jwi71 Posted March 23, 2009 Share Posted March 23, 2009 Island Girl, I too brought my wife from overseas...ethnic Chinese from Indonesia. Are you trying to do this on your own? Or have you hired an immigration attorney? If you don't have lawyer I HIGHLY recommend one... even at this late stage... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 24, 2009 Author Share Posted March 24, 2009 Island Girl, I too brought my wife from overseas...ethnic Chinese from Indonesia. Are you trying to do this on your own? Or have you hired an immigration attorney? If you don't have lawyer I HIGHLY recommend one... even at this late stage... Thank you. I have had a very good immigration attorney from the very beginning. I honestly think I'd be in a mental institution if I had been trying this completely on my own! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 24, 2009 Author Share Posted March 24, 2009 Here's an update: The last two weeks have been maddening. He is now feeling the stress of the immigration process and did not do well with it. With only minutes of conversation about necessary things, it has been a train wreck. Each conversation went badly in some respect or ALL. And I was trying very hard to manage myself and not become part of the problem. Sometimes I did not succeed. Arrangements were made to have a long uninterrupted call using his cousins Skype. This call finally happened yesterday. There have been times during the years when worrisome events have happened along with inability to talk at length. During these times we have both had short tempers (usually at different times thankfully). I have had to pull various things out of my "bag of tricks" to get him back to 'normal' with me. He does the same if it is me that is in a foul mood. Since he has been so crabby the last couple of weeks I was expecting him to be agitated and obstinate. I had apprehension about how this call would go. Discussing the expectations of the interview was the goal. And I hoped that we could have a happy conversation as well because I was really needing one. Just finally being at this stage after we have waited and worked so hard for so long. Well, not having the comfort of him and recent jackass behavior ringing in my ears has made this time even more terrible. So I was thinking of how to go about having a more pleasant conversation if at all possible and how I was going to bite my tongue if he remained in his foul state. For two or three days I had to sit with this. And that was made more comfortable only by being able to vent about it to a couple of friends. At the outset he was himself again. He confessed that he is very nervous about the interview and that he feels even more uneasy because the plan changed and I will not be there with him when he goes. We had a marvelous conversation and several times he brought up the last two weeks and apologized profusely. His words were so incredibly sweet he brought me to tears. So we are back to us again. I can finally breathe easier about it all. The interview process will soon be over. And then we are in the final stretch. Link to post Share on other sites
Magpies Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 Island Girl, I haven't been able to get on much but I'm still rooting for you both! I'm glad to hear the air has cleared and this are back to normal! Best of luck on his interview and the move! Time will fly by and next thing you know, he'll be on his way home to you Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 26, 2009 Author Share Posted March 26, 2009 Thank you Magpies! I have been wondering about you! Not online much because you must be enjoying the time that used to be spent on the internet with you SO. We did find out some FANTASTIC news. When he is admitted to the US we will not need to file an Adjustment Of Status application because he will automatically enter as a permanent resident. This is due to the fact that we have already been married for over 2 years and that filing is done just prior to the two year mark. So the cloud does have a silver lining however thin it may be! LOL Thank you again for your well wishes! We'll take all that we can get!! Link to post Share on other sites
Sweet326 Posted March 26, 2009 Share Posted March 26, 2009 Ig, that is such wonderful news!! Does this mean he can stay with you or will he still have to go home and wait and their decision? What a frustrating and confusing process! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 26, 2009 Author Share Posted March 26, 2009 Ig, that is such wonderful news!! Does this mean he can stay with you or will he still have to go home and wait and their decision? That means when he comes he will automatically have a "green card" of permanent residency status which is an every 10 year renewal (the longest possible). There is only one more step that would make it more "permanent" and that is to gain his US Citizenship through Naturalization. What a frustrating and confusing process! I know! I know! And when you are trying to get answers they talk in circles around you at immigration and especially the embassy. That is why I am thankful that at least I had the foresight to hire an attorney! Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 He confessed that he is very nervous about the interview and that he feels even more uneasy because the plan changed and I will not be there with him when he goes. IG, assure him that not only will YOU be with him in the most important way, everybody at LS is going to be with him, too! Seriously. I will be lighting candles and sending angels on March 31 and April 1 -- just to be sure to cover the time difference. And I'm keeping 100% positive thoughts that it will not take even half as long as they've suggested, for everything to be finalized -- we ought to get champagne and cake 'smilies' here at LS cos we're going to have a HUGE celebration before you know it. Hugs and continued good wishes, Ronni (And thanks for redirecting me to this thread, from the other...not sure how I managed to miss this one, yesterday.) Link to post Share on other sites
crimsonrose Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 OMG. After dealing with all of this for 2+ years we are finally almost at the interview. NOW the finalization of all of this is getting OVERWHELMING. We are both stressed out. We are taking it out on each other and it is endless cycle. YUCK! How in the world am I going to get through the next couple of weeks! Ugh! I am so VERY pissed off at him. And he isn't thrilled with me right now either. I wish I was there bouncing coconuts off of his head!! Bonk! Bonk! Bonk! Sheezus. Somebody out there give me clarity and patience!! aw! don't worry honey. I know what it feels like. My fiance and I are constantly discussing which visa to do, who will pay for this and organize that, what if this or that goes wrong, why didn't you think of this or that before... It's high stress stuff. I have this little document on my laptop. It's labeled "Sweet things he does". And in it i put everything sweet hes says to me or does for me, from little things on webcam, to how, when we're together irl, he carries me to bed if I fall asleep on his lap while we watch movies. Ya know? Cools me off right quick, which in turn cools him off. Don't stress about it. Remember even if something screws up, there's ALWAYS an alternative. If it gets denied, you can ask for them to reconsider, and they will. Or you can apply for a different visa. There's endless choices Take a deep breath. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Island Girl Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 aw! don't worry honey. I know what it feels like. My fiance and I are constantly discussing which visa to do, who will pay for this and organize that, what if this or that goes wrong, why didn't you think of this or that before... Thanks. We have no other option of what visa to do. We must apply for a spousal visa. It is the most "permanent" one anyway. So that is better. It is applied for already. We are at the end of the process. I have this little document on my laptop. It's labeled "Sweet things he does". And in it i put everything sweet hes says to me or does for me, from little things on webcam, to how, when we're together irl, he carries me to bed if I fall asleep on his lap while we watch movies. Ya know? Cools me off right quick, which in turn cools him off. I do this too! Except I have handwritten letters and a little notebook where I have jotted down some of those things after some of our conversations. We do not have the luxury of webcams or using the internet to chat. We have to do things the old fashioned way. Don't stress about it. Remember even if something screws up, there's ALWAYS an alternative. If it gets denied, you can ask for them to reconsider, and they will. Or you can apply for a different visa. There's endless choices Take a deep breath. Actually this is it. This is the only alternative. If it gets denied, we can appeal, but that is not ideal and even more difficult than this has been. Immigration to the US is a lot different than it is to go to another country. It is seen as the most difficult process. Usually when immigration pulls all the crap they do people just give up. But we are hopeful. And I believe he will do just fine in the interview. I was asking him questions and he knew the answers to everything - even the answers I don't think I ever told him! lol Link to post Share on other sites
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