slipknot Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 About 6 months ago i started flirting with another girl but i never meant or wanted it to go anywhere(which it didnt) i guess i was just after the attention because i fealt like she had stopped giving it to me, i came out into the open about this with her after lying to her and we eventually both agreed to put into the past, then about a month ago i got signed up to one this sex finding things which i honestly did not sign up for as far as im aware its a third party marketing thing. however she found this har to believe but gave me the benefit of the doubt and then we tried to work through it. recently (about a week ago) i added a girl on myspace who i believe i used to speak to but not sure, i mean she hasn't even accepted yet, but obv with everything thats happened she doesn't believe that i didnt mean anything by it, and she is finding extremely hard and no matter how many times i tell her she thinks i am lying to trust me. now i love this girl more than anything i really do. but atm she is: not answering her phone trying to talk to me as little as possible but yet she will talk to me over msn says she thinks im out just to chat up over women going out this weekend to a club now we both agreed y'day that we would meet up and go together to try and sort things but today she has been telling me just to go round my mates or stop in and think(will explain in a min)im just really worried there is another reason she doesnt want me there if you know what i mean now with the thinking thing she told me y'day that i have got to sit and think long and hard weather i want just her or other people, but when i told her my answer today(just her) she didnt belive me and wants me to do some more thinking but tbh the more thinking i do the more upset i get, i havent eaten proply in two days or had more than 2 hours sleep each night. i love this girl more than anything in the world i just want her to see that she can trust me any ideas on any of this, sorry about the long windedness thanks, Link to post Share on other sites
Author slipknot Posted March 4, 2009 Author Share Posted March 4, 2009 i see a few people have read this but please i begging someone help me Link to post Share on other sites
ducknrun Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 [How do you think she feels about you? What about every guy she adds to her myspace or facebook.. Do you question her intentions? I don't think she is as in to you as you are in to her. There's nothing you have done wrong that I could tell. Your being up front with her for the most part not everything in your life has to be an open book that she reads and judges. Maybe she really hasn't gotten over the flirting fling you had 6 months ago and might be using anything that comes up now as an excuse to leave. Link to post Share on other sites
Author slipknot Posted March 4, 2009 Author Share Posted March 4, 2009 well she says she loves me and needs me to think if i want this and i do but she dont believe Link to post Share on other sites
oceangrl Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Saying that you want a relationship doesn't mean as much as doing something to show her that Link to post Share on other sites
Author slipknot Posted March 4, 2009 Author Share Posted March 4, 2009 im trying everything i can to show her i love and want her only but it would be alot easier for me to show that if she would meet me Link to post Share on other sites
ducknrun Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 Saying that you want a relationship doesn't mean as much as doing something to show her that I would agree to that. Actions speak louder than words. I would ask her why she doesn’t believe you. If she loves you and you love her and you want to be with her, but she says you need more time to think... I think that’s just her way of saying that she doesn't want to be with you... maybe. Link to post Share on other sites
Author slipknot Posted March 4, 2009 Author Share Posted March 4, 2009 i just no we could sort it out if we meet and i know she does love me and doesn't want to loose me, she has been speaking to one of our friends, that friend says she is worried that i dont actually want this relationship as much as she does is that a sign we can sort it out? i also managed to text her for a bit today and she said she is considering meeting me sat good? or bad? Link to post Share on other sites
Nicodaemos Posted March 4, 2009 Share Posted March 4, 2009 have her meet the woman on myspace. Im not implying real life, unless it can be arranged and would be feasable. But allowing her to chat iwth the other woman may help her calm. some sat that is unreasonable, an intrusion of privacy, but it shows that you have nothing to hide, are willing to let her into your private matters. Tell her immediately about things like that website registration. dont even go there and look around. you could tell her your email access, let her look through your phone and things like that. Trust isnt asking for something, and getting it, its the willingness to give without asking. Go on a romantic outing. Take her somewhere she likes, not as a way to say, im sorry, let this smooth things and leave it at that, but do things that you can to show her you are for her. some people can deal with flirting. as long as its just innocent stuff. but some people cant. it seems like she may be really touchy about trusting others. merely telling her you love her, its nothing, and you want to be with her most likely wont do it. Actions. Tell her how you feel, and that you can be trusted with your actions. Maybe remove the girl from myspace, explain that yer in a rough spot in your relationship, and dont want anything on the outside to be added right now that can muck things up. every person is different. every relationship has at least two people. making nigh impossilbe to get things right all the time. unless the two are completely on the same page. It seems though that she has trust issues. Some things just have to be taken on faith, and simply believeing that when you say, its nothing, that it really is. Not really anything else i have, so good luck with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author slipknot Posted April 21, 2009 Author Share Posted April 21, 2009 Well...im his gf. We both agreed to working things out. But then i went on his pc and checked his history on msn. What do i find..... him and his ex had been flirting and being on webcam to eachother, stripping and then arranging to meet up a week after if me and him hadnt work things out, that him and his ex would **** eachother. So after the first time, he ****s and lies behind my back, which even he promised on the relationship he was telling the "truth". The truth to him being, she was a girl from bham he knew, that he some how got the number again, and was talking to her again. Now i txted the bitch, and got the truth. He met her on a flirting website and gave her his number and they had been txting eachother. Then "appartenly" she randomly sends a pic of her tits to him. Now i dnt kno wht he has sent, cus there was only a email sent saying "hope you enjoy , which had a picture attachment, which i cant see due to it being deleted. After finding all the truth from her, and asking him about it, he admitted to it, yet i dnt think he has told me the whole truth. He had seemed to be really sorry about it and said he would never do it again. So we went and worked it out and just put it behind us, but obviosuly, it wasnt enough **** to give to me, he went to his ****ing ex gf to **** behing my back! Now the whole thing with the signing up to the sex website. i was on his email and was sending him emails, acting as the sex website, doing a "questionaire" about why he signed up. Which he was replying saying he finds the women pretty. Then i asked if he was in a relationship and what intentions he wanted off these kind of website....which he didnt reply. Then i told him about it, when i lied saying "the sex website emailed me saying if i want to join the same website"... So with the real and added version.....why should i trust the twat again? Link to post Share on other sites
Bejita463 Posted April 21, 2009 Share Posted April 21, 2009 Was there a point to not offering the real story to begin with? Is this some sort of cheesy troll? Link to post Share on other sites
Author slipknot Posted April 21, 2009 Author Share Posted April 21, 2009 The whole thread was by my bf. Im on his account. Then the last post by this user, is me....with the true story. Ive made it into a new thread to make it easier. But this is my bf account. I should of made my own, but i was just angry that he dont even meation the whole story and the truth of why im not trusting him. Link to post Share on other sites
Bejita463 Posted April 21, 2009 Share Posted April 21, 2009 A woman sent him a picture of her anatomy, and he sent something back? That's pretty much all of the story I need to know from either side personally, but how do you know he did anything with his ex? Link to post Share on other sites
Author slipknot Posted April 21, 2009 Author Share Posted April 21, 2009 bcus i read their msn conversation... Link to post Share on other sites
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