keeps gaining or the girl who was just fat and wonders why people are so superficial

 

I used to work with this very overweight gal. She was absolutely BEAUTIFUL! When she smiled, she lit up a room, and she always had gorgeous makeup and her beautiful long, red hair done up. She had such a great attitude - always nice things to say to and about people. Then there was another gal who was alright looking, but NOT overweight. She was always taking low digs at people behind their backs. She was filled with negative energy.

 

Lemme tell ya, the overweight gal was MUCH more pleasing, not only to the eye, but to my attitude!!

 

well were not talking about pleasing were talking about dating and the fact that she may gain more weight and if you liked her so what I'll admit I could fall in love with the fattest woman in the world if she had that magic spark and I had become this enchanted with every one else the point is the fat is unnatractive. And arn't u a woman? if so u view this through a tainted non mating lense... most u could do with another woman is have some fun

 

For real? You thought this woman: http://media.thedaily.com.au/img/photos/2008/02/27/bikini-main_t350.jpg

 

was gross??

 

man you're tough. good luck with that.

(or was she too old? she looks like she might be almost 24 or so. )

 

haha seriously though he's just a picky guy which is another topic the girl he did like the dancer was cuter, and I'm not that into this girl I kind of put her down as an average girl who is cute and not fat

 

It is true, "fat" is not the same to every person. My best friend's exBF used to call her fat at least once or twice a week - in fact he did this once while they were having sex. Currently she weighs about 110 lbs and is 5'4", and to me she seems really thin. Her arms and face are very very thin.

 

at a certain point a person is fat to every person. If you chose to date a fat girl one your love should make that fat a non issue two of course you shouldn't call a fat girl fat thats just mean. And if some one is skinny and their bf calls them fat its just a funny reason to dump him!

 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

 

Although it maybe unattractive to you and many others, there are just as many others who find it attractive. If that was not the case all fat people would be single, and there would be no couples walking around DisneyWorld in Florida!!

 

Same as someone might not think you are attractive but another will.

 

Everyones tastes are different, some people do not like bald men others do, so people like short hair on women others like long hair, some men like big boobs others like big bums.

 

You cannot state what is unattractive too all, only what is unattractive to you.

 

so funny you say that I was just at DisneyWorld the other day lol. I never said to all go read my post again, mostly this post is about me and what I assume most MEN think

 

Green, any guy who wants someone "healthy", doesn't stay with someone for six years who consistently battles weight problems, then, make issue of it a year or less before their wedding, talking about his g/f like she's not even a person, just a representative of who he is. That's sick.

 

Using the healthy term is just a cover up for wanting to trade in the old model for a new model.

 

I don't have issues with people who want someone who's thin or "healthy" or living a healthy lifestyle. This is their choice.

 

I have serious problems with disingenuity when the entire issue is tied around being shallow.

 

well I'll admit maybe I missed some key elements from that thread but thats not the way I read into it and it just seemed like such hatred for the guy and such harping on the healthy aspect and the fact that he admited to being embaresed by her... yes they dated 6 years but hes still very young and the engagement is leteraly about 2 years aways til wedding

 

Actually, the OP said she was an example of what's attractive:

 

"healthy in shape people are just so attractive http://www.authorstream.com/Content/...int-118_88.jpg"

 

no I didn't ur confused about how I labeled the links

 

Having at different times of my life been attracted to both men and women...I would say that my preference is for non-fat. I'm not attracted to fat people.

 

Fat women however are more attractive by far than fat men. Fat men are not voluptious, you never hear "He is fat, but has a great face", no one even seems to have a fetish for fat men. Fat women are not sloppy fat the way fat men are.

 

strange that u like fat women better... but I'll agree id rather cuddle a fat women then a fat man haha

[gopher]

I always wonder what goes on inside of a person that gains a lot of weight, male or female. For examples, I'm an average guy and wear a waist size 32" jeans. Now, if all of a sudden I needed even 34" jeans, I would adjust my diet and my execise plan. I don't think anyone plans on gaining a lot of weight, but they really don't seem to try to stop it either. Once you gain that much weight, I'm guessing it's an extremely hard and a long process to lose it.

 

I've dated some overweight women in my time, they all had beautiful faces and I found the curves very sexy, especially in the boobage area.

But, I am a pretty active guy and these women really weren't and not interested in becoming active or working out. I had one woman who had to stop and catch her breath on the third flight of stairs in a parking garage...not healthy!

[serial muse]

well I'll admit maybe I missed some key elements from that thread but thats not the way I read into it and it just seemed like such hatred for the guy and such harping on the healthy aspect and the fact that he admited to being embaresed by her... yes they dated 6 years but hes still very young and the engagement is leteraly about 2 years aways til wedding

 

okay, responding more seriously...what I read from that other thread is that

 

1. it does sound like his gf put on weight and I can understand how that becomes less attractive over time, and that he might feel frustrated because it's a difficult thing to talk about with your partner. I do think that both partners have a responsibility to be mindful that the relationship is a living, breathing thing and not to completely give up physically (barring other health issues, depression, etc.). Within reason (people do get older and saggier, and that's the way it is - happens to men too) I think it's okay to expect a certain level of effort there.

 

BUT

 

2. the OP also said some pretty obnoxious things about the gf in his post, and that is what the women were responding to. He did contradict himself - he said it's not about what his friends think, except he's embarrassed and she represents him, and etc. etc. And he called her lazy and a trifler, or something. Perhaps she is lazy, as some other posters indignantly responded. On the other hand, perhaps something else is going on. That the OP reduced the situation simply to her being lazy is NOT a good sign for the overall health of the relationship. Because if that's what he thinks of her, why is he with her again? An opportunity to feel superior? It just didn't sound much like he cared about her, which is why people responded the way they did.

[clv0116]

That's ridiculous.

 

If you're calling HER out of shape and fat, you need to post a picture of your adonis-like body.

 

No, all I need to do is be able to attract women I find attractive, which I do quite easily.

[grogster]

Interesting, serial. I was unaware of the back story. There's always a back story.

[Trialbyfire]

okay, responding more seriously...what I read from that other thread is that

 

1. it does sound like his gf put on weight and I can understand how that becomes less attractive over time, and that he might feel frustrated because it's a difficult thing to talk about with your partner. I do think that both partners have a responsibility to be mindful that the relationship is a living, breathing thing and not to completely give up physically (barring other health issues, depression, etc.). Within reason (people do get older and saggier, and that's the way it is - happens to men too) I think it's okay to expect a certain level of effort there.

 

BUT

 

2. the OP also said some pretty obnoxious things about the gf in his post, and that is what the women were responding to. He did contradict himself - he said it's not about what his friends think, except he's embarrassed and she represents him, and etc. etc. And he called her lazy and a trifler, or something. Perhaps she is lazy, as some other posters indignantly responded. On the other hand, perhaps something else is going on. That the OP reduced the situation simply to her being lazy is NOT a good sign for the overall health of the relationship. Because if that's what he thinks of her, why is he with her again? An opportunity to feel superior? It just didn't sound much like he cared about her, which is why people responded the way they did.

Totally!

 

Also, if you're with someone who's always battling weight problems, why did you select them in the first place, if you need them to "represent" you? Go find yourself some arm trophy and hope to god you can catch her. Good luck!

[Green]

Totally!

 

Also, if you're with someone who's always battling weight problems, why did you select them in the first place, if you need them to "represent" you? Go find yourself some arm trophy and hope to god you can catch her. Good luck!

 

I don't get it because he dated some one with weight problems since he was a teenage he has to accept it and stay with her and marry her?

[serial muse]

Interesting, serial. I was unaware of the back story. There's always a back story.

 

Yeah...thing is, it's so hard to know what was really going on in that relationship. For all I know, she is lazy...but I just don't think that it's clear what the source of her weight gain is. There could be depression or some other stuff going on. That OP said some things that could be interpreted as cruel, but maybe he's just blowing off steam here on LS so as to get it out of his system...so hard to tell what a person really thinks about their partner from a post or two. Calling someone "lazy" could just be a rant or it could be a long-term, considered opinion after 6 years. Which one it is makes all the difference to the relationship. (And to the proper advice to give the OP as well!!)

[Saint Valentine]

Perhaps she is lazy,

I have to agree with this. The problem is junk food - pure and simple. If she gets off her widening butt, and takes the stairs instead of the elevator, then maybe she will gradually learn how to shed the blubber.