histrionic Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 I met a great guy in high school about ten years ago. We hit it off and started hanging out... we flirted, etc., ut nothing serious. We lost touch and a year or so later ran into each other in college. Same scenario. Only that time, we got together more often, and started to develop a romance. I wanted to date lots of people and just have fun at that point in my life, so once again, nothing really came to fruition. Well, after three years of being out of contact, I found his e-mail address. I decided to drop him a line, assuming that I would never hear from him. He wrote me back the NEXT day, and it was obvious that he was excited to hear from me. I gave him my number, and he called a few days later. When we spoke, it was like we had never missed a beat. We went out the other night and had a few drinks, very casually, and we both hinted at the idea of dating. So, this all probably sounds great, but, I am scared to death!! He has always been what I consider to be the ideal man- attractive, fit, funny, polite, intelligent. At this point in my life, I don't want to date casually anymore. I want him to know that I would love to give things a try. But, as much as I would love to see this go somewhere, I don't want to rush things or scare him off. Any ideas as to how to proceed? Other than "just letting things happen," how can I find out what his intentions are? Link to post Share on other sites
jalexy Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 yes i beleive in fate, i think that sometimes we have no control over it. but you will be surprised to know that many ppl do not beleive in it. i think things were meant to happen in the order that they happen. Link to post Share on other sites
midori Posted October 7, 2003 Share Posted October 7, 2003 Originally posted by histrionic Well, after three years of being out of contact, I found his e-mail address. I decided to drop him a line, assuming that I would never hear from him. Sorry but how does this qualify as "fate" -- you looked him up. You got in touch. He replied. You think it's promising. Why not pursue it for THAT reason? Attributing it to "fate" makes it sound like you're not responsible for the outcome. But if you hadn't looked, hadn't emailed, you wouldn't be where you are now. Why bring fate into it? Just go for it! Link to post Share on other sites
amy911 Posted October 8, 2003 Share Posted October 8, 2003 Sometimes waiting until you are both older and more mature works out for the better. Just be honest with him about why things happened they way they did in the past. If you don't give it a try, you could be kicking yourself in the but for years to come. Good Luck Link to post Share on other sites
robnizzy Posted October 8, 2003 Share Posted October 8, 2003 I say Just Be yourself and if it works out then there you go..If not then thats life!! Link to post Share on other sites
LoveyDovey Posted October 9, 2003 Share Posted October 9, 2003 Definetely atleast give it a full try. If you don'y feel comfortable saying it to him yet, hten just make it more clear by how yo act around him, hopefully he will get the hint and act on it so you don't have to!! Link to post Share on other sites
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