my girlfriend was forced to get engaged to another man by her lebanese family

[lordenigma219]

i am in a LDR for about a year the me and my girl love each other so much the problem is that i am puerto rican and she is lebanese but she was born here her family are into the traditions and all that stuff they do out there recently her parents made her get into this engagement thing with another guy 8 days ago i hardly see her i go 4 times a month to spend time with her this person lives around her way .that really broke my heart knowing that this had happened just because her family is old fasshioned and its a thing they do.today is the engagement so my heart right now is in pain knowing that my girlfriend has to be engaged to this person just because its what they do and her family was pressuring her all this time they dont know anything about me.i just dont know what to do i mean we love each other to death i dont want to leave her she said that she is just doing it to get her family off her back....but what i fear is that feelings will develope and ima be standing with nothing....i hope someone can give me some advice on this on whatbshould i do if i should walk away or hang in there and dont give up on what we have.this is really tuff on me i never experianced this in my life.im pretty sure if it was another couple they wouldnt put uop with it.but in my case feelings are involved between us strong feelings.now they messed everything up just because its a thing they do out there.thank you for reading this :

[Geishawhelk]

You don't say how old you both are, but it seems to me that if she lives in the Lebanon, and this has been done, I have no idea how you'd reverse this, short of her running away.

I fear sadly, that you need to see what she wants to do.

If there's any hesitation in her attitude, and a reluctance to do anything, although it may be out of fear, please understand that cultural tradition is something very difficult to counter-act..... It looks like a lost cause, and you may have to accept it's over.

[Island Girl]

You see her 4 times a month - that is fairly often.

 

If she still went through with the engagement you really should make it a clean break immediately - with ABSOLUTELY No Contact.

 

Either she will miss you so much she will stand up for herself and your relationship - break it off and come back.

 

If she doesn't she was never goig to and you are better off moving on now.

 

So either way the verdict is break it off and go no contact.

[Bearandsue]

Man I feel your pain. But there is no way I would be forced by my family to get engaged but that is just me. I agree with Island girl. Make a clean break. Either she will stand up or conform. I wish you all the best.