Craziest night EVER

[LovieDove24]

I found myself being in the position of the "other woman" this morning and I really need to share this story because its crazy as hell!

 

Sooo...last night my sister and I went out to a bar and got pretty tipsy. Neither of us could drive by the end of the night so we asked the cute guy who was flirting with me all night to please give us a ride home. He said sure but in a bit of a blur we realized by the time we arrived, we were actually at HIS house! Oh well, I thought, he's hot, and he was all over me sooo maybe I can get a little snuggle and smoochin action outta this! So I crashed in his bed we made out for a bit and went to sleep.

 

The next morning I woke up to hear his phone ringing. I thought it was his alarm because he mentioned having to work early that morning so I picked it up to look at the time. I saw 9 missed phone calls from a girl named "Maggie." Thats weird I thought...thats gotta be a girlfriend or something. I actually asked him drunkenly the night before if he had one and he said no way. So as I'm trying to ponder this the phone rings again and on the caller ID it says her name and is a picture of a cute little blond girl our age. **** this totally was fishy, so I answered.

 

I decided if it really was his girlfriend Im totally down to bust this slimeball. We talked for a minute and she began bawling. She's like, "Stay right there please, I'm coming over to bust his arse! Im not mad at you but please stay so I can have the proof." Apparantly they were dating for 2 1/2 years and she'd had suspicion he cheated before. All the while we were talking, cheater boy was sound asleep. I let her in the front door to go in the house and let him have it. It was a straight up showdown and the worst part was that I had no ride home to avoid the awkwardness!

 

To be honest this girl was sweet as peas. And the guy was a complete arse about it. He's like "Well, well...you didn't call me last night!" And when she asked him why he said he didn't have a girlfriend he was like "Yeah maybe I didn't." The girl actually ended up giving me a ride home and I tried to comfort her. I had a boyfriend of three years cheat on me once so I shared my story. It really was heartbreaking . To witness two perfect strangers fall apart so drastically in front of your eyes.

[Spectre]

Sounds crazy, but who are you to bust him? You're acting like you did nothing wrong. You got wasted and drunkenly asked him if he had a gf, of course he said no so you fooled around with him. You didn't actually bother to get to know him at all before doing so, and had you done so you probably would of found out about the gf.

 

I'm not saying this guy didn't mess up big time, but when you're saying "ohh i was down to bust this slimeball" I mean, it takes two people to make out, etc.

[blind_otter]

Sounds crazy, but who are you to bust him? You're acting like you did nothing wrong. You got wasted and drunkenly asked him if he had a gf, of course he said no so you fooled around with him. You didn't actually bother to get to know him at all before doing so, and had you done so you probably would of found out about the gf.

 

I'm not saying this guy didn't mess up big time, but when you're saying "ohh i was down to bust this slimeball" I mean, it takes two people to make out, etc.

 

I don't agree with this post at all. How could you know? Some guys carry on the farce that they are single for MONTHS before they get caught. Obviously this guy was just sloppy, and I'm glad you helped his (hopefully) exGF bust his butt. He deserved it.

[Bryanp]

I think you did absolutely the right thing. Good for you! If he had not lied to you then this never would have happened. It is totally his fault.

[Lucky_One]

A bit of a threadjack, but you need to really do more with personal safety.

 

The craziest night ever would have been being raped - or raped and killed.

 

(I do NOT understand women who behave like this!)

[Island Girl]

Sounds crazy, but who are you to bust him?

 

She's the one he lied to in order to cheat on his girlfriend, DUH.

So he lied to her, wronged her as well, ad involved her in a big mess of a relationship.

 

He got in involved by deceiving her.

 

She has every right to clear the situation up when it presented itself.

 

You're acting like you did nothing wrong.

 

She didn't. As far as she knew she was making out with a single adult male. So...two consenting adults who are unattached...

 

They can do anything they want.

 

You got wasted and drunkenly asked him if he had a gf, of course he said no so you fooled around with him. You didn't actually bother to get to know him at all before doing so, and had you done so you probably would of found out about the gf.

 

What are you talking about? Just getting to know someone does not guarantee you will not end up in the middle of a love triangle.

He was lying and probably would have continued to do so as long as he could get away with it.

 

And what do you mean "of course he said no"?!!

I know A LOT of men who would say they were attached because they ARE. It doesn't matter if they are out drinking or what.

I also know a few who don't really give a crap about their girlfriends but refuse to let them go. These guys are always on the look out for other women and they'd say "no" to that question over and over again. Does that make them any less WRONG? NO!

 

I'm not saying this guy didn't mess up big time, but when you're saying "ohh i was down to bust this slimeball" I mean, it takes two people to make out, etc.

 

It takes two (or more) people to make out.

 

But it takes a broken promise or commitment to be a slimeball.

 

In this case the only slimeball was the guy in question.

 

And the only thing he was sorry about was that he got caught.

 

I am glad the now ex-girlfriend can move on to someone better.

[LovieDove24]

And what do you mean "of course he said no"?!!

I know A LOT of men who would say they were attached because they ARE. It doesn't matter if they are out drinking or what.

I also know a few who don't really give a crap about their girlfriends but refuse to let them go. These guys are always on the look out for other women and they'd say "no" to that question over and over again. Does that make them any less WRONG? NO!

 

Exactly. Spectra you are insinuating that I should assume everyones a liar. I just won't do that.

[LovieDove24]

A bit of a threadjack, but you need to really do more with personal safety.

 

The craziest night ever would have been being raped - or raped and killed.

 

(I do NOT understand women who behave like this!)

 

My sister was there, I had a cell phone, we were in an apartment complex, I was not scared for my life at all.

[era]

To be honest this girl was sweet as peas. And the guy was a complete arse about it.

 

Decide that you're going to disregard stereotypes...

 

Be a student by staying open and willing to learn from everyone and anyone.

[amymarieca]

Sounds crazy, but who are you to bust him? You're acting like you did nothing wrong. You got wasted and drunkenly asked him if he had a gf, of course he said no so you fooled around with him. You didn't actually bother to get to know him at all before doing so, and had you done so you probably would of found out about the gf.

 

I'm not saying this guy didn't mess up big time, but when you're saying "ohh i was down to bust this slimeball" I mean, it takes two people to make out, etc.

 

I completely disagree with you. If someone tells you they are single, why should you believe otherwise? I don't think that the OP is at fault here. This guy is the one who is wrong. And if she wants to get down with a guy she doesn't know that well, that is her business. You don't really have the right to judge someone for that.

[samiam143]

Good job! He got what he deserved. You were just a single lady who happened to mess around with a guy who was taken that told you otherwise. You did nothing wrong. He's the cheater. Glad you answered that phone call. You saved her from extended heartache.

[LovieDove24]

Decide that you're going to disregard stereotypes...

 

Be a student by staying open and willing to learn from everyone and anyone.

 

 

Umm, what?

[Dexter Morgan]

To witness two perfect strangers fall apart so drastically in front of your eyes.

 

Please...like you cared. You were all giddy to bust him, but rightfully so.

[LovieDove24]

Please...like you cared. You were all giddy to bust him, but rightfully so.

 

Dexter why agree with me but also throw in statments like "Please like you cared?" I did feel it necessary to bust him because I would want someone to do the same for me. But I DID also care and I certainly was not giddy. Hell, I've been in almost the exact same situation as this girl with an ex of mine and I know firsthand how sad it is when a relationship crumbles, especially when cheating is the root cause. So again, I did care...I saw real tears, raw emotions, and a 2 1/2 year relationship crumble right before my eyes. I'd have to be made of stone to not feel anything while witnessing that.

 

I've noticed you tend to slap your posts with a dash of negativity and I suppose this one is no different.

[Dexter Morgan]

Dexter why agree with me but also throw in statments like "Please like you cared?"

 

because you're whole post was to revel in the fact that you were able to snag a hot guy, bed him down, and rat him out to his girlfriend.

 

The ratting him out I agree with. The rest was just bragging.

[LovieDove24]

because you're whole post was to revel in the fact that you were able to snag a hot guy, bed him down, and rat him out to his girlfriend.

 

Untrue. One small paragraph was used to explain how I got in this situation and in order to introduce it properly I had to explain the bar, the drive home and the bed. I was not reveling in it as you can see over 80% of the rest of the post was dedicated to explaining "the confrontation"--which ultimately is what this post was about. It was not intended to be about me at all.

 

But you can think what you want Dexter. Doesn't matter really, I'm discontinuing reading your posts because you are always on the attack for some reason.

[Dexter Morgan]

But you can think what you want Dexter. Doesn't matter really, I'm discontinuing reading your posts because you are always on the attack for some reason.

 

Well if you read the posts to which I respond...I think it speaks for itself.

 

Oh come on now, you got caught braggin about a guy you banged in a pointless thread. Own it.

[Heroic]

You are remarkably naive.

 

He could have killed you both iin a hundred different ways in the privacy of his home.

 

You are lucky to be alive.

[Charmaine_Champagne]

pretty crazy.. you're lucky the other girl didn't come over and tear your hair out aswell

[JamesM]

Let's see....

 

1. You go to a bar.

2. You get drunk.

3. You go home with a guy and have sex.

4. And then you find that he has a GF.

 

So drunken decisions lead to possible disaster.

 

As has been said, it could have been literally your death.

 

As my dad would say, what did you learn from this?

 

How does this fit into your spiritual journey as a Christian?

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t182461/

[Dexter Morgan]

Let's see....

 

1. You go to a bar.

2. You get drunk.

3. You go home with a guy and have sex.

4. And then you find that he has a GF.

 

So drunken decisions lead to possible disaster.

 

As has been said, it could have been literally your death.

 

As my dad would say, what did you learn from this?

 

How does this fit into your spiritual journey as a Christian?

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t182461/

 

ouch!!!!!!!

[JamesM]

ouch!!!!!!!

 

It wasn't meant to be an ouch or a slam.

 

Since I am of the age that I could be her father, I am acting as a father.

 

LD, it is not meant to be an insult. It IS meant to make you think how this experience could be of help to you.

[Dexter Morgan]

It wasn't meant to be an ouch or a slam.

 

I know, but it can still be an "ouch".

 

Here she is suppose to be a "christian", but then brags about her escapade with a hot guy one night stand, and gladly ratted him out(like I said before, justifiably so)

 

But something isn't right about this story aside from the bragging.

 

She said she watched their argument. Huh? If two people were arguing, I'd have left the room/apartment. So why stay and watch the fallout?

I'd have been to embarrassed or ashamed to stand there and watch it if I had just slept with someones gf....someone I don't know, and answered her phone.

 

Thats another creepy thing about her. She didn't know this guy. Fair enough if she wants a ONS with him. but to answer his phone when it rings??? She doesn't know him.

[Lucky_One]

I already stated my opinion on the drunkenly accepting rides from other drunk strangers and ending up in his bed - clearly unsafe and immature.

 

As Dexter said, why in the world would you answer someone else's phone? Did you read his mail or check out his bank balances at the same time?

 

I am NOT condoning his behavior, although he sounds like one of a million college aged boys who go out and find some willing strange and cheat. But he certainly isn't here to discuss his behavior.

[AAlike]

A couple of comments:

 

- Although I think some people are being overly dramatic about hooking up, there is one thing kinda weird...are you saying that he deceptively drove you to his house? if so, then yeah, that's not really cool - and I would think that any attraction to him would be eliminated by the fact that you ended up at his house without actually agreeing to go there...but that's just me. If it was somehow implied during the night, then I apologize - but the way your story reads, it seems like he pulled something, which would make me question him quite a bit.

 

- Even though I generally think that if Spectre had has way that all of womankind would be adorned with titanium chastity belts, I do see his point here. I mean, the guy pulled a fast one to get you to his house in the first place, that should have had you questioning his morale already but yet didn't seem to inhibit you. Not only that, your thought process was "he's hot, and he was all over me sooo maybe I can get a little snuggle and smoochin action outta this." Nothing wrong with that at all, but if your intent was short-term and not to get involved in the guy's life beyond that evening, then that should not have changed when his phone rang. It is always implied that you run the risk of someone lying and/or being unfaithful when you mess around with them without knowing them. I have certaintly taken that risk on my own plenty of times and I'm sure got burnt as well - however, hunch or no hunch, you should not have answered that phone. your involvement in that guy's life should have begun and ended with that "smooching action".

 

- and staying around? are you nuts? you waited around for a girl that was most likely in a fit of rage, whose boyfriend YOU JUST WOKE UP WITH - for what? So you could prove a point? She could have come in and attacked you. I know if the situation had been reversed, and even if I KNEW that my GF had lied to the guy and it was totally her fault, I still wouldn't trust myself in the heat of the moment to be rational enough to ride the guy home! once you made the decision to answer the phone and confirmed your suspicions, you should have apologized to the girl, remained anonymous, and started walking away and called a taxi from your cell phone. there is no need for you to "witness them fall apart." Although I agree that you didn't do anything wrong, you didn't do anything that merited you with the authority to "let the guy have it" either.

 

As others (and you) have pointed out, it was not your responsibility to verify that you were not being lied to, which I agree with 100% - however, with that being the case it doesn't all of a sudden become your responsibility to exact justice when you find out that you were. If my girlfriend ever cheated on me, you know how I'd like to find out? in any way BUT a face to face meeting with who it was with.