Anyone have ANY success stories having a second chance with their ex?

[Not the love ace]

I haven't seen one thread about anyone getting back with their ex. I know its not easy and its pretty rare, but I am SURE some people have successfully gotten back with their ex. I've seen it happen with some friends of mine and relatives.

 

Anyone want to share any success stories? Good or bad. I can't share any since I have never gotten back with any of my exes and probably never will.

 

If any have any stories they would like to share please do.

[playlislay]

Heres one my friend: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t181252/

 

There are plenty more, you just need to fish around. Its so interesting to read up on how two parted lovers become whole again, BUT there are plenty of stories that ARENT successfull, believe me!

 

I have realised that there is no point in holding on, seriously. 1 month ago I would have disagreed but I have come to the realisation that you cannot sit around and wait for them Go NO CONTACT! Trust me! Let them miss you, it will happen. I semi-hassled my ex and on reflection I should have just left him to it. Dont give them the satisfaction of knowing that they can have you at the click of the finger, no matter whose fault it was for the split. You want what you cant have-so to speak!

 

I have now realised what a selfish and uncaring twat of a boyfriend I had and that no matter what happens from here on in, I NEVER want to have him as part of my life ever again-all due to his actions and attitude after the split.

 

Find someone that appreciates who you are and how you are feeling, and NEVER get with a weak man! Theyre no good for you. Take advice from a lady that has spent the last two months pinning after an idiot. HIS LOSS! )

[Sysyphus28]

I don't mean to openly laugh at the possibility of a second chance with someone.

 

Here is my update.

 

I got over my ex. I am still angry sometimes. I resent the mental anguish she put me through. I have learned better coping skills.

 

I am still alive!!!

 

A second chance to get F-ed over again. To feel like crap again.

 

No thank You.

 

I'll make a first chance for someone else.............

[Mustain2234]

You can't expect an accurate answer from this forum. I think the idea is simple -- if you and your ex are back together, you wouldn't find a need to post here anymore. I can't find possibly find out the statistics to back myself up, but I'm guessing this forum, like many that cater to people who need specific problems addressed, have many members with a limited number of posts. After they receive their advice they leave.

 

Also, think of it this way -- unless someone marries the first person they date, the odds (even at its best) would have your success in relationships at 50%. Second chances are rare because everything is stacked against two people staying together, period, let alone breaking up then getting back again.

 

I'll give you two examples in my life of successful second chances. My parents broke up, did other things in their life, and got back together nearly a year and half later. This was well before I was born. The reason my mom dumped my dad was he didn't have his **** together -- was 30 years old living in his parents basement (even though he had a decent paying job) AND had a son from another woman that he didn't know where he was half the time. She just didn't see a future with him. Over a year later she runs into him, he is out of the basement and doing well, including full custody of his son. They get back together and do their business, create me. Still married.

 

Another story, and this one I mentioned before, concerns a girl I know. She has broken up and reconciled with the same guy THREE times. First go around they're dating for a year, break up for two years. Get back together for a short period (maybe five months), break up for a year. Get back together and have been dating for about a year now. All the while both dated other people. Now, tell me what would happen if this girl posted on here about her breakup. Everyone would tear her apart, tell her it'd never happen again, etc. And what's amazing about these two is they're probably going to get married some day. I know that isn't exactly a successful second chance story, but if they're rare then third chances have to be even rarer.

[seductress989]

Hello,

 

I had a second chance with my ex back in 2006. We had amazing chemistry and passion in our relationship but did not share the same religious beliefs.

 

We broke up 3 months after we began dating and 2 weeks later we got back together. I thought it was right so I moved in with him. Eventually we broke up again for the 2nd and final time which hurt even more.

 

I can look back now and say that if you break up a first time and get back together I believe there's a 90% chance you will end it again for good. If I had it to do over, I would have left it alone and stayed broken up with him after the first time. I thought the second time would kill me lol. I suffered so much because I had hope of something that had ALREADY failed once. Just remember : "History Repeats Itself" * Don't learn the hard way like I did........You may get a 2nd chance, but it may not be what you really wanted after all.