guess Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 Are there so few men in the world that women are willing to do anything to catch one? I only ask this question, becuase as a former cheater, I was and still am constantly amazed by what the women I was cheating with were willing to put up with. It's like they wanted to have a man so badly, they accepted the flimsyest of excuses. Others just didn't care that I was with someone. It was almost like a game to them. They were the surefire winners because I chose to be with them intsead of my girl. Some things I'd say and do: 1. I'd tell them me and gf were having probs. 2. The relationship was basically over if it wasn't already over. 3. The ex is having a hard time with the break up so I'm helping her through it since we decided to remain best friends. This one they'd eat up with a spoon. I came off a nice guy for being so sweet to the ex. 4. You can't control your feelings. 5. If caught, I'd just tell them that the "ex" was a crazy psycho who still wasn't over me. 6. I'd ask them to hide if the "ex" stopped by since she was a crazy psycho and all. What I want to know is why so many women are willing to put up with this bulls**t? Are there not enough men out there? Is it some sort of sick competition with other women? Are certain women just predatory? One woman I was with put up this front of being very concerned that me and the "ex" were so close. I fed her the story that ex was psycho and I even asked her to hide when "ex" stopped by unannounced. This chick didn't seem to care. So are these women just predatory, desperate, pathetic or blind? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 YOU ASK: "So are these women just predatory, desperate, pathetic or blind?" None of the above. I think they were probably astounded and entertained by the bastardliness of some men and the BS lines they will give to get into their pants. There's actually a form of sexual gratification that people get by having sex with fruitcakes who think they, too, are fruitcakes. These women will always be smarter than you any day of the week. The fact that you couldn't detect that probably puts them on a genius level. Link to post Share on other sites
2SidestoStories Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 I find it VERY interesting that you are putting the blame of the cheating upon the women with whom you've cheated. Especially interesting to note is how you describe in intricate detail how "this is just a game to them," when it is truly you who is the game player. How poorly do you view yourself to think that it's the women who are so desperate to spend time with you? Entertaining to no end is the fact that you also expect that people are going to see right through your charades when you've obviously got this lying through your teeth manipulative gameplay down to such an artform that you consider yourself somewhat higher than other people. Are there so few human beings capable of respecting themselves that they have to put their pathetic existences out there for the world to eat up with a spoon so that they feel somehow validated? Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 trusting someone does not make one stupid. abusing somone's trust, proudly, does make one a coward. though it must be hard to be so banal and unattractive that you can't get people without lying to them. Link to post Share on other sites
guess Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 Hey, you don't have to tell me I'm a louse. I already know I am one. That's why I'm a former cheater. I lost a really great girl because I wasn't man enough to take responsibility for my feelings and actions. And yes, I made my girl feel like it was her fault that I cheated on her. I humiliated her and treated her like garbage. I felt bad about it, but I was too involved in my own pain and guilt to acknowledge what I'd done. It was easier to blame her. I was a selfish bastard and I deserve whatever karma has to dish out to me. I hate myself more than any of you could ever imagine. I posted the question because it seems to me that so many women are buying into the crap that guys tell them. This forum is filled with posts from women who can't see that they're being played or just choose to ignore the signs. Believe it or not, I intended my post to help, not to hurt. I listed some of the things I said and did so whoever would be reading would know what a cheater will do and say to get into and justify cheating. I'm not proud of what I did. But tell me this, shouldn't a woman's warning signs go off when the man she's involved with asks her to hide or to cool things off because of the "ex"? Link to post Share on other sites
Fancy Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 Guess, I understand the point you're trying to make. Yes, it's wrong to play a woman (you're not denying that). Your question is WHY do the women fall for lines and lies when the handwriting is on the wall. I think a lot of it has to do with low self-esteem. They're wanting so very much to be accepted and loved, but they don't love themselves. I think a lot of it also is that they're replaying childhood roles (i.e., they had a father who was absent, abusive, neglected them, etc.). They're trying to win the love of an unatainable, unlovable man, just like they tried to do with their father. Yes, I think there are female predators just like there are male predators, but the majority of people who fall for this are people with low self-esteem. Likewise, the men who play these women and set them up are also suffering from low self-esteem. Why else would they need to degrade someone like that? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 What I want to know is why so many women are willing to put up with this bulls**t? Are there not enough men out there? Is it some sort of sick competition with other women? See, a lot of us truly want to believe that other people are honest and so are willing to put our trust in others. Encounters with enough of your sort turn us into the bitter bitches you'll complain about finding nothing but later in life. These women will always be smarter than you any day of the week 'Fraid not, Tony. We fall, hook, line and sinker, for these sorts sometimes - because we want to believe people are honest. And all of us, men and women alike, enjoy the conceit that we are able to recognize a dishonest person. I'm not bad at detecting dishonesty, but I have been taken in by people who were so mired in self-deception that they appeared genuine. After all, if you believe your own BS, you don't look as though you're lying. Someone who deliberately takes advantage of someone's trust is low indeed. 'Guess', if you want to know why you'll hear women say there are no good men out there, it's because they've encountered men like you a few too many times. Link to post Share on other sites
Nostalghia Posted October 9, 2003 Share Posted October 9, 2003 Dayum this is the most hilarious post I have read so far ... thank God as I almost fell asleep on my keyboard! Hey dude, take it from another "former" cheater who lost one of the best things to ever happen to him due to cheating, they eat that **** up because most men are rarely serious .... in other words it's ALL IN THE DELIVERY! Also they are in shock how a human being can be such a piece of **** that they can't believe it at first! They don't WANT to believe it. Glad to hear you are a former bro ... I cleaned up my act and met the greatest woman in the world now after "paying my dues after fessing up"! Link to post Share on other sites
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