My mother rant

[TwinkletOes26]

Ok my only source of income now is selling avon until i can find a job. My mother knows this BUT she refuses to let me borow the car to hand out books and she hardly goes anywhere for me to hand avon books out ex except church ONCE a month (that mean i miss a campagin every month). I have about 200 dollars in my accound which is a saftey net for me until i can get a job. She is constantly trying to make me spend money. We will be in walmart and shes like "why dont you buy juice" i dont wanna spend 5 dollars on juice and she calls me cheap. I inform her all the time she gets three checks every month i dont. Yes 5 isnt a lot now but if i buy everytime she wants me to it adds up and i end up with no money in my account then shell complain about me having to ask her for money.

 

She is now complaining that i exercise too much.Im 5'1 98 pounds and she says im too skinny. 98 pounds for a person who is 5'1 with a small frame isnt too small. I have been this size my whole life. She seems to think that only heavy people need to exercise. I tell her i want to be healthy cos i dont want to get diabetes and heart troubles. Youd think shed understand since she has BOTH. She thinks im anorexic bc i exercise everyday for 20 mins. I dont think this is too much in fact 20 mins is less than what they say you should do.

 

She tries to control what i eat in subtle ways. I like my steak medium she claims if i dont get it well done ill get sick. So when i was younger shed just demand i get it well done now she just complains the whole meal making faces like little kids do.

 

To make matters worse she walks around naked in the house. She says its because shes going through menopause and its hot. Its gross to try to go to the bathroom and see your mom rushing past you naked this is infront of open windows.

 

I am looking high and low for work but no one seems to be hiring. Ill keep looking and covering my eyes.

[Athena]

I smiled because I understand. Mothers are so used to telling you what to do during your childhood, that often they forget you are grown up and know what to do.

 

On the other hand, any roommate is bound to become annoying eventually, family members included! So your mother is not exempt.

Does she want you to buy the juice for yourself, or for the both of you (to contribute to the household groceries).

 

I must say if my kids were in your position, I wouldn't allow them to spend their last $200 and would certainly help them with either lending them my car, or driving them places... Ask a friend and give her gas money, while you sit and chat in the car on the way there.

 

Anyway, I love my family but I wouldn't want to live in the same household as my mom, sister, brothers!!!!!!!!! I like to see them often, but I can just go home when I get annoyed with them, lol.

 

Btw, its unlikely your mom is going to change... do what a friend of mine did -- when he caught a cold, he blamed his mother for not telling him to put a sweater on! lol

[TwinkletOes26]

Update rant : today we went to subway and got sandwiches. I got italian bmt and she got a cold cut sandwich. Well my mother likes her stuff a certain way she calls herself a "super taster" and claims me and my stepdad will eat anything. While thats true for him i on the other hand just happen to HATE southern food and am willing to try new stuff.

 

Anywho we get the sandwiches and go home. I have stomach issues so when i get hungry i start feeling nauseated. So i grabed the sandwch i thought was mine and ate it well started to eat it. Within a few seconds she started to bam on my door yelling yes YELLING that i was eatig her sandwich and alluded to that i did it on purpose(yes shes crazy). I apologized and offered her the rest of my foot long she said no because my sandwich was "sorry" and she didnt want my "sorry sandwich" appaently bc i dont like my sandwiches drenched in mayo they are sorry lol. Anywho now shes back there eating the other half of he sandwich and is POUTING like a five yr old. I asked her does she really think i did it on purpose and she said "i dont watch what im doing". I told her it was a mistake lots of people have done that nothing to act crazy about. She stormed off.

 

She claims her hormones make her act that way bc shes fgoing through menopause but she has ALWAYS acted like this. When i was little i would cry bc shed make me feel yea high for mistakes. Now at age 27 i know shes just a .....fill in the blank. I love her but i can see why she doesnt have many friends. The ones she has she throws a fit with if they dont agree with her. She does the same with me i just ignore her bc shes not gonna change my opinions and i dont expect to change hers(example her opinion on mexican men thats all i say about that).

 

When i was 10 she made me take a pregnancy test cos my menstrual cycle was a DAY late. She started screaming at me about who have i had sex with and all. I was 10 and had no clue how to have sex i mean i had an idea but no real knowledge other than body parts. She dragged me to the store after the first test was hard to read. Started yelling at me in the store and when we were checking out the check out girl looked at my mother like she was nuts bc i look young im 27 but look 18 imagine how old i looked at age 10. I was so upset then the test of course came back NEGATIVE and she didnt apologize for it until i was 18 and brought it up. She said "i cant believe you still thinking about that" like it was nothing.

 

So no i know i cant change her but hopegully i can find a job and leave here. I dont mind visiting but i can only take so much of my mother LOL.. at least when roomies annoy you you can go t your room and lock the door. She annoys me i go to my room and shes right there within 30 mins at it again. She has the nerve to wonder why i wanna leave the state LOL.... ok done ranting for now

[blondesmiler]

My Mum drives me nuts and I don't live with her (I could of but chose not too)! That said she tries her best alot of the time, and she is my Mum so I love her (but sometimes would like to kill her!!) lol

 

;o)

[TwinkletOes26]

I smiled because I understand. Mothers are so used to telling you what to do during your childhood, that often they forget you are grown up and know what to do.

 

On the other hand, any roommate is bound to become annoying eventually, family members included! So your mother is not exempt.

Does she want you to buy the juice for yourself, or for the both of you (to contribute to the household groceries).

 

I must say if my kids were in your position, I wouldn't allow them to spend their last $200 and would certainly help them with either lending them my car, or driving them places... Ask a friend and give her gas money, while you sit and chat in the car on the way there.

 

Anyway, I love my family but I wouldn't want to live in the same household as my mom, sister, brothers!!!!!!!!! I like to see them often, but I can just go home when I get annoyed with them, lol.

 

Btw, its unlikely your mom is going to change... do what a friend of mine did -- when he caught a cold, he blamed his mother for not telling him to put a sweater on! lol

 

All my friends are 2 hours away so they cant drive me to the store ect ect ect i would take the bus but its a small town there is no bus system . As far as juice goes my mother has diabetes and cant drink juice with sugar and i ant drink juice with spenda im allergic to it it makes me ill. I mean when i get a job ill most certainly help with goceries and i do buy for myself as much as i can. I buy myself cereal soy milk fruits and juice but that day when she asked me i was broke and already had juice LOL. Now shes mad bc im asking my grandma for 200 dollars to get interview clothes as of now i have one outfit that could be considered interview appropriate.I would buy interview clothes myself but once again i cant ever toss avon books and when i do make a sale she wont let me borrow the car with out her in it to go deliver it nor does she ever "feel" like going anywhere

 

Als heres something else i dont know how to drive on the interstate bc she refuses to teach me she says i have to learn on my own in my own car bc thats how she learned hmmmmmm shes lucky she didnt sie look like she would want to make sure her only child doesnt die on the interstate....anywho thanks for listening and wish me luck finding work preferable far away work LOL

[greengoddess]

Is this for real?

You are 27 years old and still living with mommy and complaining that she won't help deliver your avon books?? What have you done to look for a job? If you can't even get yourself out to deliver avon books how do you expect to get to a job? Do you have any education? Job training? What did you do before this that you only have $200. to show for yourself at 27 years old?

If I were you Iwould stop complaining and feel really fortunate that my mom is providing a roof over my head.

[TwinkletOes26]

@ green goddess hon you dont know me or my life so please dont judge. I am grateful that she is allowing me to live with her. How am i suppose to get a car with no job? I have been looking high and low but unfortunately we live in a crap ecnomomy so jobs are scarce. Im 27 yrs old with a bs in psychology to show for myself. It took me forever because i transfered from on school to another then had 120 hours of extracarricular classes to take then the week of graduation my school decides to infomr me i need three extra classes to get my degree. So i have just finished those courses.

 

Im selling avon to make ends meet until i can find a job. I have attended job fairs turned in my resume everywhere i can think of its even posted on monster and yahoo hot jobs. Right now im looking and theres a job fair coming up next month. The power plant in town is hiring people in the HR dept. that im gonna try for monday. So what else do you want me to do? Jobs dont fall out of the sky. Im not complaining...complainaing would me be woa as meing and just sitting on my behind. I am not doing any of that.

 

I help out at home to do my part. I clean and cook dinner everyday. Im talking about my mothers attitude and how she treats me. Yes i know i dont like so i am planning to move out. How can i move with no job though? Im working on it so i find it kinda judgemental that you have the gall to act as if im just sitting on my butt complaining. Im venting everyone does that.

 

Yes i just moved home in may from school and i have 200 dollars that i made from selling avon on my college campus. Im not ashamed because i know im doing what i can. So your attempts to make me feel bad have failed.

 

You really shouldnt judge people especially if you dont know a thing about them. Now if you excuse me you have reminded me to check monster and see if anyone has messaged me with interest in me......

 

Have a lovely day.

 

ps if you continue to personally attack me i will report you because that is against the rules here .