Jean Grey Posted October 6, 2003 Share Posted October 6, 2003 Last year, I met a guy who seemed perfect. At the time, we were both dating other people, but decided if ever we were both available we should get together. As it turned out, several weeks later we both found ourselves single again, and did in fact hook up. We began dating, and fell hard for each other. He had been living with his girlfriend, and their lease was not yet up, so she moved into the second bedroom...he convinced me that they were no longer an item. Stupid me. Fast forward to recently...I started being suspicious. Certain things just didn't seem right. I knew for a fact that his ex was sleeping in another room, I'd been to the apartment. Anyway, I emailed her. As it turns out, they'd "gone through some rough spots", but he'd given her an engagement ring just a couple weeks ago! At the same time, he's asked me to marry him and we've been looking at houses. (the same houses SHE's been looking at). The other girlfriend and I have talked, it seems he was telling us both the same lies. She's since left. I, on the other hand, love this man. We are exact copies of each other, and everything just seems right (well, except the lying and cheating). His story was that he didn't want to hurt this girl, who was several years younger (in her 20's) and has been through quite a bit. I can understand that, but wish he hadn't lied. Do I give him another chance? ~Phoenix Link to post Share on other sites
LadyX Posted October 6, 2003 Share Posted October 6, 2003 Hmmm.....he didn't want to hurt her, so he gave her an engagement ring? What is wrong with that sentence? I wouldn't give him another chance...but that's just me. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted October 6, 2003 Share Posted October 6, 2003 I don't think you were "stupid" for swallowing all the lies he was feeding you. Unless of course, you are clairvoyant! People should never blame themselves because someone else deceived them. However, if you decide to give him another chance, I might begin to question your sanity...or at least your state of mind! What is it do you think you're lacking that would have you considering, even for a second, you should settle for a loser like this. Can't you do better? I think you CAN! Link to post Share on other sites
VASH THE STAMPEDE Posted October 6, 2003 Share Posted October 6, 2003 Whats to keep him from lying again, and this time to you and another girl. Is he ready to stop his childish way??Really think about this before continuing your relationship with him. If I was in your position it would be hard,I admit. but you have to make decision that would not leave you hurt in the long run ,he not ready for a strong relationship. So if I was you I wouldn't give him a Chance right away ,until I really trusted the person. Link to post Share on other sites
jalexy Posted October 6, 2003 Share Posted October 6, 2003 dont ever give someone like this a second chance! Link to post Share on other sites
Bubbles Posted October 6, 2003 Share Posted October 6, 2003 Hey.......Enigma....... Is that you on the left or the right? (avatar) Bubbles Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted October 6, 2003 Share Posted October 6, 2003 Yep. That's my better half and bestest buddy in the whole world. And you can tell him he's cute, he lurks the LS often when he's bored at work. (He's probably laughing now) But don't you go flattering him too much, I'm the one who's got to live with that inflated ego!! Link to post Share on other sites
Bubbles Posted October 6, 2003 Share Posted October 6, 2003 Wowsers he is good lookin'! I used to have a b/f with really long hair also. I miss the hair.....not him! tee, hee, hee. And let's not leave you out......you are a gorgeous woman! He must be very proud to have you on his arm! Bubbles Link to post Share on other sites
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