Sam Spade Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Girls are smarter than we give them credit for --> retail therapy indeed works (if within reason, but that's a whole other topic). New clothes, watches, boots etc. has got me through at leas a month of the post-breakup drama. I am posting about this 6 months later just because I noticed a reduced desire to pointlessly spoil myself as my emotional well-being improved. So, if you're having a particularly bad time, go buy yourself a nice watch. Maybe it'll buy you some time by distracting you from the ex for a couple of days. And even if it doesn't you need a post-ex watch anyway . But, whatever you do, take it easy on the ice cream!
Art_Critic Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I'm a guy and I've used retail therapy before.. You ought to see my woodshop
sunshinegirl Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I had the ultimate retail therapy a couple years ago: after breaking up with my ex (whom I got back together with 6 weeks later for another almost-year), I bought a car. A Mini Cooper, no less. Now THAT was good therapy.
Author Sam Spade Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 I had the ultimate retail therapy a couple years ago: after breaking up with my ex (whom I got back together with 6 weeks later for another almost-year), I bought a car. A Mini Cooper, no less. Now THAT was good therapy. You're blowing us all outa the water. All other drivers are azzholes anyway, so an added benefit to your purchase is visualizing your ex in each and every one of them and leaving them in the dust. That car ain't my style, but I admit that it has plenty of muslce.
Author Sam Spade Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 I'm a guy and I've used retail therapy before.. You ought to see my woodshop Way to go. Ed Norton in Fight Club is only halfway tongue in cheek. (I too, have got the couch situation taken care of, and my shoes & jackets complete me.)
blondesmiler Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 NEWS HEADLINES Retail therapy ~ men just cotton on to the theraputic properties of shopping when dealing with break ups, stress, boredom, depression, being generally pissed off and so on........ground breaking! :laugh:
Ingenue Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 I had the ultimate retail therapy a couple years ago: after breaking up with my ex (whom I got back together with 6 weeks later for another almost-year), I bought a car. A Mini Cooper, no less. Now THAT was good therapy. SSG, suddenly my purchase of expensive shoes seems woefully inadequate.
sunshinegirl Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Ha - well, let's just say that that was a one-time therapeutic splurge. I did not buy another car when we broke up for the second time.
climbergirl Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Dam it. I read this thread and makes me realize how much money I've spent lately. Clothes, hair cut/highlights, gym membership. At least I was smart on the retail portion...90% off. But it all makes me feel sooooo good!!
Author Sam Spade Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 I would ad "spending money on women", but that will probably push all the wrong buttons. In anycase, whoever said that money can't buy happiness either has too much of it or none at all.
Trialbyfire Posted March 8, 2009 Posted March 8, 2009 Retail therapy can be fun, as long as it's viewed as fun v. a way to fill something lacking inside. For example, after break up, if your self-esteem is low, it can give you a quick pickup if you get a makeover, change your wardrobe. It's a way to kick-start yourself out of a rut. Having said that, money can't buy you long-term happiness. Someone's who's unhappy with less, will be unhappy with more material wealth. Happiness isn't due to accumulation of....stuff.
Author Sam Spade Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 Ha - well, let's just say that that was a one-time therapeutic splurge. I did not buy another car when we broke up for the second time. Yeah but you could pimp this one up. At least you could have lightening bolts painted on the sides (in hot pink), and perhaps get sportier exaust piping.
Author Sam Spade Posted March 8, 2009 Author Posted March 8, 2009 Retail therapy can be fun, as long as it's viewed as fun v. a way to fill something lacking inside. For example, after break up, if your self-esteem is low, it can give you a quick pickup if you get a makeover, change your wardrobe. It's a way to kick-start yourself out of a rut. Having said that, money can't buy you long-term happiness. Someone's who's unhappy with less, will be unhappy with more material wealth. Happiness isn't due to accumulation of....stuff. It's totally a fun way to *fill something lacking inside*. I've got no shame in stating that losing my watch will be like losing a limb (or a big part of my personality) . One unfortunate side effect of the generally flawless strategy is that occasionally I'd remember that I liked spoiling my ex too, so at times it would feel pretty bad that she's not around to partake and share. That's when you deploy the nuclear option (ice cream.) Long term obsession is bad news just like any other addiction. I'm cutting it close, but coming on the other end allright.
Recommended Posts