Air Head Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 I wasn't sure where to post this message, so I hope its in the right place! My ex and I were together for almost two years, and he was my first serious boyfriend. Everything was going well, until he got a part in a play at our local Playhouse. He didn't have much time for anything other than the play, and was rehearsing from 4pm-11pm every night. When I did get see him, everything was great. Then, one day about 2 weeks ago, he finished with me, saying he didn't get butterflies in his stomach when he was with me anymore, although he still cared deeply for me, and lusted after me, finds me attractive, and wanted to be best friends. I said that it was fine, and we are now best friends, and meet up for coffee, and i went to see his play, which finished last Saturday. However, I am still in love with him, in a big way. I was wondering if it is possible for us to just be friends? Also, my friends have said that he may just be too tired to feel that way, as he has a lot of college work at the moment, on top of his play, and that he will start to miss me, and feel the butterflies again when he doesn't have so much on his plate, and isn't so exhausted. Do you think this is possible? Thanks in advance for any advice and help! Link to post Share on other sites
VASH THE STAMPEDE Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 Anything is posible,i'm gonna have to agree with your friends. College is a lot of strees and it may throw off a relationship. so give him some space and time ,if hes the right one for you it'll work it self out. Link to post Share on other sites
Air Head Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 Thanks very much Vash! I hope you're right! Link to post Share on other sites
2SidestoStories Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 I agree with Vash to a point, but really want to emphasize that you should not make yourself ill over the possibility that things will (or will not, for that matter) work out. If you're not already busy with doing some of your own 'stuff' I would advise finding things to really occupy your time. Perhaps there is something you always wanted to try but never could while you were with your boyfriend, and now is the perfect opportunity for you to look more closely at such an option? I'm not saying to immediately go and pursue other people mind you! In fact, I think that would be quite counterproductive! I'm suggesting perhaps you take a creative course at college: photography or painting, pottery or writing...something to really dedicate yourself to that is entirely for you. I wish you the best of luck with whatever happens! Link to post Share on other sites
Air Head Posted October 12, 2003 Share Posted October 12, 2003 Thanks for all your help! I have a bit of an update. I spoke to my ex the other day (we are still best buds) and I asked him what had happened with us. He said that he just needed some space, and to move on a little bit. He wants to live a little bit, and do new things, like go to pubs and clubs (we are both young, I'm 16, he's 17.). He also said that he doesn't miss having a girlfriend yet, because we hang out a lot so its like having a girlfriend anyway, and because he's so busy getting drunk! I asked if it was over between us for good, and he said he didn't know. I'm hoping that when the novelty of being single and going clubbing wears off, he will start to miss me and want me back. Do you think this could happen? Whilst I'm waiting for him to grow out of this phase, I'm going to go out myself with my other friends and get on with my life, instead of texting and calling him all the time. Do you think this will make him miss me also? That isn't the reason I'm going out, of course, my friends just seem to think that once he realises I'm not sat at home waiting for him he'll begin to regret his decision. Any help anyone can give would be greatly appreciated. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
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