Author lostsoulmate Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 So you would move away from everyone and everything you know even if you didn't want to?I don't think so. Yep, I have done it before. I moved here alone. Three months later met my SO. Eight months later was pregnant. Fast forward to now, six years later... So if thats the case, then why wouldn't you STAY? Or compromise instead of expecting him to up and move 14 hours away? I tried to get him to compromise (ie move half way between). He doesn't want to move. He said if he is happy I should be happy. What a load of crap. Again, its your way or the highway just because you decided you wanted to move back to where you came from. Well why did you even leave in the first place? I left where I came from because of work. I needed work. Working in profession I am in, I ended up leaving to find a better job. Where is his family? He is an only child. His parents had him very late in life (they are only a few years older than my grandparents). And, in November I found his mother dying in her home. She died, so now it's just him and his father. So again, its your way or the highway. You made a life with him in the place you are in right NOW. And now you just expect him to up and leave to move 14 hours away? He has always said that he wishes he had family. He says he wishes Sydni knew her grandparents because he doesn't even remember his. He says it would be nice to be closer to family in case something ever happened and we need support. Like the fact that he was told last week that his hours at work will be cut. GREAT! We have no one to help us here if we ever needed it. JUST FREAKING GREAT!! Link to post Share on other sites
pelicanpreacher Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 I plan on staying single. Just me and my daughter (and my dad, step-mom, brother, 3 sets of grandparents, 2 sisters, 3 aunts, 2 uncles and various cousins.) The one thing that keeps niggling at the back of my mind is that you stated earlier in this thread that he doesn't like the people you hang out with back home and that you've been putting on a front the entire time you've been with him. Your interpretation was that he felt intimidated (jealous ?) somewhat by them but I'm betting his misgivings go a lot deeper than that. When he gets his mind completely around the fact that you will be moving his child back to your hometown permanently he'll begin seeing you as one of them and them as you too and start to resent you on that level. Taken one step farther, he won't want his daughter influenced by the negative charactaristics of the people making up your ensemble and will eventually begin taking steps to keep his daughter at his side just to be sure that she doesn't morph into someone he grows to dislike ... someone like you're sure to reveal yourself to be or have already become! As for your plans to remain single I notice that your soulmate was conspicuously absent from that group of support and I don't buy for one moment that your curiousity won't prevail to pursue a relationship on that front so please don't attempt to delude us. WE ARE NOT AMUSED!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted March 31, 2009 Share Posted March 31, 2009 The one thing that keeps niggling at the back of my mind is that you stated earlier in this thread that he doesn't like the people you hang out with back home and that you've been putting on a front the entire time you've been with him. Your interpretation was that he felt intimidated (jealous ?) somewhat by them but I'm betting his misgivings go a lot deeper than that. Even though he doesn't know the truth, his instincts didn't fail him. She ended up cheating on him with a guy back there. Taken one step farther, he won't want his daughter influenced by the negative charactaristics of the people making up your ensemble and will eventually begin taking steps to keep his daughter at his side just to be sure that she doesn't morph into someone he grows to dislike Unfortunately, there isn't anything he can do about it. She is the female, she will get full custody. That in addition to the fact they aren't married. So when she moves his child 14 hours away from him, he won't be able to stop it. Some deal he is getting huh? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lostsoulmate Posted April 1, 2009 Author Share Posted April 1, 2009 The one thing that keeps niggling at the back of my mind is that you stated earlier in this thread that he doesn't like the people you hang out with back home and that you've been putting on a front the entire time you've been with him. Your interpretation was that he felt intimidated (jealous ?) somewhat by them but I'm betting his misgivings go a lot deeper than that. When he gets his mind completely around the fact that you will be moving his child back to your hometown permanently he'll begin seeing you as one of them and them as you too and start to resent you on that level. Taken one step farther, he won't want his daughter influenced by the negative charactaristics of the people making up your ensemble and will eventually begin taking steps to keep his daughter at his side just to be sure that she doesn't morph into someone he grows to dislike ... someone like you're sure to reveal yourself to be or have already become! He has only met my friends and family a few times. When I said he was jealous, that is what I meant. He didn't have brothers, sisters, he never even met his grandparents. It has nothing to do with him not liking them for who they are. As for your plans to remain single I notice that your soulmate was conspicuously absent from that group of support and I don't buy for one moment that your curiousity won't prevail to pursue a relationship on that front so please don't attempt to delude us. WE ARE NOT AMUSED!!! Curiosity killed the cat and satisfaction brought it back. Link to post Share on other sites
TroyNJ Posted May 17, 2009 Share Posted May 17, 2009 God, this thread made me sick..The OP is nothing short of a PIECE OF ****. Make the a selfish cheating POS! Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 I tried to get him to compromise (ie move half way between). He doesn't want to move. He said if he is happy I should be happy. What a load of crap. Not a load of crap at all. You CHOSE to move where you are at, and now because of whatever psychological crisis you are having, want him to move. But again, its all moot. His daughter is about to be taken away from him. Link to post Share on other sites
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