Author Island Girl Posted March 10, 2009 Author Share Posted March 10, 2009 In this use case, he just picks up his existing phone, you replace or supplement your existing phone with the packet8 device on your end. OH!! So I just replace my home phone? Link to post Share on other sites
clv0116 Posted March 10, 2009 Share Posted March 10, 2009 OH!! So I just replace my home phone? Yup. It's not free in this case, but the rate is a lot less than what you're paying now. In your case you might need to find a VOIP provider in your country, the packet8 service works in the USA, not sure where else. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweet326 Posted March 12, 2009 Share Posted March 12, 2009 IG, I haven't been on in a while, but always thinking about you! Is everything still set for the 1st? I know you must be feeling so many different emotions. The time is drawing so near you must be feeling more eager everyday to get this all behind you. I'm sure time is dragging too! Have you been able to reach him? I sure you are full of "what ifs"! It's almost over. You two have survived a true test of your love. There is nothing you can't overcome now! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 13, 2009 Author Share Posted March 13, 2009 IG, I haven't been on in a while, but always thinking about you! Thank you so much! It helps so much that there is support out there. So few people here really empathize. I hope YOU'RE doing well too! Is everything still set for the 1st? I know you must be feeling so many different emotions. The time is drawing so near you must be feeling more eager everyday to get this all behind you. I'm sure time is dragging too! Yes. Things are moving along toward the 1st. It WILL happen 'come hell or high water'. Really. I will just make it work. Time is dragging - but moving along at lightening speed at the same time. It is really hard to explain. Moving along slowly because I just want it done and over with -- but lightening speed as far as trying to get all the ducks in a row. Those little buggers don't listen very well! HA! Have you been able to reach him? I sure you are full of "what ifs"! Yes - I have been able to reach him but they have been some not so very good conversations. He is freaking out. And he is taking his stress out on me -- and I am taking stress out on him. They are very charged conversations. Just trying to get something so serious conveyed in micro-time is hard enough. But I am worried and he has just recently started to crack and tell me he is VERY nervous about the interview. Originally I was supposed to be there with him. And now he has to do this all himself. And he hasn't been part of doing the paperwork with the attorneys, etc. That has all been on my side here. So he hasn't had 2 1/2 years of learning the process and what to expect. It's almost over. You two have survived a true test of your love. There is nothing you can't overcome now! Let's hope we can just muddle through these next few months. The horrible conversations are ROUGH. And not much can be clarified when it is so expensive. I am still trying Yahoo because there is $25.00 in credit there. But we have yet to have a conversation on it. I can get the phone to ring but that's about it. The last couple of times yesterday and today there was no answer. I felt relief and frustration. Can you imagine? It just seems every feeling I feel - I also feel the polar opposite at the same time lately. Ugh just make it all stop -- but with only the one result: Him HERE. Link to post Share on other sites
Nicodaemos Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 sorry to jump like this, but check the email address you used to mine, its important, very. Also, you are strong, you can get through this, you have a sound mind, and stong will. Delays are just a yield sign, not a stop sign, they slow things down, but cant stop it. Im hoping things go well for you two. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 13, 2009 Author Share Posted March 13, 2009 Got it. On it. And thank you for your words of encouragement. I wish he had people feeding him positive thoughts. But I am afraid it is just me. And right now our talks aren't all lovey dovey positive. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted March 13, 2009 Share Posted March 13, 2009 IG, These feelings are totally natural, I'm sure! Fingers crossed for you, can't wait to hear about how it all goes when you are out the other side... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 13, 2009 Author Share Posted March 13, 2009 Well we did talk for 5 minutes last night and we got on the same page with everything. It was a good conversation and we had needed it. I feel MUCH better now. I think he does too. YAY! Link to post Share on other sites
Magpies Posted March 19, 2009 Share Posted March 19, 2009 Well we did talk for 5 minutes last night and we got on the same page with everything. It was a good conversation and we had needed it. I feel MUCH better now. I think he does too. YAY! Island Girl, I haven't been able to come on as often but been slowly following this thread bit by bit. I just wanted to send happy thoughts your way! You are so very strong and although things might not have been ideal considering the short wait you have now, it just means that everything is all the more real! I hope things are a lot better and squared away now! As for Skype, I had no idea they had a limit, I used more than $30 a month before and it worked out, but then again I know they have the most horrible customer service imaginable! Something happened to my card before and they took over a month and multiple emails to fix it. How much longer? Congratulations again! Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 So I just saw pictures on my msn(or windows live, I don't remember) today window of an underwater volcano that erupted near Tonga and it made me think of you. Everything still on for the 1st? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 20, 2009 Author Share Posted March 20, 2009 Okay -- The latest is I had sent the paperwork he needs to turn in at the interview by DHL on the 9th. It got there the 16th. So he has it now. Four pounds of medical paperwork backing up my conditions, etc. His interview is the 1st of April. I sent the embassy an e-mail and asked how long i takes to process the paperwork. They said 3 to 6 months...or longer. So no definitive time line. Par for the course for immigration. They just do whatever they want and take however long they like doing it! GRRRRRRRRRRRR! I haven't told him that last part yet. I figure let him get through the interview first and then tell him the process time. So there it is - the latest. And me -- so pissed off at immigration and the situation. *sigh* Link to post Share on other sites
Maggs Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 IslandGirl--have been following your posts about your hubby's immigration process and OMG, I can't believe how difficult it has all been for both of you! I'm shocked at how difficult it all is. I seem to recall you live in the states (correct?). Is it all because of the heightened security that the immigration is that much more difficult? I feel for you--I really do! After all the heartache of waiting and loving from afar, this is the last thing you need. I hope you both get through it okay. And speaking from experience, trying times like this really brings a couple closer together. I hope it all goes quick for you. Can't wait for the day you put up a msg saying he's coming home!! Take care and keep your chin up. Link to post Share on other sites
SophieA Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 Your story is inspirational, IG and your posts are always so helpful! I can only begin to fathom how stressful this process has been/is for you and your man. I just want you to know you're in my thoughts and I hope that everything works out very very soon for you both so that you can finally be together in the same place!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
65tr6 Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 His interview is the 1st of April. ..It took us over 10 years of pure torture of the highest kind for us to become citizens. (yes legal route is the most painful, stressful, torturous than just crossing the border) Make sure he prepares well for the interview. I mean thoroughly. There are lot of websites where you can get plenty of information. And me -- so pissed off at immigration and the situation. *sigh* I was more frustrated than anything else. You just wait, wait and wait. It takes forever. But have faith. Do your homework, readup on the internet...there are plenty of forums out there and take it very seriously....You should be good to go. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 21, 2009 Author Share Posted March 21, 2009 Make sure he prepares well for the interview. I mean thoroughly. There are lot of websites where you can get plenty of information. Which would you recommend? What should I tell him? I am not there with him and will not be at the interview. He doesn't have access to the computer so I have to feed him the info over the phone. I am really not sure what to tell him in order for him to be prepared so ANY info you can provide is SO helpful! Thank you for your reply!! Yes, legal immigration is INCREDIBLY hard! So many times my friends have said "fly him to Mexico for cripes sake and we'll pick him up!" He'd just have to pose as a really BIG Mexican! LOL ~ but really not funny... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 21, 2009 Author Share Posted March 21, 2009 IslandGirl--have been following your posts about your hubby's immigration process and OMG, I can't believe how difficult it has all been for both of you! I'm shocked at how difficult it all is. I seem to recall you live in the states (correct?). Is it all because of the heightened security that the immigration is that much more difficult? Yes, I am here in the U.S. And it is heightened security along with immigration lwas changing left and right - along with them being able to do anything whenever they want with no deadlines for processing, etc. It all just sucks SO MUCH! I hate all of the crap on the news when people are discussing immigration, etc. They have NO IDEA how difficult this all is. It is incredible! I feel for you--I really do! After all the heartache of waiting and loving from afar, this is the last thing you need. I hope you both get through it okay. And speaking from experience, trying times like this really brings a couple closer together. I hope it all goes quick for you. Can't wait for the day you put up a msg saying he's coming home!! Take care and keep your chin up. It is taking it's toll that is for damn sure. I can not WAIT for this to be OVER and also am looking forward to the day I can post HE IS COMING HOME!! Thanks for the well wishes! Back at you and I am so happy for your upcoming marriage! Your story is inspirational, IG and your posts are always so helpful! I can only begin to fathom how stressful this process has been/is for you and your man. I just want you to know you're in my thoughts and I hope that everything works out very very soon for you both so that you can finally be together in the same place!!!!! Thank you -- yes it has been incredibly stressful but more on my side than his. He is only now getting a taste of the stress I have gone through the last two years. Now that the interview is pending and he is waiting to go to Fiji. Before that it was just waiting in his side. It has been difficult to explain the legislation changing and the process. He generally doesn't want the details - he has just been waiting...and waiting...and, well waiting! Looks like we have a light at the end of the tunnel...we just don't know exactly how long it will take to reach the end! Hopefully SOON!!! Link to post Share on other sites
clv0116 Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 Yes, I am here in the U.S. I've been told it's actually easier to get a fiance VISA and get married locally. Link to post Share on other sites
SpanksTheMonkey Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 I wouldn't even try to bring some one into the USA did once actually and was told not to even bother by an attorney and he was a Canadian for Christ sake! lol.. You have my sympathies its ridiculous what they put people Thu over there I'm hoping it all works out good for you guys in the end best of luck... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 21, 2009 Author Share Posted March 21, 2009 I've been told it's actually easier to get a fiance VISA and get married locally. They both pose their own problems. If the marriage happens here and then you apply for the AOS there have been many cases where the spouse is sent back to their own country to wait for the process to happen. We know when he finally comes it will be permanent at least. And it never was supposed to take this long -- before the laws changed it would have only been 4-6 months for the paperwork to get adjudicated. But this whole end of 2006 happened (events detailed either here or my OMG thread) then laws changed January 2007 and that is why it has been this long. The laws have since changed back -- but we had already filed through CA and you can just imagine how many cases they have going through. UGH. It is a nightmare. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 21, 2009 Author Share Posted March 21, 2009 I wish I could reach through the phone and strangle him right now. We just got off the phone - a 7 minute conversation mind you (because of expense) - that was just terrible. I hate having horrible conversations!! And it is HE that is being a complete and utter jackass right now. The stress of the interview. He isn't handling it at all well. Throughout our relationship when he is insecure he always lets me know he "has a feeling". This phrase has been used at all different times for lots of different things but always boiling down to insecurities. Now, he "has a feeling" about his interview. His "feeling" this time is that he doesn't think the interviewer is going to let him come. OH GAWD somebody put the rest of the hair out of my head FOR me! I can't muster the strength! And if someone has an extra $3,000.00 laying around and is looking to work out some frustration -- I have a large Islander that could use a good chewing out session right about now! OH. MY. GOD. Link to post Share on other sites
clv0116 Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 I wish I could reach through the phone and strangle him right now. We just got off the phone - a 7 minute conversation mind you (because of expense) - that was just terrible. After I added a $4 'International Plan' to my cell phone my international CP rates were even much less than what you pay. If you have broadband Internet and live in the USA you should get a VOIP phone. If you want help sorting it out I'll be happy to do so. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 21, 2009 Author Share Posted March 21, 2009 After I added a $4 'International Plan' to my cell phone my international CP rates were even much less than what you pay. If you have broadband Internet and live in the USA you should get a VOIP phone. If you want help sorting it out I'll be happy to do so. I will take you up on that -- probably next month though THANK YOU!! Link to post Share on other sites
Bita26 Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 Island Girl Have you thought about using a phone card? I'm sure there have to be some good cards out there to call to the Pacific. Maybe not the most convenient idea if you are looking for a longterm plan, but if you just need a quick phone call to sort out anything before the interview then it might be a good idea. Just do a quick online search to see how much the per minute rates are. And hang in there! I know it's stressful for both of you but you are almost there! just that final hurdle left! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 21, 2009 Author Share Posted March 21, 2009 Island Girl Have you thought about using a phone card? We used phone cards the majority of our relationship. The phone lines were being worked on October of 2007 and calls were constantly screwed up. This went on phone 6 months with one of us not being able to hear the other usually and sometimes calls not going through at all. Then in April Digicell came in and bought the main phone system. For 1 week calls were clear no matter when we talked. IT WAS BLISS. And then after that week calling cards ceased to work no matter what kind or where they were from. All countries are having the same issue calling there. One of his cousin's wives lives in NZ and she has the same problem. It is terrible but no one seems to care and I believe it is because the country is so very tiny. In any event, here were are nearly a year later and it still is not fixed. Link to post Share on other sites
65tr6 Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 Which would you recommend? www.immihelp.com www.immigration.com (i prefer this) Go to Forums sections.... You should find section applicable in your case. Read up. Post questions, if you have any over there. Learn from others' experience in those forums. Some of the folks over there know more than the Immigration Attorneys (just like some of the folks here know more than MCs...lol) He doesn't have access to the computer so I have to feed him the info over the phone. You are kidding, right ? ok, if he doesnt then you will have the do the research for him and mail any information. Make sure he prepares well for the interview (not sure what kind it is...I skimmed through the thread, did not see any more info). He must dress well. Prepare well. Take all the documentation needed. When in doubt, take it anyway. No, I am not trying to scare you. Most of these interviews are straightforward but always helps to OVERPREPARE. Link to post Share on other sites
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