9Lives Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Hi LS, I have noticed that so called men these day are more and more acting like they are the women in relationship. Let me explain i notice that if a man is dating a woman and she gets upset about something he did or said....the guy will....stop talking to her for a while or...get upset because she mentioned it....even if she did it nicely. He just wants her to shut up and deal with the bul/s on her own. I another thing I notice is that guys want you to take them out and will ask you ....when are you talking me out or you buying me lunch? It is strange. It is like they are the prize and we are lucky to have them. Is it me? or are guys starting to act like b/tches in relationships these days hell I want to write a book called..."Thinking you a man, Acting like a b/tch"
popey Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 that is not acting like a woman. not like me, or my female friends. I might add... women and bitches are not synomymous. and "man" is not the antonym of what you are describing either.
Author 9Lives Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 okay. well what I mean is that I notice men are not playing the role of men these days. They act like women in how they do things. It is wierd to explain but I notice that they want to be thought of as a man but they dont act like men. NOT ALL MEN
Author 9Lives Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 You must be dating liberal' date=' effeminate males.[/quote'] No, I love men. What I think has changed men is that alot of women have been raising boys by themselves and nowadays guys are different. They act like women
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 No, I love men. What I think has changed men is that alot of women have been raising boys by themselves and nowadays guys are different. They act like women There's some truth in that. If a man grows up without a male role model, he will more likely model his mother. Ewww. Also, I hate going out with momma's boys. They don't want a gf, they want a mother. No thanks.
clv0116 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 [quote=9Lives;2070278i notice that if a man is dating a woman and she gets upset about something he did or said....the guy will....stop talking to her for a while or...get upset because she mentioned it....even if she did it nicely. He just wants her to shut up and deal with the bul/s on her own. I another thing I notice is that guys want you to take them out and will ask you ....when are you talking me out or you buying me lunch? It is strange. It is like they are the prize and we are lucky to have them. It's part of that pick up artist bull****, but really, you girls wanted equality, right? Why are you complaining?
Author 9Lives Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 guys are different these days. Im telling you. they just seem like they dont know their role as a man in relationships. Once they sex you it is like they are there but they dont seem to have a purpose from that point. I have been told that a man should have a plan. He should be able to tell you why he is dating you. If he is still calling you by your first name when introducing you to his friends ..he aint got no plans for you and him. He should be introducing you as his girl, baby, or something after 4 or 5 months. I just think men are getting weaker and weaker and we are letting them get away with it but not forcing them to treat us right.
clv0116 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 okay. well what I mean is that I notice men are not playing the role of men these days. They act like women in how they do things. It is wierd to explain but I notice that they want to be thought of as a man but they dont act like men. NOT ALL MEN Wow. So you ready to hit the kitchen baby? My shirt needs ironed too.
Isolde Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 While some aspects of this don't bother me, the overall tendency towards passivity really does. It's a cycle: if women got more of the gently dominant role from their boyfriends, they would feel more secure and protected and would be more likely to invest fully in the relationship. I don't think there's anything wrong with a guy who likes being asked out but they should be ABLE to ask out a girl that catches their eye. This notion of guys being the "Prize" is slightly separate in my opinion. I think that while modern society has effeminized (is that a word?) men, I also think that it's encouraged an ironic sense of self-entitlement and arrogance in those same men (which women also have, but not in my opinion to such a degree).
Author 9Lives Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 It's part of that pick up artist bull****, but really, you girls wanted equality, right? Why are you complaining? This is not equality. This is bullsh/t. Men want you to run after them and hunt them down. It it like the cat and the mouse. The NEW mouse is the man now. they want us to chase them and prove to you all that we need you and want you and all that stuff
Throne Of Lies Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Wow. So you ready to hit the kitchen baby? My shirt needs ironed too. That's awesome. I find people tend to make claims like this after dating 4-5 people in the same geographic area and social circle. It is like drinking from the same keg and being continually suprised that it is skunked.
Author 9Lives Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 Wow. So you ready to hit the kitchen baby? My shirt needs ironed too. What I mean is there is nothing wrong with women and men sharing certain roles but some things are for the man and some things are for the women. Like now..men want you to ask them to dance? Why, they are afraid of rejection. Men dont like to be told when they have disrespected you...why? cause they want to continue to do whatever they want to do with you saying anything. And if you do....they fallback..(that is girly to me). Men deal with challenges, not run from them like little bi/ches. Man up and deal with it.
Author 9Lives Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 That's awesome. I find people tend to make claims like this after dating 4-5 people in the same geographic area and social circle. It is like drinking from the same keg and being continually suprised that it is skunked. I agree with that. I notice men from up north like New York, and Illinois have more of a stronger sense of what a man is suppose to be like in relationships. I could be wrong though
clv0116 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 What I mean is there is nothing wrong with women and men sharing certain roles but some things are for the man and some things are for the women So men should pay for dates, do all the approaching and take criticism gracefully. What should women be doing?
popey Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 guys are different these days. Im telling you. they just seem like they dont know their role as a man in relationships. Once they sex you it is like they are there but they dont seem to have a purpose from that point. I have been told that a man should have a plan. He should be able to tell you why he is dating you. If he is still calling you by your first name when introducing you to his friends ..he aint got no plans for you and him. He should be introducing you as his girl, baby, or something after 4 or 5 months. I just think men are getting weaker and weaker and we are letting them get away with it but not forcing them to treat us right. Wow. I'm sorry you feel this way. A girl is a child... helpless, naive, dependent and defensless. A baby is even more so. Calling you by name, is the simplest recognition of you as an individual human being, rather than a posession. I'm not saying this to condemn all uses and/or users of the words, but all I can say is WOW.... I'm really sorry to hear this. I strongly beleive that relationships are best when humans are not pigeon holed... not as "girls" or "babies" nor as "what a man SHOULD be". PS... I think some men are a prize to be treasured... as are some women. And I am happy to take any such person to lunch.
Sam Spade Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 It is like they are the prize and we are lucky to have them. This is true. As far as the rest of your post - who said that gender equality is all benefit and no cost?
Author 9Lives Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 So men should pay for dates, do all the approaching and take criticism gracefully. What should women be doing? Women should sex you when she is ready...feed you when you have proven you are worth cooking for....support you when you prove you are looking out for her best interest and not just yours...look pretty for you if that makes you happy...help you when you are trying to better yourself....that is just to name a few
Green Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 I've paid for alot of nice dinners my gf got to eat but seriously it would be great for her to treat me to dinner seriously that doesn't make me a woman? Look if her neighbors are making loud noises late at night who goes up to talk to them ME... If were out at a night club and some guy disrespects her who protects her and stands up for her ME... So if I don't want to pay for dinner every time that doesn't make me a WOMAN or a BCH... Like a previouse poster said why Don't you take your shoes off clean my place and cook me a three course meal if you want it to return to the gold old days
Author 9Lives Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 Wow. I'm sorry you feel this way. A girl is a child... helpless, naive, dependent and defensless. A baby is even more so. Calling you by name, is the simplest recognition of you as an individual human being, rather than a posession. I'm not saying this to condemn all uses and/or users of the words, but all I can say is WOW.... I'm really sorry to hear this. I strongly beleive that relationships are best when humans are not pigeon holed... not as "girls" or "babies" nor as "what a man SHOULD be". PS... I think some men are a prize to be treasured... as are some women. And I am happy to take any such person to lunch. A man told me that titles are important when it comes to a man introducing a woman. For example, when a man introduces you to his friends as "my girlfriend" this tells the other guys...this is my lady. If he introduces as _________. You could be any damm thing to him and guys know that. So if he really cares for you,,,he dont want his friends, boys or whatever trying to get with you. Men like to mark their territory. So if you have been dating and cant publicly say what you are..you may not be that important in the long scheme of things. you might be the "doing this right now" chic
Author 9Lives Posted March 4, 2009 Author Posted March 4, 2009 I've paid for alot of nice dinners my gf got to eat but seriously it would be great for her to treat me to dinner seriously that doesn't make me a woman? Look if her neighbors are making loud noises late at night who goes up to talk to them ME... If were out at a night club and some guy disrespects her who protects her and stands up for her ME... So if I don't want to pay for dinner every time that doesn't make me a WOMAN or a BCH... Like a previouse poster said why Don't you take your shoes off clean my place and cook me a three course meal if you want it to return to the gold old days If you have been dating awhile. She should pick up the tab. I believe too if she wants you to spend 100 on a meal...she better be able to spend 100 for you as well....What I mean by that is some women think it is cute when a man spends alot of money on them. My thing for women is would you do it for the man as well or are you ego tripping.
Sam Spade Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 we are letting them get away with it but not forcing them to treat us right. No ofence, but this type of attitude is probably why mostly effeminate guys hang out with you. It does not seem that you have much respect for men, at least judging from you descriptions of them as "projects" to be shepherded into a "proper" behavior. The type of man you covet would not have any of that attitude. Sure, some guys do turn into bitches after having their bollocks repeatedly busted. Others don't compromise their values and get way over the whole dating drama. They are out there, but not so easy to catch, because they've got nothing to prove.
clv0116 Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Women should sex you when she is ready...feed you when you have proven you are worth cooking for....support you when you prove you are looking out for her best interest and not just yours...look pretty for you if that makes you happy...help you when you are trying to better yourself....that is just to name a few How about men buy you dinner when we're ready, take you to fun dates once you've proven you are worth dating and takes your comments on the chin after you've shown you're fit to be a good mate? This modern thing is just BS, men and women both try to be so selfish.
Chicago_Guy Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 Hi LS, I have noticed that so called men these day are more and more acting like they are the women in relationship. Let me explain i notice that if a man is dating a woman and she gets upset about something he did or said....the guy will....stop talking to her for a while or...get upset because she mentioned it....even if she did it nicely. He just wants her to shut up and deal with the bul/s on her own. I another thing I notice is that guys want you to take them out and will ask you ....when are you talking me out or you buying me lunch? It is strange. It is like they are the prize and we are lucky to have them. Is it me? or are guys starting to act like b/tches in relationships these days hell I want to write a book called..."Thinking you a man, Acting like a b/tch" What a bunch of b.s. I am a guy and many of my friends hate dating because of all of the women who date with a sense of entitlement and have ridiculously high expectations that are not commensurate with what they bring to the table. Women like that tend to expect guys to kiss their asses.
Green Posted March 4, 2009 Posted March 4, 2009 What a bunch of b.s. I am a guy and many of my friends hate dating because of all of the women who date with a sense of entitlement and have ridiculously high expectations that are not commensurate with what they bring to the table. Women like that tend to expect guys to kiss their asses. Seriously this girl doesn't seem all bad and maybe she did just run into some bad guys but my experience in the dating world is what you have just described WOMEN EXPECT A$$ KISING
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