vegeta Posted October 6, 2003 Share Posted October 6, 2003 I've been with my g/f for a year and a half now, and we cant be any happier. She just recently moved about 3 hrs away to go to school. Now the seeing each other is not a problem we see each other at least twice a month and we speak on the phone nearly everyday. My problem is, that she's making alot of friends, and a few of them are guys. I understand she has to make friends and i support her 100% on what she does cuz its her life not mine, but then there are those guys that hit on her, and sometimes wont quit. She just blows them off, and tells them shes with me, but i cant seem to stop the jealousy. Should i be jealous, and keep it to myself, or should i tell her about it? I want her to be able to tell me everything, and i trust her to do the right thing. So is there even a reason for me to be this way? Link to post Share on other sites
iceprincess Posted October 6, 2003 Share Posted October 6, 2003 I wished my ex was a little more like you! Hey, it's natural to feel a little jealousy because maybe you feel that you can't be there to step up and declare yourself her man in front of these guys. She doesn't seem to have a problem with it; she's being faithful to you. Don't let these little things ruin a great relationship. It shouldn't be that big of a deal since you know that she's not going to do anything to jeapordize your trust. Just let things be and relax. She sounds like a great g/f if she's telling the other guys that she's already with someone that she loves. Link to post Share on other sites
Dreamgirl03 Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 I can relate to your problem..i recently started seeing this one guy thats lose to me..but still. We have an open relationship..and i know that. Its just that when i see him looking at other girls and drool over them and even hit on them i cant help but to be jealous. I cant stop...but i know that i do it too..so thats why i never say anything. So..i think jealousy is a normal part of it..but i think it all has to do with trust. Just trust her..if she says she wont do anything..ya know..just relax. It`ll turn out.. Link to post Share on other sites
DJ-TK Posted November 17, 2003 Share Posted November 17, 2003 If she tell dudes she's with you, that's cool.. you have nothing to worry about... You are probably still feel that insecurity because you can't be near her most of the days, and it's not her that you don't trust, it's the guys... It seems she is very faithful and committed to you. Still, I think you should tell her what you feel... why ? to get it off your chest and because she's your girl and if you feel like that, you should tell her (BUT add that you completely trust her and know she 100% faithful to you)... Don't get too worry... tell her that, she would probably calm you down and even add that when she has you, she just doesn't want anyone else...Tell her how you feel and see how this turn out... Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted November 17, 2003 Share Posted November 17, 2003 I was in an LDR once and the guy told me: When we are apart...I am jealous about EVERYONE in your day. Your kids, your co-workers, people at the red light, the grocery store.....cause THEY are with you and I'm not. I thought it was a sweet statement. Maybe you aren't so worried she will cheat on you....as you are only "jealous" that people are in her presence....and for now.....you can't be. Maybe....you just miss her alot. PS: Yeah...I would tell her. Link to post Share on other sites
DJ-TK Posted November 17, 2003 Share Posted November 17, 2003 Arabess has a good point... My girl once told me something like.... I believe that might be the issue here... Link to post Share on other sites
Jilly Posted November 23, 2003 Share Posted November 23, 2003 I wouldn't tell her .......... She'll feel you don't trust her, and that's the main ingredient for a relationship, especially where distance is concerned. Make the time you have together unforgettable, and she'll never want to look elsewhere. Good Luck. Link to post Share on other sites
DJ-TK Posted November 24, 2003 Share Posted November 24, 2003 I think communication is the basis for any relationship, espacially LDR. You can tell her and still say you trust her... Instead of playing games and keep stuff inside, you can talk about it and it doesn't mean she'll suddenly think you don't trust her and be offended or whatever... Link to post Share on other sites
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