unsure

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I met this guy. I always hard of him from my friends and it was WOW tofinally meet him. I asked for his number and made SURE that he knew i wasnt coming onto him. Back then I didnt even think that id ever do anything with him.

 

A week later I get an sms from him saying that he is bored. My reply was just suggesting what he could do, however it was clear to me that he was hinting to hang out with me. After a couple of texts I suggested that we do hang out somewhere. Still I didnt see him anything more than a friend.

 

So he came over to mine. We were gonna go somewhere, anywhere but ende dup just talking heaps and well, chilling. The whole day we had no phscal contact whatsoever. That day I found out that he only recently got out of a 2 year relationship. He said it was a mutual break up but he is also tired of relationships and aims to be single for a while. At that point i thought "whatever, not like I see you more than a friend, sweet".

 

Then the next day towards the evening i was getting really bored myself and I felt like really bonded with him and felt completely comfotable asking if he wanted to do something. We ende dup going for a walk and then just lying on the grass where he told me that he wanted to kiss me. After a lot of hesitation and discussion from my side, i let him kiss me and I enjoyed it. I told him i didnt wanna be his random hookup or rebound. But things just felt natural.

 

Next day we were at our local pub with all of our friends. So that they wont ask questions, we kept distant from each other. Then at the end of the night in his car we hooked up. Then the next day things started to get more heated and then we had a little break. When we saw each other again, fingering took place and that was the day i told him that i didnt want to be "friends with benefits" and that we either stop everything completely and stay friends or take it to the next level and be in a propper relatinship. We discussed it and he was just not ready because of his last relationship. He did ask me "wat do u think we should do?" and then thought about it and said "too soon" and i told he's gonna regret it.

 

Then we were at our local pub again and our friends noticed that something was up. After much discussion again, he asked me out. I took my time thinking about it but we decided to give it a try.

 

Then we spent about 4 days not seeing each other (the longest time apart) and we then spoke about that and he brought up how he ha been thinking and is unsure if he wants a relationship. Then the next day we had a fantastic night and he even said things like "dont, you are with me now" and it all felt like we are definitely together. But the next day we broke up on good terms. He said he wants to be single but then he likes what him and I do and that we can still do all of that stuff. Well the question "then what difference does it make if we are labeled bf gf or not?" to which he replied that he will feel really bad if he kissed someone else. Im sure you are thinking he just wants to fool around with others, but i can tell u now that he is not that type of guy. He hasnt really had random hookups (he told me this back in our friendship days)

 

So this brings me to now. A week passed and we ended up at his trying to hagn out but ended up in his bed. Then we met up again on the weekend and fooled around more. Also we are not actually sleeping together.

 

So somebody help. What is going on? What should I do? I dont want to become his **** buddy or just simply be friends with benefits. Should I just stop everything and give him time to come together with his emotions? Anyways, please help me!!

 

Thanks:)